A paragraph back, we mentioned that the woman's lips were slightly parted when she awaited the lips of her lover. There was a reason for using this description. Always, in any sort of kiss, just before the male's lips settle onto the lips of his partner, the female's lips should be slightly parted. One reason for this is that cherry-red lips serve as a charming frame for a row of gleaming, white, even teeth. The picture that confronts the kisser is one that draws him onward. And even, months later, when he thinks back to the kiss in the retrospect, he will remember that pretty little picture of the pearls of teeth nestling in their frame of cherries.
The deliciousness of a long-remembered kiss was beautifully expressed in a poem 'called, "Three Kisses," in which occurred the verse:
I gently raised her sweet, pure face,
Her eyes with radiant, love sight filled.
That trembling kiss I'll ne'er forget
Which both our hearts with rapture filled.
Another reason for-parting the lips is that there is a definite gratification the male obtains from the delicious odor that emanates from his loved one's mouth. John Secundus, in describing a kiss, said that a lover's kiss was like:
"...every aromatic breeze that wafts from Africa's spicy trees;"
The odor of a woman's hair can send shivers of joy coursing up and down a man's spine. The odor of her body can convulse him with throes of passion. Odors are as necessary to love as is love, itself. That is why it is so essential that the lips be parted just before the kiss. And that is why the breath should be kept always sweet and pure so that, when the lips art opened, the breath will be like an "aromatic breeze." Sometimes it is advisable to touch the corners of the mouth with perfume.
But be certain that there is only the faintest suggestion of an odor and no more. Another thing, lipstick is definitely out in the kiss, because it comes off so readily. A very light coat of lipstick should be worn so that, when it does come off, it will not serve to betray you. Similarly, the teeth should be kept cleaned and polished. Nothing can dampen a young man's ardor, or a young woman's for that matter, than a row of brown-stained, unkempt teeth.
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KISSES ARE BUT PRELUDES TO LOVE
Man and woman are born to love, marry and beget children. Woman is so physically constituted that she is the one who bears the child. Man, on the other hand, is given the duty of being the protector of his wife and, after they are born, of his children.
Therefore, he must always be the one who takes the initiative. He must be strong, he must be willing, he must be physically able to take care of his charges, He must be the aggressor.
It is, therefore, necessary that the man be taller than the woman.
The psychological reason for this is that he must always give the impression of being his woman's superior, both mentally and especially physically. The physical reason, with which we are more concerned, is that if he is taller that his woman, he is better able to kiss her. He must be able to sweep her into his strong arms, and tower over her, and look down into her eyes, and cup her chin in his fingers and then, bend over her face and plant his eager, virile lips on her moist, slightly parted, inviting ones.
All of this he must do with the vigor of an assertive male. And, all of these are impossible where the woman is the taller of the two. For when the situation is reversed, the kiss becomes only a ludicrous banality. The physical mastery is gone, the male prerogative is gone, everything is gone but the fact that two lips are touching two other lips. Nothing can be more disappointing.
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Therefore, he must always be the one who takes the initiative. He must be strong, he must be willing, he must be physically able to take care of his charges, He must be the aggressor.
It is, therefore, necessary that the man be taller than the woman.
The psychological reason for this is that he must always give the impression of being his woman's superior, both mentally and especially physically. The physical reason, with which we are more concerned, is that if he is taller that his woman, he is better able to kiss her. He must be able to sweep her into his strong arms, and tower over her, and look down into her eyes, and cup her chin in his fingers and then, bend over her face and plant his eager, virile lips on her moist, slightly parted, inviting ones.
All of this he must do with the vigor of an assertive male. And, all of these are impossible where the woman is the taller of the two. For when the situation is reversed, the kiss becomes only a ludicrous banality. The physical mastery is gone, the male prerogative is gone, everything is gone but the fact that two lips are touching two other lips. Nothing can be more disappointing.
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WHY PEOPLE KISS
What happens when a man and a woman kiss?
That is to say, what happens to the various parts of the body when two people in love join their lips in bliss? Years ago, before our biologists knew of the existence of the glands in our bodies, one writer quoted a scientist as saying that "kissing is pleasant because the teeth, jawbones and lips are full of nerves, and when the lips meet an electric current is generated."
10 SIGNS SHE IS TOO HIGH MAINTENANCE
Here are 10 signs a woman is too high maintenance.
If you see more than 2 of these signs in your girlfriend, watch out. See more than 4, and you should consider running the other way.
1) She is not very mature emotionally.
2) She's overly jealous and needs constant reassurance.
3) She's extremely critical and judgmental of you and other people.
4) She does not have a life outside the relationship. Nor does she want one.
5) She does not have any friends.
6) She exhibits bipolar behavior. She can be a real angel one moment and a nasty bitch the next moment.
7) She can't take any kind of criticism - not even a joke.
8) She's "always" right.
If you see more than 2 of these signs in your girlfriend, watch out. See more than 4, and you should consider running the other way.
1) She is not very mature emotionally.
2) She's overly jealous and needs constant reassurance.
3) She's extremely critical and judgmental of you and other people.
4) She does not have a life outside the relationship. Nor does she want one.
5) She does not have any friends.
6) She exhibits bipolar behavior. She can be a real angel one moment and a nasty bitch the next moment.
7) She can't take any kind of criticism - not even a joke.
8) She's "always" right.
DIFFERENT KINDS OF KISSES
The dictionary says that a kiss is "a salute made by touching with the lips pressed closely together and suddenly parting them." From this it is quite obvious that, although a dictionary-may know something about words, it knows nothing about kissing.
If we are to get the real meaning of the word kiss, instead of going to the old fogies who compile dictionaries, we should go to the poets who still have the hot blood of youth coursing in their veins. For, instance, Coleridge called a kiss, "nectar breathing." Shakespeare says that a kiss is a "seal of love." Martial, that old Roman poet who hid ample opportunity to do research work on the subject, says that a kiss was "the fragrance of balsam extracted from aromatic trees; the rise odor yielded by the teeming saffron; the perfume of fruits mellowing in their winter buds; the flowery meadows in the summer; amber warmed by the hand of a girl; a bouquet of flowers that attracts the bees."
Yes, a kiss is all of these ... and more.
Others have said that a kiss was: the balm of love; the first and last of joys; love's language; the seal of bliss; love's tribute; the melting sip; the nectar of Venus; the language of love.
Yes, a kiss is all of these . . . and more.
For a kiss can never be absolutely defined. Because each kiss is different from the one before and the one after. just as no two people are alike, so are no two kisses alike. For it is people who make kisses. Real, live people pulsating with life and love and extreme happiness.
Of course, there are different kinds of kisses. For instance, there is the kiss that the devout person implants on the ring of the Pope. There is the maternal kiss of a mother on her child. There is the friendly kiss of two people who are meeting or are separating. There is the kiss that a king exacts from his conquered subjects. But although all of these are called kisses, they are not the kisses that we are going to concern ourselves with in this book.
Our kisses are going to be the only kind of kisses worth considering the kisses of love. The kiss, perhaps, that Robert-Bums had in mind when he wrote:
Honeyed seal of soft affections,
Tenderest pledge of future bliss,
Dearest tie of young connections,
Love's first snowdrop, virgin kiss.
The amazing thing about the kiss is that although mankind has been kissing ever since Adam first turned over on his side and saw Eve lying next to him, there has been practically nothing written on the subject. Every year, hundreds of books are published telling you how to reduce, how to gain, how to get a job, how to cook, how to write and even how to live. But, on the art of kissing, very little has been written. One reason for this lack of proper instruction is accounted for by the Victorian sense of morals which has persisted through the ages. To the blue-nosed Puritans of the past anything that concerned love was dirty, pornographical. John Bunyan's writings show what these, Puritans thought of' the kiss. He wrote in big infamous "The Pilgrim's Progress," "the common salutations of women I abhor. It is odious to me in whomsoever I see it. When I have seen good men salute those women that they have visted, or that have visited them, I have made my objections against it; and when they have answered that it was but a piece of civility, I have told them that it was not a comely sight. Some, indeed, have urged the holy kiss; but then, I have asked them why they make their balks; why they did salute the most handsome and let the ill-favored ones go." Perhaps old Bunyan thought that way because be was one of the "ill-favored" who went unkissed and were let "go."
But, nowadays, people have taken a broader outlook on life. Our plays are becoming more civilized and less stiff. Our arts are no more censored by laws. This is being written about subjects that no self-respecting author would ever have dared to put into a book. Birth-control, divorce and the science of marriage are common subjects for books. Even the strange vices of mankind are brought out into the open and discussed and not allowed to fester in the dark chambers of censorship. Yes, like Van de Velde's "Ideal Marriage" and Stope's "Married Love" Ire openly sold in bookstores. But, nowhere, do we find which instructs people in the art of kissing, an art which is an absolute essential to a happy life, as we shall discuss in the oncoming days. Is it because we are not absolutely freed from the shackles of prudishness? In certain parts of this country, men have been arrested for kissing their wives on the street!
Is this civilization?
It is going to be a manual of the kiss. In it we are going to discuss the most approved methods of kissing, the advantages of certain kinds and, with the disadvantages of others, the mental and physical reactions of kissers, historical episodes of kissing together with examples from the literature of the world in which kisses were the subject. So, gird up your loins, pucker up your lips and let's to the kissing arena!
If we are to get the real meaning of the word kiss, instead of going to the old fogies who compile dictionaries, we should go to the poets who still have the hot blood of youth coursing in their veins. For, instance, Coleridge called a kiss, "nectar breathing." Shakespeare says that a kiss is a "seal of love." Martial, that old Roman poet who hid ample opportunity to do research work on the subject, says that a kiss was "the fragrance of balsam extracted from aromatic trees; the rise odor yielded by the teeming saffron; the perfume of fruits mellowing in their winter buds; the flowery meadows in the summer; amber warmed by the hand of a girl; a bouquet of flowers that attracts the bees."
Yes, a kiss is all of these ... and more.
Others have said that a kiss was: the balm of love; the first and last of joys; love's language; the seal of bliss; love's tribute; the melting sip; the nectar of Venus; the language of love.
Yes, a kiss is all of these . . . and more.
For a kiss can never be absolutely defined. Because each kiss is different from the one before and the one after. just as no two people are alike, so are no two kisses alike. For it is people who make kisses. Real, live people pulsating with life and love and extreme happiness.
Of course, there are different kinds of kisses. For instance, there is the kiss that the devout person implants on the ring of the Pope. There is the maternal kiss of a mother on her child. There is the friendly kiss of two people who are meeting or are separating. There is the kiss that a king exacts from his conquered subjects. But although all of these are called kisses, they are not the kisses that we are going to concern ourselves with in this book.
Our kisses are going to be the only kind of kisses worth considering the kisses of love. The kiss, perhaps, that Robert-Bums had in mind when he wrote:
Honeyed seal of soft affections,
Tenderest pledge of future bliss,
Dearest tie of young connections,
Love's first snowdrop, virgin kiss.
The amazing thing about the kiss is that although mankind has been kissing ever since Adam first turned over on his side and saw Eve lying next to him, there has been practically nothing written on the subject. Every year, hundreds of books are published telling you how to reduce, how to gain, how to get a job, how to cook, how to write and even how to live. But, on the art of kissing, very little has been written. One reason for this lack of proper instruction is accounted for by the Victorian sense of morals which has persisted through the ages. To the blue-nosed Puritans of the past anything that concerned love was dirty, pornographical. John Bunyan's writings show what these, Puritans thought of' the kiss. He wrote in big infamous "The Pilgrim's Progress," "the common salutations of women I abhor. It is odious to me in whomsoever I see it. When I have seen good men salute those women that they have visted, or that have visited them, I have made my objections against it; and when they have answered that it was but a piece of civility, I have told them that it was not a comely sight. Some, indeed, have urged the holy kiss; but then, I have asked them why they make their balks; why they did salute the most handsome and let the ill-favored ones go." Perhaps old Bunyan thought that way because be was one of the "ill-favored" who went unkissed and were let "go."
But, nowadays, people have taken a broader outlook on life. Our plays are becoming more civilized and less stiff. Our arts are no more censored by laws. This is being written about subjects that no self-respecting author would ever have dared to put into a book. Birth-control, divorce and the science of marriage are common subjects for books. Even the strange vices of mankind are brought out into the open and discussed and not allowed to fester in the dark chambers of censorship. Yes, like Van de Velde's "Ideal Marriage" and Stope's "Married Love" Ire openly sold in bookstores. But, nowhere, do we find which instructs people in the art of kissing, an art which is an absolute essential to a happy life, as we shall discuss in the oncoming days. Is it because we are not absolutely freed from the shackles of prudishness? In certain parts of this country, men have been arrested for kissing their wives on the street!
Is this civilization?
It is going to be a manual of the kiss. In it we are going to discuss the most approved methods of kissing, the advantages of certain kinds and, with the disadvantages of others, the mental and physical reactions of kissers, historical episodes of kissing together with examples from the literature of the world in which kisses were the subject. So, gird up your loins, pucker up your lips and let's to the kissing arena!
WHAT IF A WOMAN TELLS YOU SHE IS NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP
When a woman tells you she isn't ready for a relationship, most of the time she really means one of the following three statements:
1) "I am ready for a relationship - but not with you."
Remember that a woman has to be attracted to you before she will have a relationship with you. So if a woman turns you down because she is "not ready", you should ask yourself this:
"Is she really not ready, or does she just not want to give me false hope?" Search your feelings, young Jedi. If you feel a lot of pain, insecurity, or discomfort, chances are, she probably doesn't like you that much.
Remember: It doesn't matter she recently got out of a relationship. If she REALLY, REALLY, REALLY likes you, she will want to be with you. It's simple as that.
2) "I am attracted - just not enough."
The second possibility is that she IS attracted to you, but "not enough" to start a relationship yet. Now, here comes the bad news. If that's what she means, then it means you've screwed up already by advancing too fast. Pull back IMMEDIATELY and start focusing on building the attraction instead of trying to "get serious" with her. The more you try to turn her into a girlfriend before she's attracted to you, the more you will push her away.
3) "I am a party girl."
The last possibility is that she is not ready for any sort of relationship because she is a party girl.
If that's the case, then don't try to change her.
A party girl doth not a good girlfriend make. You're going to end up in a world of hurt in the long run.
1) "I am ready for a relationship - but not with you."
Remember that a woman has to be attracted to you before she will have a relationship with you. So if a woman turns you down because she is "not ready", you should ask yourself this:
"Is she really not ready, or does she just not want to give me false hope?" Search your feelings, young Jedi. If you feel a lot of pain, insecurity, or discomfort, chances are, she probably doesn't like you that much.
Remember: It doesn't matter she recently got out of a relationship. If she REALLY, REALLY, REALLY likes you, she will want to be with you. It's simple as that.
2) "I am attracted - just not enough."
The second possibility is that she IS attracted to you, but "not enough" to start a relationship yet. Now, here comes the bad news. If that's what she means, then it means you've screwed up already by advancing too fast. Pull back IMMEDIATELY and start focusing on building the attraction instead of trying to "get serious" with her. The more you try to turn her into a girlfriend before she's attracted to you, the more you will push her away.
3) "I am a party girl."
The last possibility is that she is not ready for any sort of relationship because she is a party girl.
If that's the case, then don't try to change her.
A party girl doth not a good girlfriend make. You're going to end up in a world of hurt in the long run.
12 SIGNS SHE'D MAKE A GOOD GIRLFRIEND
Here are 10 signs a woman would make a good girlfriend:
1) She's sincere and open.
2) She likes children.
3) She's easy-going.
4) She's hard-working and has a certain amount of self-discipline.
5) She doesn't chase after instant-gratification and whatever she feels "in the moment."
6) She doesn't try to change you.
7) She's not a bitch or a whiner.
8) She's not unreasonable.
9) She's emotionally stable.
10) She's flexible.
11) She doesn't care too much about dating men with money, but yet she's frugal.
12) She's not flaky.
1) She's sincere and open.
2) She likes children.
3) She's easy-going.
4) She's hard-working and has a certain amount of self-discipline.
5) She doesn't chase after instant-gratification and whatever she feels "in the moment."
6) She doesn't try to change you.
7) She's not a bitch or a whiner.
8) She's not unreasonable.
9) She's emotionally stable.
10) She's flexible.
11) She doesn't care too much about dating men with money, but yet she's frugal.
12) She's not flaky.
ARE YOU IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
Here are a couple of questions to ask yourself.
1) Has your girlfriend ever been sexually abused as a child?
2) Does your girlfriend blame you when she does something bad? (As in it’s always "YOUR" fault.)
3) Is your girlfriend chronically angry or depressed?
4) Is your girlfriend unpredictable?
5) Has your girlfriend ever abused you?
6) Does your girlfriend have double standards for your behavior and her behavior?
7) Has your girlfriend ever tried to manipulate you?
8) Is your girlfriend incompetent in daily living skills? (Loses job after job, etc.)
9) Does your girlfriend hang around a “bad” group of people?
10) Does your girlfriend exhibit any anti-social behavior?
If you have answered "yes" to any of these questions, you should be extremely careful with your relationship. All of these "symptoms", except for number one - which is okay if she has put it behind her or learned to manage her pain - are deadly.
1) Has your girlfriend ever been sexually abused as a child?
2) Does your girlfriend blame you when she does something bad? (As in it’s always "YOUR" fault.)
3) Is your girlfriend chronically angry or depressed?
4) Is your girlfriend unpredictable?
5) Has your girlfriend ever abused you?
6) Does your girlfriend have double standards for your behavior and her behavior?
7) Has your girlfriend ever tried to manipulate you?
8) Is your girlfriend incompetent in daily living skills? (Loses job after job, etc.)
9) Does your girlfriend hang around a “bad” group of people?
10) Does your girlfriend exhibit any anti-social behavior?
If you have answered "yes" to any of these questions, you should be extremely careful with your relationship. All of these "symptoms", except for number one - which is okay if she has put it behind her or learned to manage her pain - are deadly.
HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND'S FAMILY
Here are some tips on how to deal with your girlfriend's family.
1) Be polite.
Always be polite to your girlfriend of date's family, even if they are agitating you. In retail, the customer is always right; in dating, your girlfriend's parents are always right.
2) Have a firm handshake.
Family members can often tell if a new boyfriend is a "loser" just from his handshake. Even if you're not a "loser", you still do not want to give the impression that you are. Shake hands with firmness and make eye contact.
3) Say something good about your girlfriend publicly.
Make sure you compliment your girlfriend in front of the family. Her parents will lick it up.
4) Repeat good things about her family.
If possible, repeat something positive that your girlfriend has said to you about a family member. This will prevent her family from thinking that she's going to "side" with you in the future.
5) Show respect.
Leave your cockiness or attitude behind. Show respect for every single family member - including the "stupid brother."
6) Compliment and act interested.
Compliment her family members and act interested in what they do. If her father is a military dad, then obviously, you've "always" wanted to join the military because you have respect for the honor and integrity soldiers have.
7) Don't argue religions or politics with her family.
When you're with her family, their beliefs are "right", no matter how stupid their beliefs really are.
8) Don't be afraid of "sucking up".
Don't be afraid of sucking up to her family a little. The point is to make her parents smile.
9) Play with the family pet or the children
If your girlfriend has a family pets or younger siblings, play with them. It's an excellent way of building rapport with her family!
Don't worry if these tips seem "wimpy". Remember you are trying to build rapport with her family, not attracting them sexually! Even if you ARE the devil, you don't want your girlfriend's family to KNOW you are the devil, do you?
1) Be polite.
Always be polite to your girlfriend of date's family, even if they are agitating you. In retail, the customer is always right; in dating, your girlfriend's parents are always right.
2) Have a firm handshake.
Family members can often tell if a new boyfriend is a "loser" just from his handshake. Even if you're not a "loser", you still do not want to give the impression that you are. Shake hands with firmness and make eye contact.
3) Say something good about your girlfriend publicly.
Make sure you compliment your girlfriend in front of the family. Her parents will lick it up.
4) Repeat good things about her family.
If possible, repeat something positive that your girlfriend has said to you about a family member. This will prevent her family from thinking that she's going to "side" with you in the future.
5) Show respect.
Leave your cockiness or attitude behind. Show respect for every single family member - including the "stupid brother."
6) Compliment and act interested.
Compliment her family members and act interested in what they do. If her father is a military dad, then obviously, you've "always" wanted to join the military because you have respect for the honor and integrity soldiers have.
7) Don't argue religions or politics with her family.
When you're with her family, their beliefs are "right", no matter how stupid their beliefs really are.
8) Don't be afraid of "sucking up".
Don't be afraid of sucking up to her family a little. The point is to make her parents smile.
9) Play with the family pet or the children
If your girlfriend has a family pets or younger siblings, play with them. It's an excellent way of building rapport with her family!
Don't worry if these tips seem "wimpy". Remember you are trying to build rapport with her family, not attracting them sexually! Even if you ARE the devil, you don't want your girlfriend's family to KNOW you are the devil, do you?
HOW TO STAY TOGETHER WITH A WOMAN
Here are a couple of tips on how to keep to keep a woman's interest in you high:
a) Fun and Romance: A lot of people stop flirting once they're in a relationship. Since they have successfully courted each other and do not have to worry about attracting each other anymore, they stop flirting and settle down into a routine.
Big mistake.
Attraction comes and goes. Just because a woman was attracted to you when she first met you doesn’t mean she will CONTINUE to be attracted to you if you don’t do anything to keep the attraction high.
Don’t just read my course, get a girlfriend, and throw it away until she dumps you. Study it and apply the concepts for life.
b) Be attentive: A lot of guys like to slack off and become less attentive as time goes on. They stop paying attention to their women and end up losing them.
Don’t make the same mistake.
Try to notice the details. Do thoughtful things. Leave little messages that say “I’ve been thinking about you…” Compliment her when she does something good.
c) Talk to her: Have at least one good talk every week. Maybe before bed. Maybe when you’re walking in the park. The time and location does not matter. Doing it is much more important.
This will help you solidify the bond with her. I don’t care how busy you’re with work. I don’t care what other dating coaches have taught you. (“Never call a woman”, etc) If you can’t even spare an hour on your girlfriend once a week, then it’s really your fault if the relationship turns sour.
d) Remain in control: Some guys use the techniques I’ve taught them to seduce a sexy girl they’ve always wanted, only to give up their control and start kissing the girl’s ass. Remember: everything I’ve said about remaining in control of yourself still applies after the initial courtship!
Never lose control! Be a man!
By the way, remember that when I say “stay in control”, I don’t mean you should “control a woman”. What I really mean is to CONTROL YOURSELF and your OWN ACTIONS.
e) Don’t Use Money To Substitute Anything: Under NO,
NO, NO circumstances should you attempt to please a woman with money and physical gifts. Wealth is NOT an alternative for love. Money can buy you sex, but it can’t buy you love. I don’t care how rich and busy you are. Never, never pamper a woman with money. It will eventually ruin your relationship – I’ve seen it happen countless times.
a) Fun and Romance: A lot of people stop flirting once they're in a relationship. Since they have successfully courted each other and do not have to worry about attracting each other anymore, they stop flirting and settle down into a routine.
Big mistake.
Attraction comes and goes. Just because a woman was attracted to you when she first met you doesn’t mean she will CONTINUE to be attracted to you if you don’t do anything to keep the attraction high.
Don’t just read my course, get a girlfriend, and throw it away until she dumps you. Study it and apply the concepts for life.
b) Be attentive: A lot of guys like to slack off and become less attentive as time goes on. They stop paying attention to their women and end up losing them.
Don’t make the same mistake.
Try to notice the details. Do thoughtful things. Leave little messages that say “I’ve been thinking about you…” Compliment her when she does something good.
c) Talk to her: Have at least one good talk every week. Maybe before bed. Maybe when you’re walking in the park. The time and location does not matter. Doing it is much more important.
This will help you solidify the bond with her. I don’t care how busy you’re with work. I don’t care what other dating coaches have taught you. (“Never call a woman”, etc) If you can’t even spare an hour on your girlfriend once a week, then it’s really your fault if the relationship turns sour.
d) Remain in control: Some guys use the techniques I’ve taught them to seduce a sexy girl they’ve always wanted, only to give up their control and start kissing the girl’s ass. Remember: everything I’ve said about remaining in control of yourself still applies after the initial courtship!
Never lose control! Be a man!
By the way, remember that when I say “stay in control”, I don’t mean you should “control a woman”. What I really mean is to CONTROL YOURSELF and your OWN ACTIONS.
e) Don’t Use Money To Substitute Anything: Under NO,
NO, NO circumstances should you attempt to please a woman with money and physical gifts. Wealth is NOT an alternative for love. Money can buy you sex, but it can’t buy you love. I don’t care how rich and busy you are. Never, never pamper a woman with money. It will eventually ruin your relationship – I’ve seen it happen countless times.
8 SIGNS IT'S TIME TO END A RELATIONSHIP
1) Everybody around you is telling you your girlfriend is not for you:
Yes, I know it’s you who’s in love with your girlfriend, not them. But if everybody thinks there’s something wrong with your girlfriend, perhaps they’re right. Don’t forget that third party opinions are usually more objective than yours.
2) Your girlfriend is a bit crazy/unstable or has major character flaws.
Remember…you don’t need any more emotional baggage in your life.
3) You’re trying too hard to change yourself for your girlfriend:
I’m sorry, but if you’re constantly trying to change yourself for your girlfriend, maybe you’re just not the right person for her.
4) You’re trying too hard to make your girlfriend care for you:
If you spend every moment obsessing over your girlfriend to keep her interested, you’re definitely not the right person for her.
5) You’re always arguing with your girlfriend:
Dating should be fun. So if you spent more time arguing with your girlfriend than having fun when you were dating, maybe it’s better to move on.
6) You feel you’ve lowered your standards for your girlfriend:
If you think you're "too good" for a woman, then raise your bar and find someone better.
7) You feel like it’s becoming a chore to take care of your girlfriend but you do not want to break up because you do not want to hurt her.
Guess what? You will eventually break up with her if you feel this way. Better to do it now.
8) You’re just with her because you're afraid of being single again.
So you would rather be in a bad relationship? Not a valid excuse.
Find a woman you're actually IN LOVE with instead!
Yes, I know it’s you who’s in love with your girlfriend, not them. But if everybody thinks there’s something wrong with your girlfriend, perhaps they’re right. Don’t forget that third party opinions are usually more objective than yours.
2) Your girlfriend is a bit crazy/unstable or has major character flaws.
Remember…you don’t need any more emotional baggage in your life.
3) You’re trying too hard to change yourself for your girlfriend:
I’m sorry, but if you’re constantly trying to change yourself for your girlfriend, maybe you’re just not the right person for her.
4) You’re trying too hard to make your girlfriend care for you:
If you spend every moment obsessing over your girlfriend to keep her interested, you’re definitely not the right person for her.
5) You’re always arguing with your girlfriend:
Dating should be fun. So if you spent more time arguing with your girlfriend than having fun when you were dating, maybe it’s better to move on.
6) You feel you’ve lowered your standards for your girlfriend:
If you think you're "too good" for a woman, then raise your bar and find someone better.
7) You feel like it’s becoming a chore to take care of your girlfriend but you do not want to break up because you do not want to hurt her.
Guess what? You will eventually break up with her if you feel this way. Better to do it now.
8) You’re just with her because you're afraid of being single again.
So you would rather be in a bad relationship? Not a valid excuse.
Find a woman you're actually IN LOVE with instead!
10 SIGNS YOU SHOULD LEAVE A WOMAN
Here are 10 signs you should leave a woman:
1) She is addicted to drugs.
Sorry, call me a jerk, but there's no compromise for this one. I've seen WAY too many readers get burned by going out with junkies.
2) She has cheated on you more than once.
Letting her come back the first time was already a mistake. Don't make the same mistake again.
3) You don't like being with her except for the sex.
You can get sex off any woman. So no matter how good sex with a particular woman is, it can NOT be the only reason to stay with her.
4) You know she doesn't like you.
If you know that she doesn’t like you, then you should also know that she'll leave you as soon as she finds someone better.
5) She is too needy and demanding.
Women who are a tiny bit needy is okay. But if a woman is extremely demanding of you, then you should find someone who's not as demanding.
6) She comes between you and your friends.
Women come, women go, but best friends are for life. Don't lose your friends - or when you finally break up with a woman, you're going to find yourself without any friends!
7) She doesn't respect you.
If a woman doesn't show you the respect you deserve, leave without looking back. It will NOT work out anyway.
8) You don't respect her.
I you don't respect a woman as your equal, you're not going to be happy with her in a relationship. You'll either be unhappy, or you'll cheat.
9) She has constant emotional problems.
Don't fall pray to drama queens and other emotional vampires. They will suck all the energy out of you and then move on to their next victims.
10) You don't like yourself when you're with her.
If you don't like who you are when you're not with a woman, she is NOT going to make a good long-term girlfriend for you no matter how hot she is.
11) You're not physically attracted to her anymore.
Never stay with a woman just because you're afraid of hurting her should you break up. It will only hurt her more in the end.
12) You keep thinking, "Maybe things will get better..."
After hearing dozens of cases from my readers every week for many years, I can guarantee you that it won't.
1) She is addicted to drugs.
Sorry, call me a jerk, but there's no compromise for this one. I've seen WAY too many readers get burned by going out with junkies.
2) She has cheated on you more than once.
Letting her come back the first time was already a mistake. Don't make the same mistake again.
3) You don't like being with her except for the sex.
You can get sex off any woman. So no matter how good sex with a particular woman is, it can NOT be the only reason to stay with her.
4) You know she doesn't like you.
If you know that she doesn’t like you, then you should also know that she'll leave you as soon as she finds someone better.
5) She is too needy and demanding.
Women who are a tiny bit needy is okay. But if a woman is extremely demanding of you, then you should find someone who's not as demanding.
6) She comes between you and your friends.
Women come, women go, but best friends are for life. Don't lose your friends - or when you finally break up with a woman, you're going to find yourself without any friends!
7) She doesn't respect you.
If a woman doesn't show you the respect you deserve, leave without looking back. It will NOT work out anyway.
8) You don't respect her.
I you don't respect a woman as your equal, you're not going to be happy with her in a relationship. You'll either be unhappy, or you'll cheat.
9) She has constant emotional problems.
Don't fall pray to drama queens and other emotional vampires. They will suck all the energy out of you and then move on to their next victims.
10) You don't like yourself when you're with her.
If you don't like who you are when you're not with a woman, she is NOT going to make a good long-term girlfriend for you no matter how hot she is.
11) You're not physically attracted to her anymore.
Never stay with a woman just because you're afraid of hurting her should you break up. It will only hurt her more in the end.
12) You keep thinking, "Maybe things will get better..."
After hearing dozens of cases from my readers every week for many years, I can guarantee you that it won't.
10 SIGNS YOU ARE ABOUT TO GET DUMPED
1) She's Always Too Busy Too See You
Life is all about priorities. If a woman is always too busy to see you, but yet she has time to go shopping, hang out with her girlfriends, or even go for coffee with that cute guy at work, it's a sign you're not important in her life anymore.
2) She Gets Mad At You For Really, Really Stupid Things
A woman will often use "little excuses" to show her negative feelings towards you before a breakup. Nothing you do will be up to her standards, and she will find every opportunity to let you know you're not up to her standards. See this as a warning of what's to come.
3) She Screens You Out When You Call
If she stops answering your calls directly and lets you go right to her voicemail, it's a sign that she has stopped caring. If she really, really, really wanted to talk to you, don't you think she would have picked up?
4) Her Friends Suddenly Seem Distant
If her friends have always "liked" you in the past but are now all suddenly acting "distanced" whenever you're in their presence, it's a sign they may know something you don't know - such as you're about to get dumped.
5) You Fight All The Time Over Little Things
A little bit of fighting is okay in a relationship.
But if you fight ALL the time over the tiniest things, it's a sign the relationship is not going to work.
6) She Doesn't Hold Your Hand Anymore
If she does not want to show any affection in public, it's a sign the romantic feelings are gone. It won't be long before she dumps you.
7) She Has Stopped Having Sex
If she has stops having sex or getting physically intimate with you, that's another sign her attraction for you has dropped and you're about to get dumped.
8) She Doesn't Seem Attracted To You Anymore
Do you get the feeling that she's not that into you anymore? Guess what? Your intuition is probably right.
9) She Wants "Space"
If a woman asks for "space", it's a sign she's feeling suffocated by the relationship. Back off a bit and give her some space. If you push now, you will only push her into breaking up with you.
10) She Wants To See Other People
If a woman wants to "see other people", it's a sign the relationship is almost over. Don't believe in any of her excuses. The truth is, if she were still VERY attracted to you, she wouldn't even dream of seeing other people!
Life is all about priorities. If a woman is always too busy to see you, but yet she has time to go shopping, hang out with her girlfriends, or even go for coffee with that cute guy at work, it's a sign you're not important in her life anymore.
2) She Gets Mad At You For Really, Really Stupid Things
A woman will often use "little excuses" to show her negative feelings towards you before a breakup. Nothing you do will be up to her standards, and she will find every opportunity to let you know you're not up to her standards. See this as a warning of what's to come.
3) She Screens You Out When You Call
If she stops answering your calls directly and lets you go right to her voicemail, it's a sign that she has stopped caring. If she really, really, really wanted to talk to you, don't you think she would have picked up?
4) Her Friends Suddenly Seem Distant
If her friends have always "liked" you in the past but are now all suddenly acting "distanced" whenever you're in their presence, it's a sign they may know something you don't know - such as you're about to get dumped.
5) You Fight All The Time Over Little Things
A little bit of fighting is okay in a relationship.
But if you fight ALL the time over the tiniest things, it's a sign the relationship is not going to work.
6) She Doesn't Hold Your Hand Anymore
If she does not want to show any affection in public, it's a sign the romantic feelings are gone. It won't be long before she dumps you.
7) She Has Stopped Having Sex
If she has stops having sex or getting physically intimate with you, that's another sign her attraction for you has dropped and you're about to get dumped.
8) She Doesn't Seem Attracted To You Anymore
Do you get the feeling that she's not that into you anymore? Guess what? Your intuition is probably right.
9) She Wants "Space"
If a woman asks for "space", it's a sign she's feeling suffocated by the relationship. Back off a bit and give her some space. If you push now, you will only push her into breaking up with you.
10) She Wants To See Other People
If a woman wants to "see other people", it's a sign the relationship is almost over. Don't believe in any of her excuses. The truth is, if she were still VERY attracted to you, she wouldn't even dream of seeing other people!
ONE SIMPLE RULE ABOUT YOUR ENVIRONMENT
Here's one simple dating rule:
At the beginning of a courtship or relationship, always try to bring a girl into your environment instead of going into her environment.
As a "Smart Dater", you should always be bringing a woman into YOUR reality, where you're the king of your own little realm.
When you're in your own environment, it makes it very easy to take control and "lead" a woman on a date.
But if you're in HER environment, SHE will have to lead YOU around, and it will be much harder for you to stand up and act like a man.
So for the first five dates, try to:
1) Take her to places you're familiar with.
2) Bring her back to your places instead of going to her places if possible.
3) Invite her to your pad.
4) Take her into your world to give her a glimpse of how you live your exciting life.
5) Introduce her to food and drinks that she has never tried before.
6) Be in control of yourself and what happens in your own environment.
If it is impossible to take her into your environment, then try to opt for a "neutral environment". But avoid going into her territory!
At the beginning of a courtship or relationship, always try to bring a girl into your environment instead of going into her environment.
As a "Smart Dater", you should always be bringing a woman into YOUR reality, where you're the king of your own little realm.
When you're in your own environment, it makes it very easy to take control and "lead" a woman on a date.
But if you're in HER environment, SHE will have to lead YOU around, and it will be much harder for you to stand up and act like a man.
So for the first five dates, try to:
1) Take her to places you're familiar with.
2) Bring her back to your places instead of going to her places if possible.
3) Invite her to your pad.
4) Take her into your world to give her a glimpse of how you live your exciting life.
5) Introduce her to food and drinks that she has never tried before.
6) Be in control of yourself and what happens in your own environment.
If it is impossible to take her into your environment, then try to opt for a "neutral environment". But avoid going into her territory!
HOW TO GUAGE A WOMAN'S ATTRACTION FOR YOU
Here are a few questions you should ask yourself togauge a woman's attraction for you:
1) Does she flirt with you actively?
2) Does she flirt back when you flirt with her?
3) Does she seem willing to "compromise" or to alter her schedule in order to see you?
4) Does she act especially happy when she is around you?
5) Does she like to compliment you?
6) Does she mention you in front of her friends?
7) Does she dress up to see you?
8) She keeps invading your personal space with herself?
9) Does she get jealous when you spend time with other girls?
10) Does she work hard to get your attention?
1) Does she flirt with you actively?
2) Does she flirt back when you flirt with her?
3) Does she seem willing to "compromise" or to alter her schedule in order to see you?
4) Does she act especially happy when she is around you?
5) Does she like to compliment you?
6) Does she mention you in front of her friends?
7) Does she dress up to see you?
8) She keeps invading your personal space with herself?
9) Does she get jealous when you spend time with other girls?
10) Does she work hard to get your attention?
8 WAYS TO PUSH WOMEN AWAY FROM YOU
Here are 8 ways to push women AWAY from you:
1) Act Needy
- Call her several times a day
- Act jealous in front of her friends
- Tell her you love her every day
- Tell her you can't be without her
- Stalk her and leave gifts on her doorstep
2) Act Boring
- Don't have a life outside relationship
- Play video games all the time
- Be antisocial and no fun
- Think everybody around you is "immature"
- Act shy AND don't improve your social skills
3) Act Pushy
- Whine and push a woman into getting closer
- Never leave a woman alone
- Beg and beg and beg some more
- Advance too quickly before a woman is ready
- Keep touching her when she's not even enjoying it
4) Act Indecisive
- Never lead on a date
- Always ask her what she wants to do
- Follow her around
- Have no idea what you want to do with your life
- Always ask her to make decisions for you
The reason for my writing is to ask you for some clarification on a subject. I have a problem when it comes to teasing woman. I am getting better about starting conversations now, but I have a problem trying to figure out what to tease them about. I have read the different ideas that you give in your book, but I just don’t get the whole "busting her balls" thing. What do you specifically like to do to a girl when on a date to bust her balls? I have found that the less attractive the girl the more
5) Act Negative
- Hate the world and its people
- Be paranoid
- Think everyone is out to screw you
- Assume she's cheating every time she talks to a guy
- Talk about how life isn't worth living without her
6) Act Asexual
- Tense up every time she touches you
- Convince yourself you don't need women
- Avoid all women
- Go out of the your way to prove you're "not" after sex
- Act like her best friend
7) Act Too Sexual
- Have "sex" written on your forehead
- Make stupid sex jokes all the time
- Tell her ALL about your kinks
- Make her feel like a sex object
- Show her your porn collection
8) Act Too Serious
- Never flirt
- Never act like a challenge
- Never tease her
- Show her how "serious" you are about her
- Keep talking about the relationship
1) Act Needy
- Call her several times a day
- Act jealous in front of her friends
- Tell her you love her every day
- Tell her you can't be without her
- Stalk her and leave gifts on her doorstep
2) Act Boring
- Don't have a life outside relationship
- Play video games all the time
- Be antisocial and no fun
- Think everybody around you is "immature"
- Act shy AND don't improve your social skills
3) Act Pushy
- Whine and push a woman into getting closer
- Never leave a woman alone
- Beg and beg and beg some more
- Advance too quickly before a woman is ready
- Keep touching her when she's not even enjoying it
4) Act Indecisive
- Never lead on a date
- Always ask her what she wants to do
- Follow her around
- Have no idea what you want to do with your life
- Always ask her to make decisions for you
The reason for my writing is to ask you for some clarification on a subject. I have a problem when it comes to teasing woman. I am getting better about starting conversations now, but I have a problem trying to figure out what to tease them about. I have read the different ideas that you give in your book, but I just don’t get the whole "busting her balls" thing. What do you specifically like to do to a girl when on a date to bust her balls? I have found that the less attractive the girl the more
5) Act Negative
- Hate the world and its people
- Be paranoid
- Think everyone is out to screw you
- Assume she's cheating every time she talks to a guy
- Talk about how life isn't worth living without her
6) Act Asexual
- Tense up every time she touches you
- Convince yourself you don't need women
- Avoid all women
- Go out of the your way to prove you're "not" after sex
- Act like her best friend
7) Act Too Sexual
- Have "sex" written on your forehead
- Make stupid sex jokes all the time
- Tell her ALL about your kinks
- Make her feel like a sex object
- Show her your porn collection
8) Act Too Serious
- Never flirt
- Never act like a challenge
- Never tease her
- Show her how "serious" you are about her
- Keep talking about the relationship
HOW TO ATTRACT WOMEN BY SHOWING YOUR APPROVAL
Here are some ways you can "approve" a woman instead of sucking up to her.
1) Add A Limit.
Instead of telling a woman she's the most <insert compliment> person in the world, let her know that she's the best person in a certain environment. (In other words, she's cool but still has room to improve before she can impress you completely.)
Example: “You know…you’re the coolest person I’ve met tonight.”
2) Make A Comparison
Compare a woman with other people. This way, you will make her feel special WITHOUT sucking up to her.
Example:
“Most <insert group> girls/guys I’ve met are not as <insert compliment> as you.”
3) Make An Objective Statement
Make an objective statement that "qualifies" her as a member of an elite group. (One that you're probably part of!)
Example:
“Well, I guess you’re obviously a man/woman who enjoys the finest things in life. That's good”
With practice, you can also act like a challenge and throw in some qualification statements that you’ve learned from my newsletter and Smart Dating Course, such as:
“You’re pretty smart for your age.”
“I change my opinion about redheads. Actually, not yet…”
Throw her a couple of these, and she should be dying to impress you!
1) Add A Limit.
Instead of telling a woman she's the most <insert compliment> person in the world, let her know that she's the best person in a certain environment. (In other words, she's cool but still has room to improve before she can impress you completely.)
Example: “You know…you’re the coolest person I’ve met tonight.”
2) Make A Comparison
Compare a woman with other people. This way, you will make her feel special WITHOUT sucking up to her.
Example:
“Most <insert group> girls/guys I’ve met are not as <insert compliment> as you.”
3) Make An Objective Statement
Make an objective statement that "qualifies" her as a member of an elite group. (One that you're probably part of!)
Example:
“Well, I guess you’re obviously a man/woman who enjoys the finest things in life. That's good”
With practice, you can also act like a challenge and throw in some qualification statements that you’ve learned from my newsletter and Smart Dating Course, such as:
“You’re pretty smart for your age.”
“I change my opinion about redheads. Actually, not yet…”
Throw her a couple of these, and she should be dying to impress you!
25 SIGNS A WOMAN MAY BE INTERESTED IN YOU
Here are a few signs that a woman may be interested in you.
1) You catch her checking you out.
2) Her eyes sparkle when you talk to her.
3) She strokes her outer thigh lightly when you talk to her.
4) She's always laughing at your jokes sincerely, no matter how lame they are.
5) She smiles broadly at you.
6) She flirts with you.
7) She looks straight at you and then flips her hair.
8) She plays with her shirt buttons when she talks to you.
9) She follows you around.
10) She's especially "obedient".
11) She seeks your approval.
12) She leans over and whispers in your ear.
13) She touches herself while she talks.
14) She invades your space with objects.
15) She asks people lots of questions about you.
16) She talks about you a lot in front of other people.
17) She tenses up when you touch her but does not attempt to move away at all.
18) She dresses up to see you.
19) She calls you or talks to you for no reason.
20) She likes to play with your hair.
21) She likes to leave traces behind in your house or apartment.
22) She gets jealous when you flirt with other women.
23) She keeps invading your personal space with herself.
24) She is extremely touchy - but only with you.
25) She wants to cook for you.
1) You catch her checking you out.
2) Her eyes sparkle when you talk to her.
3) She strokes her outer thigh lightly when you talk to her.
4) She's always laughing at your jokes sincerely, no matter how lame they are.
5) She smiles broadly at you.
6) She flirts with you.
7) She looks straight at you and then flips her hair.
8) She plays with her shirt buttons when she talks to you.
9) She follows you around.
10) She's especially "obedient".
11) She seeks your approval.
12) She leans over and whispers in your ear.
13) She touches herself while she talks.
14) She invades your space with objects.
15) She asks people lots of questions about you.
16) She talks about you a lot in front of other people.
17) She tenses up when you touch her but does not attempt to move away at all.
18) She dresses up to see you.
19) She calls you or talks to you for no reason.
20) She likes to play with your hair.
21) She likes to leave traces behind in your house or apartment.
22) She gets jealous when you flirt with other women.
23) She keeps invading your personal space with herself.
24) She is extremely touchy - but only with you.
25) She wants to cook for you.
10 WAYS TO RESPOND TO A COMPLIMENT FROM A WOMAN
Here are ten ways to respond to compliments from women:
1) "Thank You."
2) "Yeah I know."
3) "And you're just figuring that out?"
4) "I just love it when a woman tries to flatter her way into my pants. It makes me feel so adorable."
5) "Thanks. But you should see me <insert activity>."
6) "I know. Aren't I awesome?"
7) "I know. I stole it off <insert person>."
8) "Yeah. I <insert verb> it just for you. Glad you liked it."
9) "Well, it's definitely better than what they have here."
10) "Of course. I am <insert your name>, you know."
1) "Thank You."
2) "Yeah I know."
3) "And you're just figuring that out?"
4) "I just love it when a woman tries to flatter her way into my pants. It makes me feel so adorable."
5) "Thanks. But you should see me <insert activity>."
6) "I know. Aren't I awesome?"
7) "I know. I stole it off <insert person>."
8) "Yeah. I <insert verb> it just for you. Glad you liked it."
9) "Well, it's definitely better than what they have here."
10) "Of course. I am <insert your name>, you know."
HOW TO NEVER RUN OUT OF CONVERSATION TOPICS WITH WOMEN
Do you ever have trouble joining in a conversation because you don’t know enough about the topic? If so, you need to work on your general core-knowledge.
Here are some suggestions on how to improve your core knowledge:
a) Read And Learn About Recent Events.
1) Spend at least 15 minutes a day reading the newspaper. Browse the headlines again before you head out.
2) Read at least 2 books every month. Go to a random section of the library and take out a book on a subject you haven’t read about before.
3) Keep track of current books, movies, and music.
4) Read lots of book summaries – especially if you also wish to enhance your career.
b) Improve Your Street Smarts
1) Don’t get stuck in your own world.
2) Don’t waste your life on computer games.
3) Go out and meet lots of DIFFERENT kinds of people.
4) Avoid avoidance. Don’t be afraid of handling tough situations. The more you handle tough situations, the “smoother” you will be.
c) Have Interesting / Funny Stories
1) Travel, travel, travel!
2) Go out a lot.
3) “Be crazy” so that you’ll have wild stories
to tell.
4) Meet tons of people and hear their stories too.
d) Know Good Jokes and Quotes
1) Read joke books.
2) Read autobiographies.
3) Keep a journal of good jokes and quotes.
4) Go to comedy shows.
5) Buy a cheap quote book on Amazon and keep it in the bathroom.
Here are some suggestions on how to improve your core knowledge:
a) Read And Learn About Recent Events.
1) Spend at least 15 minutes a day reading the newspaper. Browse the headlines again before you head out.
2) Read at least 2 books every month. Go to a random section of the library and take out a book on a subject you haven’t read about before.
3) Keep track of current books, movies, and music.
4) Read lots of book summaries – especially if you also wish to enhance your career.
b) Improve Your Street Smarts
1) Don’t get stuck in your own world.
2) Don’t waste your life on computer games.
3) Go out and meet lots of DIFFERENT kinds of people.
4) Avoid avoidance. Don’t be afraid of handling tough situations. The more you handle tough situations, the “smoother” you will be.
c) Have Interesting / Funny Stories
1) Travel, travel, travel!
2) Go out a lot.
3) “Be crazy” so that you’ll have wild stories
to tell.
4) Meet tons of people and hear their stories too.
d) Know Good Jokes and Quotes
1) Read joke books.
2) Read autobiographies.
3) Keep a journal of good jokes and quotes.
4) Go to comedy shows.
5) Buy a cheap quote book on Amazon and keep it in the bathroom.
THREE WAYS TO DEEPEN A CONVERSATION
Here are three ways to deepen a conversation.
1) Talk About The Past
The first technique is to talk about a woman's childhood or about your own childhood. Share what you did or how you were when you were just a little boy. Tell her a cute story or two about your childhood. Then ask "What about you?" and get her to talk about her own childhood.
If you do this correctly, she will automatically feel more comfortable around you because it "feels" like you know something about each other that other people don't know.
2) Talk About The Future
The second technique is to talk about the future. Share your dreams and ambitions. Find out what her goals and passions are.
No matter what they are, be genuinely impressed. Acknowledge her dreams and "believe in her".
3) Talk About Something Outside The Immediate Environment
Once a basic level of rapport has been created, avoid talking about the immediate environment. Why? You want to detach herself from the immediate "reality" and bring her into another world. For example, if you're at a nightclub, then stop talking about all the other people in the nightclub. It will only make her more aware that she is in a nightclub talking to some dude. This will put pressure on her to end the conversation and go back to doing what she was doing.
1) Talk About The Past
The first technique is to talk about a woman's childhood or about your own childhood. Share what you did or how you were when you were just a little boy. Tell her a cute story or two about your childhood. Then ask "What about you?" and get her to talk about her own childhood.
If you do this correctly, she will automatically feel more comfortable around you because it "feels" like you know something about each other that other people don't know.
2) Talk About The Future
The second technique is to talk about the future. Share your dreams and ambitions. Find out what her goals and passions are.
No matter what they are, be genuinely impressed. Acknowledge her dreams and "believe in her".
3) Talk About Something Outside The Immediate Environment
Once a basic level of rapport has been created, avoid talking about the immediate environment. Why? You want to detach herself from the immediate "reality" and bring her into another world. For example, if you're at a nightclub, then stop talking about all the other people in the nightclub. It will only make her more aware that she is in a nightclub talking to some dude. This will put pressure on her to end the conversation and go back to doing what she was doing.
TEN LINES YOU CAN USE TO CREATE AN INCREDIBLE EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH WOMEN
Here are 10 questions that you can use to open up conversation with a woman:
1) "If you had all the money in the world and didn't have to worry about working, what would you be doing?"
2) "What did you want to do when you were a kid?"
3) "What is the craziest thing you have done?"
4) "If you could have one wish, which would it be?"
5) "How do you feel when you meet someone you are instantly attracted to?"
6) "Were you a bad kid or a good kid?"
7) "How about now? Are you are bad girl or a good girl?"
8) "What is the one thing you have always wanted to do?"
9) "If you could be any character from any movie, who would you be?"
10) "What were you like when you were a kid?"
1) "If you had all the money in the world and didn't have to worry about working, what would you be doing?"
2) "What did you want to do when you were a kid?"
3) "What is the craziest thing you have done?"
4) "If you could have one wish, which would it be?"
5) "How do you feel when you meet someone you are instantly attracted to?"
6) "Were you a bad kid or a good kid?"
7) "How about now? Are you are bad girl or a good girl?"
8) "What is the one thing you have always wanted to do?"
9) "If you could be any character from any movie, who would you be?"
10) "What were you like when you were a kid?"
WHAT IF YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND'S GIRLFRIEND
A common question that I get from my readers all the time is, "What should I do if I fall for my best friend's girlfriend?"
I literally blink in disbelief every time I get this question because personally, I think the answer to this question is very clear to any man with some sense of honor.
Your best friend's girlfriend should be off limits, PERIOD. It doesn't matter how much you are attracted to her. He is your best friend's girlfriend! Don't steal her!
We may be living in modern times, but when it comes to friendship and brotherhood, LOYALTY and TRUST are still VERY important.
Remember what I say:
Women come, women go, but best friends are for life!
Now go take a cold shower and stop thinking about your friend's girlfriend!
I literally blink in disbelief every time I get this question because personally, I think the answer to this question is very clear to any man with some sense of honor.
Your best friend's girlfriend should be off limits, PERIOD. It doesn't matter how much you are attracted to her. He is your best friend's girlfriend! Don't steal her!
We may be living in modern times, but when it comes to friendship and brotherhood, LOYALTY and TRUST are still VERY important.
Remember what I say:
Women come, women go, but best friends are for life!
Now go take a cold shower and stop thinking about your friend's girlfriend!
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