DATING TIPS: THINK ABUNDANTLY INSTEAD OF FOCUSING ON ONE WOMAN

So many guys get caught up in the woman that is right in front of them or a 'special girl' that is just so wondrous and 'perfect'.

What they're doing is adding all kinds of value to her from their own perception without really knowing who she is (the other side of her).

Then if they marry her, they get to find out the 'other side' of her.

Most of the time a woman who is seemingly everything a man could want really ISN'T.
When she becomes the focus in the relationship dynamic between you two, the natural paradigm is shifted and she will resent it (having the power)... this never fails.

You start calling a woman too much and telling her 'she's everything' -- the phone calls will drop off and she'll 'need some time'.

It's simple, you betrayed the natural paradigm of being the lead in the relationship so that she can respond to you.


Yes, it's confusing in today's society but still holds true when it comes to instant attraction.

You are living in a world of abundance where millions of women are potential relationship possibilities, so don't ever get hung up on 'the one' and build up fantasies about her that aren't real when you're just holding back from living an effective reality with women.

What you're doing is actually acting more like women used to (building up fantasies), for example like teenage girls do about boy band members.

Yes, a weird analogy but it's true!

You’re building up of value about her and connecting her to the socially perpetuated standard of beauty=sex=desire=everything is just creating a further divergence from anything ever happening with these women.

These women have become objectified by society and men so much, that they are desperate for real men and if you're just going to act like 'she's the one' for you... how selfish is that?!

There's other women who are independent, have value and a lot to offer as well in the world.
What you haven't realized yet is that you probably really don't want to live with them because it means sacrificing more of your own life and personality/character than you ever thought possible.

Just ask any divorced man and you'll find out exactly what I mean. It's a tradeoff that's for sure.
She may be 'everything' seemingly from your own perception, but once you actually get to know her (really), you'll see that she has another side to her that is like a very strong, independent man's that will make any relationship really challenging unless you become the permanent #2 or wussbag/girl in the relationship and she becomes the lead.

Someone has to lead the relationship.

Why do you think we have a 50% divorce rate in society today?

In most cases the man IS being his real self down the road (though upfront a minor discount is that he isn't), but more importantly, our women are not acting the way their grandmothers were; for better and worse. Just realize that she probably isn't all that she's cracked up to be, nobody's perfect and if you did start a relationship with most of these women you probably WOULDN'T want to keep it.

This is more power in your favor plus there are so many women out there who would do all kinds of things to be with a guy like you. Also...

Why do you think women keep wanting to have sex when they almost never reach orgasm with guys?
Because they're feeling 'feelings' physiologically and psycho-sexually on a level way beyond what most (non-tantric) men are feeling.

When most guys reach orgasm, she doesn't, but she felt so many strong feelings throughout her body that she 'didn't get enough' and therefore wants more of that.

It's a balance that works and keeps life itself going.

If you can make her reach the peak of those feelings and orgasm too, all done in mutual respect, you really might have a sexual stalker on your hands.

It's happened to me and it's a good thing when done in respect. When you live in abundance and realize there are so many other women beyond this one, you won't have as much selective perception or put too much aggressing energy into 'having' this woman (which creeps her out); you'll realize there are so many other options and when making a connection, it doesn't even matter what the outcome is.

When this is your energy, she can relax and then you can focus on more important things like a natural conversation and then taking her where things can go if she's open to following.

But even if she's Miss United States; don't become the wussboy and tell her your feelings, professing your love for her.

It betrays the natural paradigm and puts you second in the relationship. Why do you think they keep ending and we have such a wussification in our culture and media?

The roles have flipped and women have become fascinating now as well.

It's up to you to see this.



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