DATING TIPS: DECIDE FOR HER

As a man, I feel it’s necessary to take the lead at certain moments.

When a decision is needed to be made, if a man tells the woman “It’s up to you honey, you’re in control,” he’s given up power that was necessary for him to keep and take control of.

My idea of taking the lead can be anything from grabbing her hand and leading her somewhere, to just making a decision for her that she can‘t.

Here are some scenarios of what taking the lead would be, I’ll show you how not then how to handle the situation.

How Not:
Woman – “Honey, I don’t know if I want to have BBQ or seafood tonight.”
Man – “Sweetie, the decision‘s yours. Whatever you want, we’ll do tonight.”

Woman – “I don’t know if I want to go hang out with you tonight or just stay home.”
Man – “It’s perfectly understandable if you don’t want to go out with me tonight, if you decide against it, I’m perfectly fine. Next time you can just give me a call and we’ll go out whenever you want, babe.”

Woman – “Honey, do you think I should wear the blue or red dress tonight, I can‘t decide?”
Man – “You know colors better than me, I really don’t know I can’t tell.”

How To:
Woman – “Honey I don’t know if I want to have BBQ or seafood tonight.”
Man – “I’m in the mood for seafood, let’s go there tonight. Sound good?”

Woman – “I don’t know if I want to go hang out with you tonight or just stay home.”
Man – “Now, what do you thinks more fun, TV or me? Now that you’ve thought about it, staying home’s not even an option right, I’ll be over at 9pm. Be ready on time.”

Woman – “Honey, do you think I should wear the blue or red dress tonight, I can‘t decide?”
Man – “I’d have to go with the red dress. It looks so much cuter on you, now hurry up.”

See the difference?

It means the whole world to a woman if you take control and decide for her when she can’t. I truly believe this is part of a man’s job in a relationship, and if you try it besides saying “Whatever you wish darling” and just say “Yeah, we’re goin’ for seafood tonight,” you’ll relieve yourself of having to say to yourself “Dammit, I wanna have seafood, but I’ll come across as rude if I tell her what I want to do.”

I know we were raised to say that kind of stuff, but it’s another lesson that’s gotta be unlearned.


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DATING TIPS: WHY IT WORKED SO WELL LONG AGO

Men think mainly through reason and logic, women think through emotions and feelings.

We’re different and we’ll just have to deal with the fact that’s they way it is.

Our species has done it for millions of years and we’re still all alive. How did we do it when we’re so different?

Ever hear a guy say….

“Women are impossible” or
“You can’t win with women, there’s no possible way.”

Maybe you’ve even been the guy saying that.

It’s not true, that’s just the unattractive in them (or you) speaking (at least at that time).

Well our ancestors found ways to get around our differences and manage to be extremely close and in love with each other.

DATING TIPS: APPERANCE = 20% SUCCESS

A good-looking guy is only guaranteed about 15-20% success.

His confidence, humor and attitude happen to be mainly the determining factors between getting a smoking hot supermodel or some ugly chick who’s upset she only gets to go home with this guy based on looks with no personality.

Don’t let these metro sexual dudes fool you.

A lot of them aren’t doing too well with the ladies from what I find.

Quite a few of my friends happen to have the metro look and girls approach them all the time, none want to take my advice and they get pissed when I get hotter chicks.

A lot of guys don’t know what they’re doing and spend their time finding ways to look better, when meanwhile they should be smart like everyone who’s reading this manual right now and learn to actually attract girls through a woman‘s natural desires.

DATING TIPS: WHY BEING FUNNY IS SO ATTRACTIVE

I still have trouble with this idea, why do girls always cling to funny guys?

Well I know for sure that humor alone isn’t going to get you too far.

But it seems guys who are funny do great with girls.

What I find is it’s mainly the fact that through laughing, people seem to bond and become closer, also making the girl feel more comfortable around the man where she feels she can be laid back.

Funny also = fun, which is probably the best element to attracting a girl is fun between you two.

This is really important. Yet I also feel it’s needed to be mixed in with cockiness and confidence to create the greatest combination.

DATING TIPS: COCKINESS, NOT ARROGANCE

Ok guys, you’ll need to know the difference between cockiness and arrogance.

A few of my more ignorant friends think arrogance is the answer, but don’t get any girls.

What is that saying?

A lot of girls already have themselves prepared to avoid and pass by all arrogant, mean or conceited guys when they leave the house. Arrogant guys repel women because girls hate assholes.

That’s simple and understandable.

Too many guys just go out and try and be just arrogant and good-looking.

DATING TIPS: COMPLIMENTS

Compliments should be used sparingly and only in a situation where it’s totally necessary.

If she dressed up really nice one night to see you (I mean like big $$$ dress nice), then I would allow it an acceptable situation to compliment her on how lovely she looks.

Over-using compliments is like adding water to a fire in a girl.

She can be really hot for you, but if you keep pouring that water on soon it’ll die out. Keep the fire alive through laughing, teasing, activities you guys are doing or even playing hard to get (I’ll discuss playing hard to get later).

It’s often alright if you can’t absolutely think of another thing to say, to approach a girl by using compliments.

DATING TIPS: DOING MASCULINE JOKES AROUND GIRLS

Being a real guy (or how you act when your alone with guy friends) in front of a girl can often be attractive to her.

It shows you’re being who you are and can be comforting for a girl to put her guard down to know you’re not being fake. This isn’t true for all girls and either way I don’t take it as a red flag.

When hanging out with my guy friends, we usually do manly things like fart on each other and smack each other around and it makes girls laugh like crazy.

A lot of the time guys hold back from this stuff cause they’re afraid girls will get grossed out.

About 50% of girls won‘t mind, so make your own judgment on if you think she‘d mind. Usually if you do it too early, for their first impression, it’s unattractive which is no good.

DATING TIPS: PLAYFUL TEASING THROUGH ACTIONS

Teasing a girl physically works usually just as well as verbally.

Either way you’re portraying the same idea that you’re comfortable around her and willing to tease her a little bit which is good.

Now physical teasing with a girl (for me personally), usually will involve just doing little subtle things that when she realizes that you’re teasing her can be funny for the both of you.

For example, physical teasing could be…

DATING TIPS: PLAYFUL TEASING THROUGH WORDS

This has to do back with what I said about my kindergarten story.

It works, the idea is not to put them down or make them feel bad, but to just point out something or tease a girl about anything and everything (try and avoid physical jokes unless you feel she‘ll be comfortable with it).

Find anything, her purse, shoes, glasses, what she’s doing, how she’s doing it, where she’s going and make a smart or wise ass comment about it sure to make her laugh.

The intention of your playful teasing is not to tease; keep in mind your intention is to attract her and nothing else. Most guys get offset and decide to do this teasing thing all night and it winds up pissing her off.

Tease her when you have a funny or naughty little comment that comes to mind and don’t hold back. I had to re-learn this skill from kindergarten and I‘d say it‘s the best one to have.

DATING TIPS: DO NOT LET HER GET YOU MAD OR UPSET

Letting a girl get you upset just shows that you’re not in control of yourself.

When you can’t control yourself, how could that possibly be attractive in any way? More importantly, how will that benefit you in any way in life?

It won’t.

We are all aware girls can do some pretty bitchy things.

They can lose their temper, yell, scream and my favorite is whine, but I’m never going to lose my cool.

Now of course this is a big red flag saying “Back away, she requires high maintenance and can turn on you at any second.” Once I see this big waving red flag, I’m out.

DATING TIPS: PSYCHE YOURSELF UP

Get yourself excited.

Try and watch a good Pierce Brosnan or Sean Connery, James Bond film.

They play a great role of being attractive.

I try and imagine every morning that I’m like James Bond, women have to earn me. I see myself being smooth, charming, attractive, yet a bit of a wise ass.

To psyche yourself up, you could even go as far as playing some ‘Rocky’ music in the car before going on a date, telling yourself that you’re the champ with girls or something. That’s something I loved to do even though it was corny, it is also fun to laugh about.

Be excited not scared.

DATING TIPS: DO NOT SMOTHER THE GIRL

This means don’t be the pervert who follows her through the malls, shopping centers and school hallways or sits at her lunch table all period and doesn’t say hardly a word but just hopes by being near her.

The same one who calls that night to talk on the phone for hours and get nowhere with her.
Then she turns around to her friends and says he’s a loser.

Yes, you can guess what I did, I smothered her the next day by coming by at around 10am to hang out. We went inside her house and just stayed there and I pretty much killed it.

The moment I began to like her and wanted her more, the more she pulled away and found better things to do. She moved on and we weren’t even friends.

That night I had stopped by, we both wanted each other pretty bad, but through my desperateness for her attraction, it quickly died out.

DATING TIPS: THE KNOWLEDGE FACTOR

Contrary to popular beliefs, attracting beautiful women is a skill you can learn. Most "players" out there get laid not because they are rich and handsome, but because they are skilled in what they do in their past time - picking up women.

They are the people who have been rejected over and over since a young age before they finally learned the skills they need to be good with women. The good news for you, my friend, is that these skills can be learned by anyone. This means anyone, regardless of his looks, wealth, and status, can
become a master at picking up women once they have learned the right skills.

Every skill needs to be learned.

DATING TIPS: THE DETACHMENT FACTOR

A lot of guys make the mistake of focusing on the “end results” rather than the “process” of meeting women. That's why they often get discouraged.

They don't know that it's the PROCESS of doing something that will GET them the results.

For example...let's say you’re a beginner and it takes 10 approaches before 1 woman will go out with you.

Well, most guys would think, "Okay. I'm going to set up a goal and get 10 women to come out with me by the end of the week".

But after asking out 5 women without getting any results, they get discouraged and either lower their goal or forget about the whole thing completely.

DATING TIPS: THE CUMULATIVE FACTOR

Guys are always looking for the one single “magical button” that they can push to seduce “any woman”, “any time”.

I am here to tell you that this is the wrong way of thinking. It is the CUMULATIVE effect of different “buttons” that can give you success with women.

Let me illustrate an example.

If you get a BB gun and shoot BB bullets at a window, you’re not going to break it. But if you melt a hundred BB’s together and then throw it at a window, you are probably going to break it.

Dating is the same.

EVERY action you do will either attract a woman towards you or push her away from you. All your tiny actions may seem very insignificant to you, but when you add them together, they’ll determine the amount of success you have with a woman.

This is why when you’re going after a girl, you should always be hitting her from different angles and directions! Don’t rely on just one thing…throw her everything you’ve got!


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DATING TIPS: THE RESPECT FACTOR

“Respect” is very important when it comes to the dating game. Women are ONLY attracted to guys they RESPECT.

Don't believe me?

You know...it's the same for guys too: We are only attracted to girls we respect.
As men, we can have sex with hot sluts...but we never STAY with them because we don't respect them at all.

So... if a girl tries to have sex with us in order to seduce us because she thinks guys are just after sex, she's going to be in a nasty surprise.

Sure...we may have sex with them or even fall for her in the short run...but over time, we're going to lose respect and eventually dump her because she's just "too easy".

The same applies to dating women.

DATING TIPS: THE POWER FACTOR

It is very important to keep as much power inside you as you can when you’re dating a beautiful woman.

A lot of guys make the mistake of giving away all their power when they meet a hot woman. As a result, they become needy and eventually get dumped by their girlfriends.

I’m here to put the power back in you. I’m here to give you the greatest power a man can have in a relationship: the power to walk away.

When you're needy, a woman KNOWS that she HAS you.

And when a woman knows she has you, it leaves her VERY LITTLE REASON to try to change ANYTHING for the better.

Think about it…

DATING TIPS: THE BULLSHIT

Never take any bullshit from women. You do not deserve it. If a woman gives you any kind of bullshit, either ignore her or walk away, but don’t despond to it.

Whenever a woman misbehaves, you want to respond, not react.

So what's the difference between "responding" and "reacting"?

Well, when you "react" to a situation, you're really letting OTHER people influence you.

Some examples of "reacting" to a woman include:

DATING TIPS: THE STEEL BALLS FACTOR

A successful “Smart Dater” should have steel balls, meaning he should have backbone and NOT let any woman dominate him. Here a couple of “Steel Ball” rules.

1) Do everything on your terms.
2) Be picky about the women you date.
3) Ditch “problem women” quickly. Do not hesitate to walk away from a bad relationship.
4) Let women come into your reality when you date them, not the other way around.
5) Be very demanding of everything in life. Never settle for the second best.
6) Develop immunity to criticism and rejection.
7) Believe in unlimited abundance. There are always more women out there.
8) Be a challenge.

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DATING TIPS: THE SPONTANEITY FACTOR

Women love "spontaneity", as in finding herself in an "accidental romance" that just "happens out of nowhere."

This is the reason why most guys fail in their approaches – because they use standard "pick up lines" that seem too "artificial".

Imagine two guys walking into a bar.

The first one sees a woman he would really love to meet. He prepares for 15 minutes before he finally gathers up the courage to approach her nervously...

"Hi…my name is Dick and I would just like to tell you that…"

DATING TIPS: THE PUSH AND PULL FACTOR

The Dating School of Physics states that the harder you push a woman, the more she will pull away from you. This is why you should never push a girl into doing anything.

For example, if you’ve just broken up with a girl, don’t argue with her and try to push her into getting back with you. The more you push her into getting back with you, the more annoyed she will be until she finally stops talking to you.

Or for example, if you’re trying to ask a girl out but she’s not responding the way you would like her to, don’t keep pushing. If you push too hard, she will never talk to you again.

Learn to attract women to you, not push them away!

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