WHAT IS TONGUE PIERCING DO IN KISSING

With piercings becoming more and more popular today, there are more reasons to get them than just for the look. The sensations of a piercing are one of the biggest reasons to get a piercing today, making the tongue a popular piercing option. Kissing with a piercing can cause different and pleasurable sensations for both people sharing a kiss.

With a piercing you can kiss completely different than others. A number of people will want to kiss you to see what it feels like and to have the experience of playing with the piercing. Because it is different from the norm, they are guaranteed a more fun and interesting kiss than what they are used to.

Piercings can be a turnon because they are slightly naughty and adventurous. Even for people that don’t really like tattoos or piercing, it can still be a turnon because a tongue piercing is usually hidden. When you talk, however, it can be seen slightly, drawing people to your mouth to see if you definitely have a tongue piercing or not. This is a good thing if they are looking at your mouth, because it starts people’s imaginations running into overdrive. While you are talking to them, they start to wonder what it would be like to kiss you with your piercing, and it goes on from there. They start thinking about your lips and kissing them. You already have your chance because you have a piece of metal in your mouth.

WHAT ARE THE DO'S AND DONT'S IN RELATIONSHIP


n Don’t buy roses for Valentine’s Day—
o Do buy flowers that begin with the first letter of her name.
• • •

n Don’t go to the beach on crowded weekends—
o Do go mid-week.
• • •

n Don’t go to popular vacation spots during their busy seasons—
o Do go right before or after the busy season.
• • •

n Don’t turn yourself into a martyr—
o Do make some sacrifices for each other
• • •

n Don’t read the newspaper at the breakfast table—
o Do talk with one another over breakfast.
• • •


n Don’t give him a birthday present—
o Do give him seven gifts, one for each day of his birthday week.
• • •

n Don’t leave lovemaking until just before sleeping—
o Do schedule more time for foreplay.
• • •

n Don’t make love the same way every time—
o Do eliminate distractions for two to three hours.
• • •

• Don’t rush through lovemaking—
• Do slow down! You’ll both enjoy yourselves, and each other, more.
• • •

• Don’t: Negotiate—as if your relationship were a business deal—
• Do: Learn the gentle art of loving compromise.
• • •

• Don’t try to change your partner—
• Do accept him or her for the special, unique person he or she is.
• • •

• Don’t act your age—
• Do wacky things; express your quirkiness;
be creative.


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THE HISTORY OF KISSING

Kissing has been around for many thousands of years, and it is thought that it originated in India because of stone carvings discovered with people kissing. However, this is only one of the theories that arise today. No matter where it originated from, it is seen almost everywhere you look today. With so many different cultures in the world today, it is interesting to see how some view kissing.
It is thought that France was the first country to discover kissing. They called it the “soul kiss,” obviously because it comes from the soul, but it was later called the ”French kiss” by other countries. It is still known as French kissing today but has also taken on a number of other names like “pashing,” “snogging,” “tonsil hockey,” “tongue dancing” and much more.

In Paris, four kisses are given to greet close family and friends starting from the left and going to the right. It is thought that Paris was the first place to discover kissing.

Most other countries in Europe give two kisses to greet people and two kisses to say good-bye.
In Rome many years ago, the husbands came home from work and gave their wives a kiss to see whether they had been drinking alcohol all day. It was the only way for them to tell! They didn’t think it was fair if they had been working all day and they knew their wives wouldn’t have been doing anything if they were drunk. The husbands also wanted to make sure their wives weren’t spending their hard-earned money on alcohol.

WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP STYLE FOR WOMEN

Okay ladies, it’s your turn. What’s your romantic style? (Guys: What is your gal’s romantic style?)

• The Scarlett O’Hara Type: Feisty and dramatic
• The Meg Ryan Type: The girl next door, sweet and adorable
• The Juliet Type: Passionate and impetuous
• The Jane Eyre Type: Romantic and idealistic
• The Marilyn Monroe Type: Sultry and seductive
• The Billie Holiday Type: Artistic and loyal to a fault
• The Jane Seymour Type: Classic and elegant
• The Elizabeth Barrett Browning Type: Poetic and artistic
• The Cher Type: Exotic and creative
• The Mae West Type: Sassy and bold
• The Ingrid Bergman Type: Smooth and intriguing
• The Madonna Type: Bold and fun
• The Greta Garbo Type: Sensual and enigmatic


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WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT KISSING

I don’t know whether or not scientists are running out of things to study, but, just like everything else in this world, there is a group of people who have decided to study the art of kissing. Here are some fascinating kissing facts.

1 minute of kissing burns 26 calories. Burning calories while kissing … that’s best way I’ve heard of to exercise!

Kissing with eyes closed. It has been proven that in this situation the kiss isn’t coming from the heart and there are other intentions behind the kiss. They intend to get a bit more than some lip action or they are thinking about something completely non-related. Don’t keep your eyes open the whole time to check if your partner’s eyes are open. A quick peek will suffice; otherwise, you will not enjoy the kiss yourself.

10 million to 1 billion groups of bacteria are swapped every time you share a kiss with someone. Not to worry, though, as saliva contains antibacterial chemicals that kill off the bacteria, so don’t stress out too much before you kiss someone!

WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP STYLE FOR MEN

Which person or character most closely matches your or your lover’s style of romance? Identifying the similarities and differences can help you become more aware of your own strengths and weaknesses, and can help you express love in ways that your partner appreciates most.

• The Romeo Type: Passionate and impetuous
• The Fred Astaire Type: Sophisticated and elegant
• The Humphrey Bogart Type: Tough guy with a heart of gold
• The Jimmy Stewart Type: The boy next door
• The James Bond Type: The playboy heartbreaker
• The Indiana Jones Type: Adventurous and charmingly bumbling
• The Rhett Butler Type: Arrogant but charming
• The Don Quixote Type: Irrepressible and outrageous
• The Don Juan Type: Seductive and charming
• The Cyrano de Bergerac Type: Witty and literary
• The Paul Newman Type: Rugged and quiet
• The James Dean Type: The rebel and bad boy
• The Sean Connery Type: Dashing and experienced
• The Vincent van Gogh Type: Artistic and moody
• The Lord Byron Type: Poet and dreamer
• The Frank Sinatra Type: Tough but suave
• The James T. Kirk Type: The adventurous seducer
• The Clark Gable Type: Smooth and smart



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WHAT ARE THE EMOTIONAL SIDE OF KISSING

A kiss can mean so much to someone. It is a gesture that can mean more than words and leave people with mixed feelings: confused, happy, excited, turned on, mad, or awkward. Sadly, sometimes a kiss can’t just be a kiss and left at that. Sometimes after you have kissed someone, you may think it would have been easier not to kiss them than to deal with everything affected by the kiss.

A kiss can take your relationship to the next level, whether you were only friends to begin with or had entered into a relationship together. If you were only friends to begin with and you shared a kiss, you will need to talk about the fact that you may have feelings for each other and maybe you want to be more than friends. If you kiss someone you don’t have feelings for, then you will need to let them know so they don’t expect any more from you.

When you just start a relationship with someone and haven’t kissed them yet, the first kiss takes you both to the next level. It confirms your feelings for each other and confirms your relationship. In a way, it is a huge weight off your shoulders once you have your first kiss in a relationship. You can finally feel comfortable with each other because there is no pressure on anyone to make the first move.

FIRST TIME IN A RELATIONSHIP WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW

1. Practice “Even-Day/Odd- Day” Romance: On even days it’s your turn to be romantic, and on odd
days it’s your partner’s turn.
2. No time—or too lazy—to wrap those gifts? Buy fancy bags and pre-decorated boxes for gift-wrapping presents.
3. Ask her best girlfriend—or her mother—for help. Ask her to go shopping with you (secretly!). Tell her you want to spend one afternoon shopping for a year’s worth of gifts for your partner. Establish a
budget, let her think about it for a week, then go shopping together.
4. Place a standing order with a local florist. Give him your anniversary date, her birth date, and instruct him to send flowers automatically on those dates. Also on Valentine’s Day, and (if it’s appropriate) on Mother’s Day, and—just to be safe—have him send a bouquet once a month. Give the florist your charge card number and have him bill you automatically.

This technique is for the forever-forgetful and the terminally unorganized! I know that the true
romantics out there will be aghast at this suggestion, but hey, sometimes the end justifies the means.



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HOW TO HAVE SPONTANEITY IN KISSING

Steal your partner away for a quick second whether you are at a party or out in public. Take them by the hand and pull them to a secluded private area, then give them a big kiss. Pull away and drag them back inside. This will give them such a rush, wanting more but knowing they can’t get it right now. You are in control of the situation, and there is nothing your partner can do about it. It can be quite a turn on to have no control over a situation. Then, when you finally are alone, you will be able to kiss away, and the sparks that started earlier won’t be lost.

The trick here is to be totally discreet and don’t let anyone know what you are up to. Part of the excitement is the spontaneity and the anticipation of what will come later. You will be the only two in the room that will know about it. Don’t pull them away, though, if it is totally obvious to everyone what you are doing. That will spoil the fun. If you can’t pull them away, mention that you really need to talk to them in private, or even whisper that you would like to kiss them but for obvious reasons you can’t. It will stay on their mind all night.

When your partner gives you a quick peck in the morning when they are running late for work, pull them back in and give them an unexpected proper kiss. Don’t be too long, though; remember they are in a rush. Once you have given them a proper kiss, say goodbye and carry on like nothing happened. This will leave them with a smile on their face thinking about it all day. Don’t do this too often, though, because they will come to expect it and it won’t be as much of a surprise anymore.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT RELATIONSHIP


  • How is more important than why. 
  • Gender stereotyping blinds you to your partner’s uniqueness. 
  • The speed of love is 1.7 mph. 
  • Everybody wants an A+ Relationship. 
  • Love has no reason. It never needs to be explained or defended. 
  • “Good chemistry” has nothing to do with compatibility. 
  • You can’t keep the infatuation—but you can keep the passion. 
  • The process must be respected. (There ain’t no shortcuts.) 
  • Everyone is an amateur when it comes to matters of the heart. 
  • The metaphors of love you use create your reality. 
  • Romantics are happier than most people. 
  • “Communication” is, maybe, 10 percent of an A+ Relationship. Creating a loving long-term relationship is the most difficult, time-consuming, and complicated challenge you will face in your entire life. Also the most rewarding. 
  • The passion is more important than the happy ending. Life is too short not to be romantic.



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WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN

Everything I am about to let you in on refers to the average woman and the average man. “Average” meaning most but not necessarily all, because everyone is different and raised differently, therefore having different morals, different feelings and emotions.

But just like everything in life, men and women have different feelings and thoughts towards kissing. Again, women tend to think of kissing on a more intimate and emotional level and men on a more physical level.

Men are better at dividing emotions and feelings from physical activities, whereas women see it as a big picture. When men think of a kiss, they think of it as two lips (and a bit more) joined together. They think about the person they are kissing and how hot or not they are. Also, they may tend to think about what this kiss may lead to physically. On the other hand, when a woman shares a kiss with a man, she will be thinking about how this will be affecting their relationship with this man and how much she has wanted him to kiss him, what he thinks of her kissing technique, and so on. The thought of sex probably hasn’t even crossed her mind at this point, with the exception that she was planning on having sex with this man before the kiss.

TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR LOVING COUPLES

1. Thou shalt give 100 percent.
2. Thou shalt treat your partner as the unique individual he or she truly is.
3. Thou shalt stay connected through word and deed.
4. Thou shalt accept change and support growth in yourself and your mate.
5. Thou shalt live your love.
6. Thou shalt share: the love and fear, the work and play.
7. Thou shalt listen, listen, listen.
8. Thou shalt honor the subtle wisdom of the heart and listen to the powerful insights of the mind.
9. Thou shalt not be a jerk or a nag.
10. Thou shalt integrate the purity of spiritual love with the passion of physical love and the power of emotional love.


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HOW TO KNOW THE SETTING IN KISSING

The setting of a kiss can determine how special the moment you share is. A kiss is more than the joining of your lips. It is an emotional experience that goes far beyond the physical act of kissing someone. It is an affirmation of attraction, perhaps even love, and the setting is just as important as the act.

In this respect, you have two choices: you can either create a setting or atmosphere by adding touches such as candles, light music, mood lighting and even a bottle of wine. Or you can take advantage of a moment and a beautiful natural setting to make the first move. You are limited only by your imagination and the amount of effort you are prepared to put in.

If you choose to create the atmosphere with candles and wine, be careful not to overdo it. It can be so easy to get caught up in the details that you take the shine off what should be a simple and intimate moment. In saying that, the moment doesn’t have to be completely spontaneous. The effort you put in can be seen as a really romantic gesture that is both thoughtful and special.

WHAT MEN SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WOMEN

Being a woman

1 If only I were a woman …
Imagine that we are in a crappy Hollywood movie. The next morning, you wake up, stand in front of the mirror and … Oops! You see the best tits, the best ass and the cutest face that you have ever seen — like you became a bikini model or something. Put that cucumber down — we’ll have plenty of time to play later … A lifetime actually! You will soon stop thinking like a man and learn to think like a woman.

There are some messages waiting for you on the answering machine, so check them. “Hey, Jude, it’s me, Rob, from Club Maracuya. Remember, we met yesterday. I thought … errrrr … if it wouldn’t really be a problem for you … that we could actually … errrrr … meet? This is my number. Please call me back! Will ya?” How cute. Here comes the next one: “Hi, honey, it’s Jack. What’s up with you, sugar-pants? You were so rude yesterday … I had to get your number from your friend — you don’t mind, do you? Call me back, sweetheart! Bye!” The third message: “Hey, Jude, it’s John speaking. It was nice hanging with you yesterday; too bad you had to leave to feed your dog. Hope we’ll meet again. I’ll call you back later. Ciao!” And this goes on for 10 or even more messages. You get bored pretty quickly. They’re cute guys, but you can’t date all of them, right? Right.


Fast-forward to the mall, where we do some shopping and spend “a few” dollars on the trendiest clothes and cosmetics. Then we visit the hairstylist, have our nails done and arrive home at 7 p.m. Let’s get ready to party! You invite your girlfriends over. Time to choose what you will wear … “But wait, don’t I look fat in these jeans? Oh, man, maybe I shouldn’t have eaten that burger for lunch today … Oh, I’m soooo fat …” (crying). “No, sweetie, your butt is nice,” your girlfriends respond. So finally you leave the house and go to your favorite club. Of course, you don’t go on foot, because Jack, who is a really good FRIEND, is already waiting for you in his brand-new car. He is such a nice guy. You really like him as a FRIEND. So we arrive at the club, and Jack invites you for a drink. How sweet of him …

You’re standing next to the bar. The fifth guy tonight is coming over to say, “Can I buy you a drink?” You accepted the first two offers, then quickly brushed off the rest. It’s still early, and this is the fifth guy, for God’s sake! How can they be so stupid as to think that spending a few dollars on drinks will increase their chances? You’re already tired … tired of these guys … Some of them are rich. Some of them are good-looking. But they’re all coming up with the same lame shit! After all, you see through them. You sense that they aren’t for real … But where is a real man? Among those guys who keep touching your ass when you cross the dance floor? Or those who stand around you and your girlfriends in a circle and jump up and down like little boys waiting for their chance? Not likely …

A few drinks later, you start to feel better. Here’s the 10th guy who’s invited you for a drink today; your butt must not be that bad, right? So here comes the 11th … Oh, hi! Wow … Look at those bulging muscles … You would feel soooo safe with him at your side. Let’s just talk a bit … Wait! What is he doing? No, no kissing … Yes, that’s good! He’s a good kisser … No, we’re not having sex! Wait … The condom! Oh … This feels good … Yes … Do it again! Next morning, you wake up with a headache. The guy quickly throws you out with a lame excuse. What an asshole! Stupid player … You were tricked into this … It’s only because you were drunk … And your stupid girlfriends didn’t protect you! What will they think about you after this? You’re not a slut! You were just swept away by this guy … It all happened so fast! Fuck, what an asshole … You still can’t believe he threw you out like that! Wait, what happens in two months when your period doesn’t arrive … and you get the results of your pregnancy test … So, would you still like to be a hot woman? With all these responsibilities and guys hitting on you night and day? Doesn’t it get boring after a while?

Maybe you should have chosen to be a little less hot … Then you could eat cookies in bed and cry all day because of the size of your ass … and get no guys at all! So your homework is to think a bit. Try to think with the head of a hot girl. Your goal is to find the ideal guy. That’s what every woman wants. But it’s hard! You have a bunch of losers hitting on you all day in the clubs, caf├ęs, at school — even on the street. You could have sex with all of them, but for what? All of these guys are the same, and you’re bored with them. Where is a real man? Just wait a little bit, girl … He’s coming soon!

2 What a girl wants, what a girl needs
Welcome back to reality. I hope I made you think a bit in the previous chapter. No more
cheesy Hollywood films for the rest of the book, I promise! Just as men have many traits in common (we like nice tits, asses, cute faces and big cars — or at least, most of us do), it’s the same with women. Even if they seem so different at times, they have many similarities in the way they think and especially in what they’re looking for in a man. I would like to give you an exercise. I know, I know … You hate those, but I promise you’ll enjoy this one.

Call up one of your friend girls, a girl you’re not dating and would consider to be a friend.
You might have wanted to lay her before, or vice versa, but it doesn’t matter now. Following
is a list. Read it to her as if you’re describing her character. I guarantee that she’ll be
surprised. If you did this to a random girl you didn’t even know, she she would be like, “Wow,
how do you know all this about me? Are you psychic or something?”


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WHAT ARE THE MOST EXCITING AND ROMANTIC KISSES

When it comes to a romantic and exciting kiss, it isn’t just about the kiss itself, but about how your bodies are entwined with each other. It is more about the whole picture than just the lips. Embracing the other person can transport your excitement to them so they feel the excitement right from the beginning as well.

Find some quality time where there is nowhere you need to be, nothing you need to do so you can’t be interrupted, and have some great makeout time. This is awesome, because sometimes people tend to get too busy to remember how fun kissing is. Shed your inhibitions and make out like kids. Experiment with your kissing techniques. Don’t tell your partner you plan to do this, though. Spontaneity is both romantic and exciting. Planned is boring.

When your partner does something they really don’t like doing, like the cleaning or cooking, let your partner know they did a good job and that you appreciate it. Give them a big kiss afterwards as a reward. It shows that you have noticed and appreciate it. It won’t seem as bad now, and they may feel better about doing things if they know you notice.

LOVE IS BEHIND ALL LIFE

If evil were behind life, this would be a sad world, indeed. As bad as it can get here, there are probably few people that feel that evil is what is behind this world. Certainly few want evil to be behind this world, and that’s a good sign. Something in us wants and gravitates toward goodness, not evil. Negativity tugs at us and even grabs hold of us at times, but something else continually pulls us toward the opposite, toward love.

Just as darkness is the absence of light, evil is the absence of love. Evil isn’t a reality itself but the result of the absence of contact with Reality, with what is true—love. Evil is the result of being divorced from our true nature, being very, very divorced, so divorced that someone might not even believe in love because he or she has so much fear and so much difficulty feeling love. Such deep separation is a frightening and lost place.


The spectrum of life is a spectrum of love: On one end is pure love and the experience of oneness
with all life, and on the other end is the absence of love and the experience of complete separation and fear. What exists in the absence of love is fear, and fear can produce hateful acts.

Those who are lost in the deepest separation need our love and compassion; and yet, they are the
ones who are most difficult to love. Nevertheless, no one is ever irretrievable. All eventually return to love.

This journey on earth, which takes many, many lifetimes, is a return to love and a rediscovery of our
oneness with all, in fact, of our true nature as Oneness. The journey is a beautiful one because it
ends in love. It takes us away from separation and returns us to unity. This is surely evidence that love is behind all Life. We evolve from feeling very separate to realizing our oneness with all life. What a wonderful discovery and ending to this adventure called life. Life is good.

How do I know this? You don’t have to take my word for it. Many, many have gone before us, and
this is what they report and have reported. These individuals are the ones we revere as saints, spiritual
masters, avatars, and founders of our religions. We revere them because we want the peace, love, and
wisdom that they embody. We want peace, love, and wisdom because these are what bring meaning and joy to life. Why?

Because peace, love, and wisdom are what is behind life. We don’t revere murderers and rapists or those who torture, maim, and steal from others. Why? Because we know what’s true and good when we see it. We just know it. All societies value love. Love not only helps us survive by making it possible to cooperate with others, but love feels good; it just feels right. We know the rightness of love, and that is why we can trust life. Life is all about love.



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WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENT WAYS TO HOLD THEM WHEN KISSING

1. Reach up and hold them from behind their head. You can also caress their hair. This gives you a bit more control.

Tip: It always feels great when someone runs their fingers through your hair. It stimulates the follicles and nerve endings.

2. If the other person has their hands down at their sides. glide your hands into theirs. Now your bodies are intertwined, not just your mouths.

Tip: You may want to rub their hands. This has a calming effect.

3. Slip your hand around the back their neck under their hair preferably. Sometimes necks can get quite sore when you are kissing ,so it could be quite soothing.

Tip: If they have long thick hair, you might just want to go over the top. You don’t want to get your hands tangled and ruin the moment.

LOVE IS RECOGNIZING THE DIVINE SELF

Love flows when we recognize our own divine Self in another. It flows when we are able to see beyond (or behind) the egoic mask to the real Self, which is exquisitely lovable and which evokes love. All the qualities we love in another are qualities of the divine Self, of Essence: compassion, understanding, wisdom, kindness, love, patience, and inner strength.

These are not qualities of the ego, which is innately self-centered and focused on its needs.
Where are the wisdom, compassion, and love in that? Is it any wonder that when we are identified
with the ego, we don’t feel very lovable? The ego is not very lovable, but our true nature, or Essence, is; and when we are aligned with Essence, even our ego and the egos of others are experienced as lovable.


The ego doesn’t know how to love, but the Divine in us—Essence—does. Essence loves. It’s also
wise, understanding, kind, compassionate, sensitive, patient, and caring. Anything you would want a lover or another human being to be comes from Essence, not from the ego.

The love that the ego has to offer is tainted by self-interest. “What’s in it for me?” lingers in the
background of every interaction between those who are aligned with their egos. This is not love, but
manipulation disguised as love or kindness. It may be better than undisguised manipulation, but it’s still not love in its purest sense. The ego and love can’t inhabit the same space. One must go.
Pure love can only come from Essence, which is unadulterated goodness. Essence loves because it
feels good to love and for no other reason. Essence loves because it is its nature to love; we love because it is our nature to love.


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WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENT PARTS OF THE BODY TO KISS

1. Just below the ear where you can feel where the jaw bone meets the neck.

Tip: Most people will like this, but ticklish people won’t. If they pull away the first time, don’t try again.

2. Kiss the ear. Trace the ear slowly with your tongue and finish off by nibbling the ear lobe.

Tip: A little bit of heavy breathing or soft blowing can get people excited.

3. Trace their lips with your tongue. Do it slowly and very softly so they can just feel it. It will make them want more.

Tip: Don’t be too slobbery, as it may turn from sexy to uncomfortable.

LOVE IS BEING IN ESSENCE

Our true nature, Essence, is love. To be in Essence is to be in love. If love is what you want (do you?), then being in Essence and staying there is how to have it.

The problem is that we have other agendas—other desires—when we are in relationship. Sometimes we want to be right more than we want to experience love. Sometimes we want to be separate and avoid being vulnerable more than we want to experience love. And sometimes we want what we want more than we want love.

It’s important to realize that there are reasons why we don’t choose love as often as we could.

There’s a payoff for the ego in not choosing love, and it’s good to be aware of what you are trading
love for. When we are identified with the ego, other things seem more important than love, because they are more important to the ego than love. That’s the catch. The ego doesn’t choose love.


So what are you to do if you are identified with the ego, but you know Essence enough to want that?
That’s the situation so many of us find ourselves in.

Very few of us live from Essence most of the time.

There’s an answer, though. When you do choose love, that’s Essence choosing love. Essence is able to reach into the egoic state of consciousness and draw us to itself, but we have to be willing to pay attention to Essence instead of the egoic mind (the voice in our head). Essence won’t shout at you like the egoic mind does. It won’t try to convince you, scare you, or bully you to come to it, like the egoic mind does. Essence whispers softly in each moment. It entices you with feelings of love, joy, peace, contentment, and happiness that seep into the egoic state of consciousness. When you pay attention to these feelings, you are paying attention to Essence, and doing that drops you into Essence.

The way out of the egoic state of consciousness and into Essence is not a hard road after all. All it
takes is paying attention to the love, joy, peace, contentment, compassion, wisdom, and happiness
that are already here in this moment. Can you feel them—any of them—even just a little? That is your doorway into Essence. Even a sliver of love or peace or joy can take you there. Pay attention to that sliver—notice it—and then that will become your experience of the moment instead of your thoughts. Instead of noticing your thoughts, notice these subtle feelings and qualities that belong to Essence, and you are there! Making this choice isn’t difficult or unpleasant, but it is a choice.

This is also the answer to finding love in relationship: Notice the love that’s there and not the
other person’s persona, words, or actions. This person in front of you is playing a part. Let that part
be played, recognize it as a part, and enjoy it. It’s all play—lila, as the Hindu mystics say: God playing with God in many forms. What fun! Essence enjoys the characters that we are. It accepts them and revels in their quirkiness and uniqueness. It has compassion for their pain and the suffering they bring to themselves and to others. It accepts this pain as part of life too.

Essence accepts whatever your partner is doing or saying because Essence knows that it’s not the
whole truth of him or her. Essence sees the truth about the other, and it loves the other because the
other is itself. To Essence, it’s clear that the other is no different from itself. It feels and sees the
sameness. It knows only Oneness. It can’t be fooled by words, behavior, and looks. Appearances can’t totally hide the truth. Look into your beloved’s eyes and see.

This is the experience you have to look forward to when you choose Essence over the ego, love over
being right or superior, acceptance over judgment, kindness over criticism, and unity over being
separate and safe. These are your choices, which can only be made by you. Happiness and love depend on them, but happiness and love can wait. Essence is patient, and it will wait as long as it has to for you to choose it over the ego.

It’s time to choose Essence, to choose love. You choose Essence not just for your own happiness or
for a happy relationship, but also for peace, love, and happiness for all—for the rest of you in your many guises. You are here to find love, not just for yourself, but also for the divine Self, which has been hiding love from you in this world of form just so that you could have the pleasure and amazement of discovering it in the simple quiet of this moment— and in your beloved’s eyes.

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HOW TO MAKE KISSING FUN

M&Ms aren’t just for a yummy treat: they can be used for a kissing game! When you are kissing your partner, pop an M&M into your mouth and pass it around each other trying to get it. Keep playing till M&M melts. To be a little tricky, you could try it with 3 or 4 M&Ms at the same time.

Try kissing with different amounts of pressure. Start off with slow, soft kisses and move into something with slightly more pressure. Kisses with slightly more pressure can be more intimate and sexy. But don’t apply to much pressure, as you don’t want to smother them to death.

Leave notes around for them when your partner gets home from work, like on the door, telling them to go to the fridge where there will be another note. In the end, all the sticky notes will lead to you, and you can give your partner an awesome welcome-home kiss. This is especially great if your partner has had a bad day. It will make them forget all their problems and cheer them up completely. It could also set the scene for a fun night…

LOVE IS A CHOICE

We tend to think of love as an uncontrollable feeling that comes over us. Although this overwhelming
feeling does happen, real love and love that is sustained is always a choice: You choose to be open
to someone, you choose to accept them, and that openness and acceptance allows love to flow. This
process is often unconscious, so we often don’t realize we are choosing to accept someone when it’s
happening. But that choice to accept someone is what precedes love. It happens unconsciously all the
time, and it can happen more consciously too.



When acceptance and love happen unconsciously, it’s often because someone fits our ideas, desires, and conditioning. We find that person pleasing because we identify with him or her in some way, probably because we see qualities similar to ours, or perhaps because we see a quality we admire
and would like to develop. When our acceptance doesn’t happen automatically and unconsciously, we can simply choose to accept someone because he or she is different or unusual in some way.

You can learn to welcome and embrace differences rather than reject them, as the ego does.
When you do that, you open up a new world of possibilities in relationship with people you never
thought you could love. You still might not choose to have relationships with them, but you don’t have to miss out on the experience of love by rejecting them just because they’re different from you or because they don’t match your conditioning in some other way.

It’s useful to notice how much we withhold love from others because they are different. Once you
become more conscious of this tendency, you are free to make another choice—to choose to celebrate
differences rather than reject them—and that choice opens your heart and your life up to new
possibilities.


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WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENT KINDS OF KISSES

When you are kissing, you don’t have to stick with the traditional kiss. Kissing should be an expression of your attraction to your partner, and that doesn’t have to stick to rules or a formula. It should be as spontaneous and varied as you want it to be. Have a little fun experimenting with different techniques of kissing. Maybe it isn’t appropriate for the first couple of times that you kiss a person, as it might scare them a little and they may start to think you are a bit kinky. But a little later on, it adds variety and surprise to your kisses, leaving your partner wanting more … and more often. Don’t try anything that is so complicated that your partner doesn’t quite know what you are doing or it will just turn into a big mess. Also, when you try to go in to give a different kiss, then your partner may just try to do a normal kiss.

LOVE IS ACCEPTANCE

Some people are easier to love than others, and they are the ones, therefore, who experience a lot of love. They experience it both within themselves and coming to them from others. What is their secret? Amazing good looks? No. Stunning personalities? No. Money and power? No. Their secret is none of the things we assume will make us more lovable.

Their secret is that they love, and by that I mean, they accept others the way they are. Isn’t that when
you feel loved—when you feel accepted rather than judged?

Acceptance is the opposite of judgment and the antidote to judgment, and acceptance brings us the
experience of love. What is the experience of love? It is the experience of accepting and being accepted, the experience of relaxation, of being able to just be, without struggling and striving to be any different than we are or requiring that others be different than however they are. That is what we all want—to just be able to relax and be okay just the way we are and to be okay with others just the way they are.


When someone gives us this gift of acceptance, we love them. What a gift! It is a gift you would
never reject and hopefully one you will return, because returning it—giving others this gift—brings
you the experience of love. Loving and accepting others feels good. It is its own reward. It isn’t even
necessary for others to love and accept you in return because it’s enough to just feel love and acceptance for others.

The ego loves, or tries to love, in order to get love or something else it wants. But this kind of love
isn’t really love. It’s more like being nice, and it may not entail acceptance at all but something more like tolerance for the purpose of getting something. This is a very different experience than love. Tolerating people is better than not tolerating them, but it’s not the same as enjoying them, which can only come from true acceptance.

You accept others because you appreciate the unique expression of life that they are. What amazing things these human forms are! And all the different personalities! When we can just let people
be the way they are, it is such a relief—for us and for them. Allowing people to just be is loving them, and this appreciation and allowing flows from our true nature, or Essence, which is love. Accepting and loving is how Essence feels toward life and every one of its creations.

What makes someone lovable? Certainly their acceptance of us makes them lovable. But what also
makes them lovable is their acceptance of themselves. People who accept themselves, who are
gentle and kind to themselves, are also gentle and kind to others. We see these qualities in them, and
we relax. And when we relax, we become aligned with our true nature.

People who love and accept themselves are lovable because they reflect Essence, and that’s what
we all really want—not someone to do our every bidding and match our every fantasy. What we really want is to be with someone who knows how to love because our deepest desire is to love. Therefore, we are drawn to those who know how to love. They are our teachers—the way-showers in this world. And this is our destiny as well—to be a place of refuge, where egos dissolve and all that is left is the love that we are.


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WHEN KISSING IS NOT APPROPRIATE

Before you go ahead and kiss someone, you have to ask yourself: is it an appropriate situation to kiss this person and is the timing appropriate?

If you don’t think about this, you may lack sensitivity towards the person you are trying to kiss and may be left with a red face or with the chance of rejection, embarrassment, ruined friendships and hurt feelings.

Just because you have feelings for someone doesn’t mean they have to feel the same way back. You can’t just kiss someone because you want to, especially if they have already let you know they just want to remain friends. It may ruin your friendship because they’ll feel you don’t respect them. They may feel awkward around you because they’ll wonder if you will do it again. If someone has told you they just want to be friends, they are setting boundaries. If you want to maintain that friendship, you will need to respect those boundaries. It may also make other friends feel uncomfortable around you if they think you might try to kiss them, too.

Never kiss someone if they are in a relationship with someone else. Not only is this highly inappropriate, but there is a sure chance you will get rejected by them, which will only end up bruising your ego, confidence and reputation. You might also get a punch in the face by their partner. It’s not really worth the risk.

LOVE TRANSCENDS APPEARANCES

Appearances seem so important. Most of us believe that our appearance is very important, and we work very hard at looking a certain way. This is especially true for women, of course, and this conditioning is very difficult to overcome because there's a lot of fear that not looking good will have drastic consequences. For many people, appearance is a top priority and often remains that way right up until death. My mother, for instance, insisted on “putting on her face” even on her deathbed after her body had been diminished to skin and bones by cancer. Even then, she was still trying to improve herself, still not seeing the beauty that she was as this old dying woman, still not allowing herself to just be as she was.

Our appearance does affect how others initially react to us. However, it's not as important as we
make it. We suffer over it and try so hard to look other than the way we do. All of this trying is
exhausting and takes time and energy away from things that are more fulfilling and important in life.


That's the problem—when we are consumed with our appearance, we aren't giving our attention and
energy to other things that might be more meaningful, fulfilling, and rewarding. We might not
discover that cultivating kindness is more rewarding than cultivating beauty. We might fail to notice the beauty that is here, within ourselves and others, just as we are.

Inner beauty and outer beauty can be at odds, since there is only so much attention and energy we
have. Where your energy and attention go reflects what you value. Do you value outer beauty more
than inner beauty? You might say you don't, but where are you putting your energy and attention?
What are your thoughts on?

The funny thing is that others love us for our inner beauty, for the unique expression of Essence
that we are, although they may be attracted to us by our outer beauty. However, that allure doesn't mean much if they don't also fall in love with us. What people fall in love with isn't our outer beauty (that's attraction or infatuation, not love), but something much more subtle—our being. They love us because they see lovable qualities that belong to Essence: goodness, creativity, kindness, joy for life, patience, compassion, courage, wisdom, strength, clarity, and so on.

The beauty of getting old with someone is the opportunity it presents to really get that appearances
don't matter. You watch as your beloved changes before your eyes into an old man or old woman, but
you may love him or her more than ever, not because of how he or she looks, but because you love your beloved's being—you love how he or she is in the world and with you. That's when you really get that all this emphasis on appearances is false.

Appearances never were that important. You only thought they were. Just because most people believe that appearances are important doesn't make it so. People are under the illusion that appearances are far more important than they are, which does create that reality to some extent—it makes this seem true. This illusion results in a culture that's sadly misled into putting too much
energy and attention on such things. This cultural illusion makes it more difficult to discover the
truth—that appearances aren't that important. But life is wise and ages us so that we can discover the
truth. It is perhaps one of the greatest lessons of our lives, although it may take a lifetime to learn it.

If we realize that appearances aren't that important, then aging can be experienced as fortunate, as it gives us the gift of finally getting to relax and stop striving to improve ourselves. We finally get to put our attention on what's important— on loving others (and ourselves) just the way we are.

This is the greatest gift we can give others and ourselves, and the most important thing we can do
in life.


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GOOD RESPONSES IN KISSING

1. You pull away, and they look shocked and have a blank look on their face.

Tip: This is a natural reaction for most people. More than likely, they will be happy, because if they were angry or uncomfortable they would have that look on their face straight away.

2. They kiss you back then pull away, but are still holding or touching you.

Tip: They like you, too, and they want this kiss to happen, but maybe they are confused about the situation. Is there a reason why they shouldn’t be kissing you? eg. a partner.

3. They get embarrassed and turn their head away when you try to kiss them, but they don’t move away from you.

Tip: By not moving away from you, they do want to kiss you and feel comfortable around you. Just like anyone in their situation, they obviously feel a little nervous of the kiss. Take control of the situation. Be calm; this will also help them be calm.

LOVE IS GENTLE

I was listening to a song the other day, and some of the words were “Love is gentle, and love is kind.” The truth of that really touched me. We think of love as being a feeling—an emotion—but true love is more of a being and a doing, a giving, an outpouring. Love touches, love offers itself, love is
gentle, and it is kind. That's how we know it. We know love by its fruits. Love gives: It listens, it
caresses, it nourishes, it nurtures. It does whatever is needed of it. Love naturally responds to life as life presents itself.

Romantic love isn't like this at all. Romantic love is a giddy feeling, an excitement, an anticipation of
getting something from someone. It makes us feel like a kid at Christmas—“Yippee! I'm going to get
what a want!” Romance is exciting, fun, and feels wonderful, but it's not really love. It's too self centered for that. When we are in love, we are often oblivious of the needs of others, as we have only the beloved on our mind. We become fascinated and obsessed with the beloved to the exclusion of
everything else. We love the beloved, not for what he or she is, but for what we think that person might mean to us and to our life. We are excited because the beloved is believed to enhance us.
The feelings of romantic love are created by an illusion (i.e., psychological projection) and by the
release of certain chemicals in the brain. Romantic feelings are a very different kind of love than true
love; they are a falling in love with what we hope will be our salvation and happiness forever. That kind of love never lasts and often disappears upon getting to know someone better. If we are lucky, it turns into something truer, more real, more akin to our true nature.


It is our nature to love, to be gentle, to be kind.
When all thoughts from the egoic mind (the voice in your head) drop away or aren't given attention, love is our natural response to life. The only thing that ever interferes with love is a thought, usually a
judgment or fear. These are the enemies of true love. They undermine it and eat away at it, or prevent it altogether. Love cannot exist in the ego's world of judgment and fear. And yet we, as humans, need and want love so desperately. Because of this, we learn to love for love's sake, for the joy of loving, without conditions, just because it is our nature to love. We learn to move beyond the ego's  judgments and fears because doing so is the only way to get what we really want—true love. We find a way to love in spite of our judgments and fears.

We discover this very simple truth: Love is an act of kindness, not a giddy feeling. Love is a natural
expression of our true nature, not a feeling we get from others. The ego manipulates others to do what
it wants so that it can feel love, but that's the opposite of love. Love allows others to be just as they
are. It supports and nurtures, listens, and cares. Love flows toward others from within us. It exists within us and isn't something we get from others.

This kind of love is the most fulfilling thing in the world. Experiencing it doesn't require that you be
beautiful or rich or healthy or intelligent or that you have a special talent or standing in life; experiencing it only requires that you express it. It's free and it frees us, and it frees others from the ensnarement of the false self. It's the greatest gift and one that doesn't cost the giver anything. It takes nothing from the giver and returns everything. This is the great secret we are meant to discover.


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BAD RESPONSES IN KISSING

1.Person is standing completely stiff without touching the other person and has no feeling in their kiss.

Tip: If they have made it very clear that they like you, then it is probably just nerves. But if you aren’t too sure if they like you or not, then they aren’t opening up to you because they don’t want to be kissing you and you are in their space.

2. You keep moving in closer to them and trying to hold eye contact, but they find an excuse where they need to get up and won’t stop talking.

Tip: They don’t want to kiss you, and you are making them feel uncomfortable because they know you want to kiss them.

LOVE IS ALL YOU NEED

We have everything we need because all we need is love, and everyone has an unlimited supply of that. Not everyone may feel love, but it is always there and available to give to others.

The way we experience the unlimited supply of love is by giving it away. That is counter-intuitive,
which is why it may seem like there isn't enough love. When we believe we need to get love from
outside ourselves, that sense of lack stops the love flowing from inside us to others. Believing that you need love becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy: You believe you need love because you aren't
experiencing it, and in trying to get it, you fail to give it, so you don't experience it. You can't really do two things at once: If you are relating to someone, you are either giving your attention (love) to that person or trying to get something from that person. You are either in Essence (giving attention) or in ego (trying to get attention). These are very different states of consciousness, and they result in very different experiences.



The experience of being in ego is an experience of lack. The ego never has enough of anything,
including love. So the ego looks outside itself to try to get what it feels it lacks. The ego tries to
manipulate the world to fill its desires and so-called needs.

The experience of being aligned with our true nature, or Essence, on the other hand, is an experience of fullness. If Essence has a need, it would be to give love, to attend fully to whatever is happening right now in the present moment. Being in Essence is an experience of loving whatever is arising and giving attention to that out of love for it. When we do that, we fall in love with life. And when
we are in love with life and with the present moment, there is a natural movement outward to
give to or support whatever is showing up in life.

That flow of love and attention toward life is the experience of love that everyone is looking for. It is
always possible to give attention and love to whatever is showing up in our life. It is a simple choice, but not so easy to do. The ego doesn't value doing that.

It doesn't believe that doing that will get it what it wants.

The irony is that giving love and attention to whatever is showing up in our life is exactly what gets us what we want, and doing what the ego thinks will make it happy results in the opposite. Life is a little like Alice's experience in Wonderland: Everything is backwards. However, once you realize that secret about life, your experience of the world changes. Life becomes bountiful and supportive rather than lacking and unkind. The kindness that flows from you creates a kind world, not only for you, but also for others. All you need is love—and you already have plenty of that to give!


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HOW TO RESPOND TO THEIR REACTIONS

If you take the time to think about things from a different perspective it shouldn’t be too hard to pick up on the subtle hints that body language gives away. If you try and think of things from your partner’s perspective you should be able to quickly identify what their intentions are. This will get easier as you get to know them better.

If someone is reacting negatively to your kiss and they pull away or resist, DO NOT try to continue kissing them. Respect them and their feelings. Don’t try to do something to them that it is obvious they don’t want you to do. A stolen kiss has nowhere near as much fulfilment as a kiss freely given. If you do put pressure on them to continue kissing, they will more than likely lose respect for you and their feelings towards you will change - and not for the better. How would you feel if someone kept trying to kiss you when you had made it clear that you didn’t want to kiss?

WHAT ARE THE KISSING REACTIONS

Everyone reacts differently to someone else’s actions, but the hardest part is reading someone’s reactions to a kiss and trying to figure out what they mean. With the good responses also come the bad. These are the hardest ones to read but are also the most important. You won’t want to carry on if you know someone is uncomfortable.

Pulling Away: If someone keeps on pulling away every time you go to kiss them, then this is an obvious sign you need to put the brakes on. They don’t want to kiss you at this time. There are two reasons for this. The first is that perhaps they don’t feel this way about you and don’t want to kiss you. The second is that perhaps they don’t feel ready to kiss you and you are putting them in an awkward position. So definitely don’t try and kiss them again. If it’s the second reason, then they will kiss you when they are ready because they already know you will kiss them back.

HOW TO BE A BETTER KISSER

Take it slow! There should be no rush when it comes to kissing. If you take it slowly, you will look as though you know what you are doing. Besides, it’s supposed to be fun and sensual. Considering this, why would you want to rush it? Kissing is about passion, about feeling and emotion, and it is supposed to be fun. Take the time, savour the experience and enjoy it.

Now, you may laugh at this, but practicing on the back of your hand or with a pillow is actually going to help you become a better kisser. Imagine if you tried to kiss someone for the first time following my instructions step-by-step. It wouldn’t be like a natural kiss, because you’ll be so tense from concentrating on what to do that you won’t let it flow. If you practice, the movements will start to come naturally to you, and this will also make you a lot less nervous.

Do change your technique sometimes for a bit of variety, so it surprises your partner. You don’t want kissing to become a routine. Variety is the spice of life. If kissing is exciting for your partner, they will want to kiss you more often to see what kind of surprise you have in store for them. Don’t change it too often, though; otherwise, they will just expect it and it won’t be that intriguing to them anymore! After their initial surprise, let them get used to the kiss and enjoy it. If you change too quickly, it might cut off the other kiss just as they were getting into it. It may also appear sloppy to them if you are changing technique every couple of minutes like you aren’t quite sure how to do it. Changing your technique also shows your kissing partner that you are putting some thought into it, showing that you really enjoy kissing them.

WHY ARE WOMEN BEING JUDGED

Did You Know?

Women who have casual sex are judged harshly by men and other women.

In a recent study, my colleagues and I gave men and women a scenario: we described a person’s sexual experiences, and then asked the participants to rate how they viewed this person.

When the scenario was about a man having casual sex, men and women were more accepting of the man’s behavior.

But when the scenario was about a woman instead—and the remaining details of the story were identical—men and women judged the woman harshly.

No matter how we modified the scenarios, women who were having casual sex were judged negatively by others.


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