DATING TIPS: THE MONEY FACTOR

Never try to use money to attract women. It never works unless the woman is a gold-digger.

Here’s a true case I’ve encountered. There once was a rich guy who gave his crush a five-star trip to Europe. But the girl ended up with a poor guy who bought her yogurt when she was sick.

This girl is what I would call “marriage material”. You see, good girls do not come after your money; they come after YOU. They see money as the “icing on the cake”, but not as the cake itself.

Always use your PERSONALITY - not your money – to attract woman.

DATING TIPS: THE TESTING FACTOR

A lot of guys email me and ask, “How do I tell if a girl likes me?” Well, like I ask my readers all the time, if you aren’t even holding her hand, how can you tell if a woman likes you or not?

In order to test if a woman likes you or not, you must be constantly advancing forward in small steps.

For example, before you approach a woman, you should make eye contact, smile, and wait for her reaction.

If she smiles back, then you can approach her.

DATING TIPS: THE MYSTERY OR BOTTOM CARD FACTOR

When you’re playing Poker, you ALWAYS hide your “bottom card” so nobody knows what it is.

Dating is just the same. Don’t ever show your “bottom card” to a woman, as in never show just how much “power” or resources you have.

Women love playing detective and getting information out of you – so don’t ruin their fun by offering information about yourself. If you tell them too much about yourself, they are going to find you boring by the second date and dump you by the third.

That’s why you want to remain mysterious!

DATING TIPS: THE WORDS VS ACTION FACTOR

Whenever a woman plays games or throws a tantrum, always focus on her actions, not her words. The last thing you want to do while a woman plays mind games with you is to try to read her thoughts.

Why?

Because you’ll probably be wrong.

It is almost impossible for us to read a girl's mind because we're always biased. When we’re trying to read a girls mind, we're not really reading her thoughts. We're merely trying to explain her action in order to justify our opinion on what she is thinking about.

So instead of worrying about what she is thinking, focus on her actions instead.

How is she treating you?

Is she happy when she around you? Or is she sad?

DATING TIPS: THE CHALLENGE FACTOR

Every woman enjoys a good challenge.

Here are ten ways to act like a challenge on a date:

1) Don't Ask, Lead

This one is VERY important. A lot of guys ask stupid things like "Would you like to go to this restaurant?", "Can I go to the bathroom", or even worse, "Can we do this again some other time?"
And they wonder why they never get a second date!

Listen, buddy.

Confident men do NOT ask women for permission to do ANYTHING.

They JUST do it.
They don't ask for a kiss.
They don't ask for a second date.
They don't ask for ANYTHING.

DATING TIPS: THE DISTANCE FACTOR

I’m going to make it clear that I do NOT like long-distance relationships. In my experience, distance ALWAYS kills attraction, and most long distance relationships DO fail.

So unless you’ve already been going out with a girl for a LONG time, do NOT start a long distance relationship with her.

At the end of the day, the outcome of your long distance relationship will depend on mutual attraction.

If your attraction for her falls, then you won't want to have a long-distance with her anymore. The same goes for her. If her attraction for you falls too low, she won't want to commit in a long-distance relationship either.

DATING TIPS: THE CHEATING FACTOR

There are two reasons why a woman would cheat on you.

The first one is her low attraction for you. The more a woman is attracted to you, the nicer she will be to you. When a woman is very, very, attracted to you, she will do everything she can to please you.

On the other hand, the less a woman is attracted to you, the more likely she will do naughty things such as fooling around with other guys behind your back.

The second reason a woman would cheat on you is that she is disloyal.

Some women are more loyal than others, and that’s why you need to make sure a woman is loyal before you commit to her.

Think of it this way: there is a “tolerance level” in every woman’s system.

DATING TIPS: THE RED LIGHT FACTOR

When I go after a girl, I only see a red light in front of me.

If the light is red – as in she is rejecting me blatantly - I move on to the next girl.

If it's a green light, I keep going.

If it's a yellow light, then I use my creative persistence and find a way to get AROUND her resistance.

It's really that simple.

There's no reason to complicate things by trying to rationalize her behaviors with your logic, etc.

You will get it wrong 90 percent of the time.

DATING TIPS: THE GIVE AND TAKE FACTOR

“Giving” and “taking” are equally important in a relationship. In any healthy long-term relationship, you can only get back as much as you give – not less, not more.

Unfortunately, most guys only know how to GIVE and don’t know how to TAKE. They ruin their own relationships by giving everything they’ve got…until their women lose all respect for them and leave them for other guys.

There are two parts to this lesson.

DATING TIPS: THE CREATIVE PERSISTENCE FACTOR

In order to be successful with women, you must have what I call “creative persistence.” Just like you can never have success in life without being persistent, you can’t have much success with women without having creative persistence.

A lot of guys do try to be persistent with women. The trouble is…they only try the same thing over and over again. Sorry to break out the bad news, but if it didn’t work the first time, it’s not going to work the second or third time!

The reason why most guys bump into the SAME walls and make the SAME mistakes over and over is because they fail to learn. They just keep on doing the same thing over and over because they can’t see it’s not working.

DATING TIPS: THE REALITY FACTOR

The biggest mistake men make in the dating game is ignoring reality.

Every day, I receive emails from guys that have been ignoring reality for most of their lives. There was once a guy who was arrested by the police for stalking a girl. But still he thought there was a way he could win her heart.

Listen.

Reality never lies.

It doesn’t matter how much YOU like a girl.

DATING TIPS: THE BOYFRIEND FACTOR

So you’ve just met a girl…and she tells you she has a boyfriend.

What do you do?

It's simple. You ignore her.

Why?

Because there’s a possibility she’s using it as an excuse to brush off guys that approach her. Also, even if she DOES have a boyfriend, it's not how much she is attracted to her boyfriend, but how much she is attracted to YOU that matters.

DATING TIPS: THE BREAKUP FACTOR

I'm going to tell you that breakups do not happen overnight. Most men are surprised when a woman leaves them, when they have been ignoring all the "warning signs" that have been going on for weeks/months.

It is very important to stay awake in a relationship and not take a woman for granted - unless you're waiting to get dumped.

Let me tell you how men and women break up with each other. When a man dumps a woman, he usually feels bad after dumping a woman because he still cares about her.

But when a woman initiates a breakup, the scenario is usually very different.

Why?

DATING TIPS: THE FRIENDSHIP FACTOR

Have you ever been attracted to a girl who just wants to "be friends" with you? Don’t worry. In the next few moments, I am going to show you how you can turn a "friend" into a "girlfriend" without jeopardizing your friendship with her.

A lot of guys like to fantasize about befriending a hottie and sucking up to her until she finally sees what a great guy he is and starts dating him.

Ugh. It doesn't work that way.

You see, to a woman, there are 2 categories of men:

"Potential lovers" and "just friends".

DATING TIPS: THE CONTROL OR RESPONSIBILITY FACTOR

Would you like to have more control over your love life? If so, you’ll have to start being more responsible for your own actions.

Here's the magical formula of life: Control = Responsibility.

The two are inseparable.

If you want more power, then you’ll have to be more responsible. It's as simple as that. At school, if you want to join the student council, you've got to volunteer to stay after school. At work, if you want to get a promotion, then you’ve got to show your boss what you’re capable of.

DATING TIPS: THE SEXUAL TENSION FACTOR

If you're going after a girl but she's not responding to you the way you would like her to, chances are you are lacking sexual tension. So what is sexual tension?

It is the subtle force that connects two people together. You know how when you first meet a girl and there's something that draws you towards her...but at the same time, there's a great deal of "uncertainty" in the air because you're not sure if she feels the same way about you?

In time, this tension grows stronger and stronger until you can't help but to think about her day and night. The sexual tension then amplifies into LUST and you feel like you HAVE to spend more time with your girl.

Now...wouldn't it be great if you could get a girl to experience the SAME feelings towards YOU?
Of course it would.

Unfortunately, most guys are afraid of using sexual tension to attract women. They are afraid of raising this tension because of the "uncertain feelings" attached. To these guys, this tension feels foreign...or even uncomfortable.

DATING TIPS: THE EX FORCE FACTOR

The “Ex-Force” of the Smart Dating System is a term I’ve come up with to represent all the negative “external forces” in a relationship. Basically it represents all the forces of any obstacles that might have a negative impact on your love life.

Here are a few examples:

HOW TO SHOW LOVE AND TO LONG FOR LOVE

THIS LITTLE LIFE OF OURS rests between a longing to be loved and a calling to show love. These two stunning possibilities, so tender, so fugitive, are the subject of these pages.

My guess is that loving is what we are here for, that love is what every one of us deserves to receive and is here to give, that love alone makes this earth the heaven it was meant to be. The guess turns into a conundrum when we realize that so many of us prefer the signs that point to heaven over heaven itself. We yearn for and talk about the love we want. We lament the love we have been deprived of. Yet we sometimes fail to take the steps that can help it happen for us.

The puzzle becomes even more confounding when we sometimes prefer the hell of no love at all, which we bring on by our own unskillful choices or by our endurance of abuse or betrayal, especially from those who say they love us. This book proposes that love is real when we dare to become as loving as we can be toward ourselves and others and as careful as we can be not to confuse a history with someone or a connection that does not work for us with true love.

Biology shows us that the universe is a vast web of interdependence from the cellular to the planetary level. Nothing exists by itself.

DATING TIPS: THE ATTRACTION FACTOR

The Attraction Factor is the most important factor of the Smart Dating System. In order for a woman to want to go out with you, she must FEEL attraction for you.

This is a simple concept that most guys brush off as “common sense”. But in my years of experience as a dating coach, at least 70 percent of guys fail to truly understand it. They either do not have the discipline to follow this simple rule or they choose to ignore it. (See the “Reality Factor”.)

Since the topic of “attraction” has already been thoroughly discussed in so many of my ebooks and also on my free newsletter, I’m not going to give another lengthy lecture here. (If you wish to learn more about attraction, just read the tips on my newsletter.) But here’s a quick quiz I’ve come up
with to test if you understand what “attraction” really means.

DATING TIPS: UNDERSTAND THAT GIRLS JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN

If you can just understand that girls/women today just want to have FUN more than ever before in history, you're going to be a lot better off if you provide it to them.

I'm talking about today's women whose role model is more Carrie from 'Sex and the City' rather than 'Ma Cleaver' from ‘Leave it to Beaver’.

Yes, things used to be very traditional and things used to work; date a few women, choose one and want to get married, get married and live together without getting divorced.

Times have changed in the past few decades.

Now there is still the teachings being taught down from our parents to 'date a woman' and basically 'court' her for MARRIAGE.

When you take this path of 'dating', you're going to be dealing with all kinds of drama and heavy handed implications that are bigger than yourself.

DATING TIPS: BE A TRUE NATURAL

Instead of trying to be the 'pick up artist' or 'approach expert', learn how to become more social and interactive with women and people in general and understand the natural process of attraction.

When you can get in touch with your natural ability to attract women and develop those characteristics, you'll realize how stupid pick up lines were in the first place.

Women don't want to be 'duped' or 'conned' and when you just do everything else right (as I teach), you'll realize that you can give them what they want and have more women than ever while still living your lifestyle.

DATING TIPS: LEARN AND USE THE SHARK TALE TECHNIQUE

This is the most powerful technique that I take over half an hour to describe in full powerful detail and scope in my "Overcoming Fear of Aphrodite's"

Audio CD program.

I can only give a very brief overview here because it's all I have time for.

If you haven't seen the animated movie 'Shark Tale,' RUN to the nearest store and buy it now on DVD or VHS (Ok after you read this).

The opening sequence and the sequence where the family of sharks are at the dinner table are some of the most powerful moments in cinematic history when it applies to dealing with women.

ALL of your power and leverage lies therein.

My Beautiful Distraction