Some people have found love by working from the inside out. They seem to understand what excites them, restores their spirit, and renews their energy. They know what they admire, respect, and need in a partner. These fortunate folks are not only clear thinkers; they are clear feelers, too, in the emotional sense. They don’t fool themselves or feel conflicted about choices in relationships. Others, who know themselves less well, tend to get into relationship loops where they attract and move through very similar romantic patterns without even recognizing it. If you can begin a relationship from a place of self-awareness and clarity, you may find that choices will come easier for you. The first step is to identify your romantic style.
In helping people decipher their relationship dreams, I have observed that women often approach romantic relationships in a particular style—one that stems from their personality and emotional
needs. Relationships tend to run aground when core needs are not met or when priorities are not shared, or at least respected. Often women do not discuss these core needs and personal styles
with their partners because the women themselves are not aware of their priorities until something interferes with them or until they feel less alive in a relationship.
There is nothing rigidly scientific about the four relationship styles I will describe in the next few pages; they are based on clusters of personality traits that present themselves in dreams, in
behaviors, and in the factors that enliven or extinguish our ability to relate.
The differences in these romantic styles can sometimes explain why one person’s delight is another person’s poison. Our priorities do change somewhat as we move through life, and many people feel that they are a blend of these styles. As you read the descriptions that follow, you may recognize your own romantic style, as well as find some pieces of the puzzle that help you understand what you need and why some objectively good partners were ultimately intolerable.
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THE IMPLICATIONS OF ENLISTING YOUR INTUITION
I don’t mean to imply that you should throw out logic or disregard the attributes you find appealing in a potential partner. But you heard it from someone, from women who have been astounded to find that when they stopped looking for what they thought they wanted, they suddenly found what really makes them happy. What they discovered is that intuition and brilliant sanity offer greater awareness of what is really going on with a potential partner and of how that person could impact you in the future.
Sometimes people worry that if they pay attention to their dreams and their intuition, they will learn things they would rather not know and will have to make decisions they would rather not make. This
dread of inner truth is counterproductive and unnecessary. You are free to make any choices you like and to add up all the different elements involved to determine what you feel and what you want.
It is to your advantage, however, to consciously add your intuitive feelings into the mix as you make decisions. Your brilliant sanity and your intuition will minimize the damage of a disappointing experience and let you bounce back and into the arms of real love that much faster. Your deeper awareness will also help to give you a heads-up if you find yourself in one of those relationships where everything looks right and everything feels wrong. Learn to trust your gut and listen to the quiet voice inside that has no agenda except your happiness. This isn’t a matter of making wild decisions on a whim—it is a matter of paying attention to what a part of you already knows and benefiting from that knowledge.
Clear Your Intuitive Radar
Sometimes students and clients will tell me that their intuition does not work. They say they have absolutely no intuition at all or that it sometimes points them in the wrong direction. I believe that intuition is innate, associated with our survival instincts and a rapid-fire ability to recognize patterns
with only minimal cues. This ability is always with us, and it does not get broken. However, like any kind of information- processing system, it can be clogged or blurred, and emotion and worry can overwhelm the ability to interpret subtle awareness.
I offer a statement to clients who feel they are out of sync with their intuition. You can read it aloud once a day to clear away the sense of being separated from your ability to discern clearly. Feel free to alter the wording to suit your style or your personal faith.
Clearing Statement
I accept the power and the clarity of my intuitive abilities. These are natural abilities that are a normal part of life and are not extraordinary or too much to hope for. I forgive any misunderstandings in my past related to the idea of intuition and embrace this potential in myself. All creatures in nature
have a kind of intuition and instinct, and I am a part of nature. Whether or not I have been aware of it, I possess an unerring instinct for life. I accept my instinct for survival and my intuition for happiness. I know when something or someone is good for me and is life affirming, and I know when something
is not right for me, too. I am building my relationship with this inner brilliance on a daily basis, understanding the signals and the voice of my intuition. By understanding how this feels and what it is like, I will be able to recognize my intuition before there is an urgent matter and emotions run
high. I clear away any misperceptions, any illusions, and any false ideas now. I see clearly, I feel clearly, and I listen to my inner wisdom. I am free to make wise choices and to weigh my perceptions as I see fit. I am free. I am wise. I am whole. The truth empowers me and hurts no one.
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Sometimes people worry that if they pay attention to their dreams and their intuition, they will learn things they would rather not know and will have to make decisions they would rather not make. This
dread of inner truth is counterproductive and unnecessary. You are free to make any choices you like and to add up all the different elements involved to determine what you feel and what you want.
It is to your advantage, however, to consciously add your intuitive feelings into the mix as you make decisions. Your brilliant sanity and your intuition will minimize the damage of a disappointing experience and let you bounce back and into the arms of real love that much faster. Your deeper awareness will also help to give you a heads-up if you find yourself in one of those relationships where everything looks right and everything feels wrong. Learn to trust your gut and listen to the quiet voice inside that has no agenda except your happiness. This isn’t a matter of making wild decisions on a whim—it is a matter of paying attention to what a part of you already knows and benefiting from that knowledge.
Clear Your Intuitive Radar
Sometimes students and clients will tell me that their intuition does not work. They say they have absolutely no intuition at all or that it sometimes points them in the wrong direction. I believe that intuition is innate, associated with our survival instincts and a rapid-fire ability to recognize patterns
with only minimal cues. This ability is always with us, and it does not get broken. However, like any kind of information- processing system, it can be clogged or blurred, and emotion and worry can overwhelm the ability to interpret subtle awareness.
I offer a statement to clients who feel they are out of sync with their intuition. You can read it aloud once a day to clear away the sense of being separated from your ability to discern clearly. Feel free to alter the wording to suit your style or your personal faith.
Clearing Statement
I accept the power and the clarity of my intuitive abilities. These are natural abilities that are a normal part of life and are not extraordinary or too much to hope for. I forgive any misunderstandings in my past related to the idea of intuition and embrace this potential in myself. All creatures in nature
have a kind of intuition and instinct, and I am a part of nature. Whether or not I have been aware of it, I possess an unerring instinct for life. I accept my instinct for survival and my intuition for happiness. I know when something or someone is good for me and is life affirming, and I know when something
is not right for me, too. I am building my relationship with this inner brilliance on a daily basis, understanding the signals and the voice of my intuition. By understanding how this feels and what it is like, I will be able to recognize my intuition before there is an urgent matter and emotions run
high. I clear away any misperceptions, any illusions, and any false ideas now. I see clearly, I feel clearly, and I listen to my inner wisdom. I am free to make wise choices and to weigh my perceptions as I see fit. I am free. I am wise. I am whole. The truth empowers me and hurts no one.
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THE INSTINCTIVE FRIENDSHIP FEELING
The next time you meet someone new, instead of evaluating career success, body, or last name, evaluate the friendship factor first. Is this someone you could be friendly with even if a romantic relationship did not blossom? Could you tell this person private things about yourself, or did you feel you had to put on your game face? If you answered no to the first question, this doesn’t mean you
can’t have the sparks and the wow factor as well; but happy couples are friends, and they seem to realize this almost instantly.
We may fantasize about falling into bed with someone, but just as often, the initial meeting of happily married couples resulted in their staying up all night talking, like best friends who had been apart for years and had a lot of catching up to do. We aren’t taught to fantasize about meeting someone terrific and having the conversation of a lifetime, but maybe we should be. These folks tell me that when they went home finally, they knew that the other person was going to be someone very important because of a feeling they have only when they are with very close and old friends.
The subjective feeling of friendship is accurate: even though you might not have known the other person for long, you have an instinctive feeling of trust—you can obviously communicate with
each other, and there is a joy in pouring out observations, anecdotes, and experiences. You are trying not to impress the other person but to share.
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can’t have the sparks and the wow factor as well; but happy couples are friends, and they seem to realize this almost instantly.
We may fantasize about falling into bed with someone, but just as often, the initial meeting of happily married couples resulted in their staying up all night talking, like best friends who had been apart for years and had a lot of catching up to do. We aren’t taught to fantasize about meeting someone terrific and having the conversation of a lifetime, but maybe we should be. These folks tell me that when they went home finally, they knew that the other person was going to be someone very important because of a feeling they have only when they are with very close and old friends.
The subjective feeling of friendship is accurate: even though you might not have known the other person for long, you have an instinctive feeling of trust—you can obviously communicate with
each other, and there is a joy in pouring out observations, anecdotes, and experiences. You are trying not to impress the other person but to share.
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WHAT PATTERN YOU SEE IN RELATIONSHIP YOU SHOULD WATCH OUT FOR
Peculiar Patterns
A peculiar pattern—even a small one—that repeats in a relationship may be a subtle signal of something important. Pay attention to patterns that seem out of place, unusual, or troubling, even if
you cannot explain why they make you uncomfortable.
Kris launched into a fun and fabulous affair with an unusual man she really liked. They had a humorous rapport and a lot of fun together. Although he was a fairly athletic guy, and they were
both young, she noticed that he was awfully clumsy, and that surprised her. Specifically, he seemed to slip often and accidentally bump her or step on her foot. When she got in and out of the car,
when she was carrying something, or when they went through a doorway, he often seemed to misjudge the distance and would bump into her or even accidentally hit her. He always apologized
lovingly, saying, “Oh, sorry, honey, I’m so clumsy.” Something about this bothered her, but she couldn’t put her finger on it. The mere sensation that something is wrong is often a signal from the deeper mind that you should take seriously. Your bodily sensations can be like the language of your dreams, arising from a deeper wisdom and illustrating important truths about your situation
and your feelings.
One day, they got into a heated argument, and the man struck Kris so hard in the face that the blow lifted her off the ground. As she lay face down on the floor, her ears ringing, the many times this man had “accidentally” hit her flashed through her mind.
“It was there all the time,” she told me later. “He was repeatedly unconsciously hitting me, and I didn’t see that as a part of him; I saw it as an accident. But in a way, it was like his subconscious mind was telling mine: I like to hit women.” If this pattern had been part of a dream, Kris might have recognized that it potentially held important meaning for her. In a similar way, we can sometimes interpret as meaningful a repetitive situation that comes with a peculiar feeling in the body if we pause to consider it and allow ourselves to fully explore the sensation without labeling it or dismissing it in a hurry.
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A peculiar pattern—even a small one—that repeats in a relationship may be a subtle signal of something important. Pay attention to patterns that seem out of place, unusual, or troubling, even if
you cannot explain why they make you uncomfortable.
Kris launched into a fun and fabulous affair with an unusual man she really liked. They had a humorous rapport and a lot of fun together. Although he was a fairly athletic guy, and they were
both young, she noticed that he was awfully clumsy, and that surprised her. Specifically, he seemed to slip often and accidentally bump her or step on her foot. When she got in and out of the car,
when she was carrying something, or when they went through a doorway, he often seemed to misjudge the distance and would bump into her or even accidentally hit her. He always apologized
lovingly, saying, “Oh, sorry, honey, I’m so clumsy.” Something about this bothered her, but she couldn’t put her finger on it. The mere sensation that something is wrong is often a signal from the deeper mind that you should take seriously. Your bodily sensations can be like the language of your dreams, arising from a deeper wisdom and illustrating important truths about your situation
and your feelings.
One day, they got into a heated argument, and the man struck Kris so hard in the face that the blow lifted her off the ground. As she lay face down on the floor, her ears ringing, the many times this man had “accidentally” hit her flashed through her mind.
“It was there all the time,” she told me later. “He was repeatedly unconsciously hitting me, and I didn’t see that as a part of him; I saw it as an accident. But in a way, it was like his subconscious mind was telling mine: I like to hit women.” If this pattern had been part of a dream, Kris might have recognized that it potentially held important meaning for her. In a similar way, we can sometimes interpret as meaningful a repetitive situation that comes with a peculiar feeling in the body if we pause to consider it and allow ourselves to fully explore the sensation without labeling it or dismissing it in a hurry.
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WHAT DREAMS DO IN RELATIONSHIP
Flashback Dreams
Pay attention to your dreams when you have just met someone new or have just started dating someone. You will likely have dreams that refer to past partners or past experiences. If those flashback dreams are about relationships that you would not want to repeat, pay attention. There may be good reason to reconsider or to proceed with caution in the relationship, or at the very least to monitor yourself to see if you are slipping into an old pattern that you have already found unfulfilling in the past. If the dreams are about relationships that were happy while they lasted, your deeper mind
may be recognizing a quality that is nourishing to you in a partner.
Symbolic Shorthand Dreams
In your dreams, is the new person you’ve met nice to you or cruel? Does he focus on you or on himself? Do you find yourself asking questions in your dreams about whether or not this person could really be right for you? Surprisingly, your dreams can be months ahead of you in noticing things that don’t work for you or will take time for you to work out and understand. Look at the bottom line of these dreams—typically there is an intuitive thumbs-up or thumbs-down signal.
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Pay attention to your dreams when you have just met someone new or have just started dating someone. You will likely have dreams that refer to past partners or past experiences. If those flashback dreams are about relationships that you would not want to repeat, pay attention. There may be good reason to reconsider or to proceed with caution in the relationship, or at the very least to monitor yourself to see if you are slipping into an old pattern that you have already found unfulfilling in the past. If the dreams are about relationships that were happy while they lasted, your deeper mind
may be recognizing a quality that is nourishing to you in a partner.
Symbolic Shorthand Dreams
In your dreams, is the new person you’ve met nice to you or cruel? Does he focus on you or on himself? Do you find yourself asking questions in your dreams about whether or not this person could really be right for you? Surprisingly, your dreams can be months ahead of you in noticing things that don’t work for you or will take time for you to work out and understand. Look at the bottom line of these dreams—typically there is an intuitive thumbs-up or thumbs-down signal.
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ROMANTIC MEMORY IMPRINTS
Whenever you care about someone, regardless of how the relationship ends, that person becomes an imprint in your memory. Later, if you date someone who has similar behavioral patterns, your
deeper mind will recognize the similarity—even if the two look nothing alike or have different personalities and interests. You will likely dream that you are back in a relationship with the person
from your past, much to your surprise. Or you may find that past love flashing through your mind, seemingly for no reason. When you are with the new person, the relationship from your past may
flicker through your memory. Pay attention to these cues, because they mean that your deeper mind is recognizing similarities and is trying to bring this awareness to your consciousness.
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deeper mind will recognize the similarity—even if the two look nothing alike or have different personalities and interests. You will likely dream that you are back in a relationship with the person
from your past, much to your surprise. Or you may find that past love flashing through your mind, seemingly for no reason. When you are with the new person, the relationship from your past may
flicker through your memory. Pay attention to these cues, because they mean that your deeper mind is recognizing similarities and is trying to bring this awareness to your consciousness.
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HOW YOUR DREAMS AND INTUITION ASSESS RELATIONSHIP
Have you noticed that sometimes friends know before you do when something is off about a new person in your life, or when someone would be good for you? Of course, this could be because
your friends understand your temperament and what makes you happy. But it’s also because friends are not attached to any particular fantasy about someone you’ve met. They are neutral, wanting
only your happiness.
This is exactly the way your deeper mind operates, too. This part of yourself is aware of the importance of love and relationships and wants you to be happy, whatever form that takes. This
part of you is not swept away by a handsome face or an exciting story told over dinner. It is not impressed by money, glibness, false attentiveness, or other methods of seduction. Genuine caring,
consistency, and warmth impress your deeper mind. It is the ultimate lie detector, and if you tune into it, you will be able to spot a phony quickly, no matter how smooth that phony’s presentation
might be. You will also sense when to give someone time and allow a friendship or relationship to unfold. Some of the finest people you will meet will not give razzle-dazzle first impressions
but will have the depth to be interested in your story and your needs. The following sections go over some ways that your intuitive knowing may find expression.
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your friends understand your temperament and what makes you happy. But it’s also because friends are not attached to any particular fantasy about someone you’ve met. They are neutral, wanting
only your happiness.
This is exactly the way your deeper mind operates, too. This part of yourself is aware of the importance of love and relationships and wants you to be happy, whatever form that takes. This
part of you is not swept away by a handsome face or an exciting story told over dinner. It is not impressed by money, glibness, false attentiveness, or other methods of seduction. Genuine caring,
consistency, and warmth impress your deeper mind. It is the ultimate lie detector, and if you tune into it, you will be able to spot a phony quickly, no matter how smooth that phony’s presentation
might be. You will also sense when to give someone time and allow a friendship or relationship to unfold. Some of the finest people you will meet will not give razzle-dazzle first impressions
but will have the depth to be interested in your story and your needs. The following sections go over some ways that your intuitive knowing may find expression.
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HOW TO TRUST YOURSELF
Embrace Your Brilliance and Break the Taboo: Trust Yourself
Trusting yourself is a process. You have learned over time that you can do certain things well without much effort. You know how to guess right within certain frameworks, with people, with money,
at work, or in your hobbies. You have evidence of your brilliance in some contexts and have no trouble trusting your instincts and your ability to improvise and problem solve in those settings. Part
of the reason you trust yourself is that you’ve accumulated evidence in the form of past successes. It’s clear that you know what you’re doing, so you can relax, do what you do best, be present in
the moment, and trust your own reactions.
Another reason you trust yourself is that you have acquired a habitual posture of emotional and psychological balance in those areas where experience has shown that you “just know” how to
make the right decisions. You don’t engage in circular thinking or worry that you might be wrong when you need to make decisions quickly. Even when there is stress involved, you know how to keep your balance the way a downhill skier crouches for speed or the way a surfer rides a wave. You find yourself doing the right thing even before you have entirely thought it through sometimes, because your emotional balance lets you naturally perform at a high level and lets your brilliant sanity emerge unimpaired. You probably know when someone simply wants to waste your time in the workplace, and you probably have a strong sense of when a project is a good one or when a product will be a profitable one to add to your lineup.
Without really knowing it, many of us give ourselves permission to be brilliant and clear in certain areas, but we deny ourselves permission to fully access our instincts in other areas. This functions a little bit like the permissions set on our computers: when we want to know answers in areas where we don’t have permission to be wise, we get an error message in the form of self-doubt, self-criticism, or reminders to be reasonable or not to be silly. Internal static is not a sign that you lack wisdom, but it
can be a sign that you have not given yourself permission to access or trust your wisdom.
Pause now and consider where you trust yourself, where you keep your balance effortlessly, and where you have permission to access your inner wisdom. You may want to have a piece of paper
ready so that you can jot down answers to the following questions.
In what areas of life do you feel you have good instincts? What kind of evidence, in the form of past experiences, do you remember about those areas? Think of times when you might not have had access to necessary information, but nevertheless you knew what to do somehow. Most of us don’t count the almostdaily experiences at the office when we have to complete a project without the data we would have liked to have on hand. Since we have to finish, we just do the project anyway.
In what situations of your life do you find that you somehow keep your emotional and psychological balance despite objective stress? Are you calm in the center of the storm at work? Do you translate conversations for people who can’t seem to understand one another? Do you read your loved ones like a book, and sense what they need to feel better when they’re down? These may be situations in which other people say, “How do you do that? I’d be a nervous wreck.” I know a woman who brings calm and healing to others by volunteering as a victim’s advocate when there has been a suicide or a violent death. She is one of the first people to arrive on the scene to be there to hold the weeping family members.
Most of us would want to be helpful but would find the situation overwhelming or too sad. This woman, though, becomes clearer in this setting and finds it easy to know what to say and do to
offer comfort and calm. She exhibits brilliant sanity in the midst of tragedy.
Where do you have permission to use your instincts? Is it okay to have good instincts for others but not for yourself? Is it okay to do well at your job but not at your personal life? Do you have
permission to try hard but not to succeed? Do you have permission to understand love, or are you supposed to get confused? You may not have a strong sense of the answers to these questions yet;
if that is the case, then just make notes about what you suspect may be true for you.
Romantic love is a context in which we often do not give ourselves permission to trust what we know. We do not feel that we have sufficient evidence of our brilliance, and we have trouble
keeping emotional and psychological balance. For these reasons, even the most intuitive and wise among us can feel blocked and confused as we try to navigate the waters of love.
Fortunately, even though we are each unique, we can learn very rapidly from the successes and observations of others. We can learn the language of inner wisdom through the stories of others,
and this triggers greater awareness of how our own sense of certainty can become stronger, leading us away from disappointment and toward love.
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Trusting yourself is a process. You have learned over time that you can do certain things well without much effort. You know how to guess right within certain frameworks, with people, with money,
at work, or in your hobbies. You have evidence of your brilliance in some contexts and have no trouble trusting your instincts and your ability to improvise and problem solve in those settings. Part
of the reason you trust yourself is that you’ve accumulated evidence in the form of past successes. It’s clear that you know what you’re doing, so you can relax, do what you do best, be present in
the moment, and trust your own reactions.
Another reason you trust yourself is that you have acquired a habitual posture of emotional and psychological balance in those areas where experience has shown that you “just know” how to
make the right decisions. You don’t engage in circular thinking or worry that you might be wrong when you need to make decisions quickly. Even when there is stress involved, you know how to keep your balance the way a downhill skier crouches for speed or the way a surfer rides a wave. You find yourself doing the right thing even before you have entirely thought it through sometimes, because your emotional balance lets you naturally perform at a high level and lets your brilliant sanity emerge unimpaired. You probably know when someone simply wants to waste your time in the workplace, and you probably have a strong sense of when a project is a good one or when a product will be a profitable one to add to your lineup.
Without really knowing it, many of us give ourselves permission to be brilliant and clear in certain areas, but we deny ourselves permission to fully access our instincts in other areas. This functions a little bit like the permissions set on our computers: when we want to know answers in areas where we don’t have permission to be wise, we get an error message in the form of self-doubt, self-criticism, or reminders to be reasonable or not to be silly. Internal static is not a sign that you lack wisdom, but it
can be a sign that you have not given yourself permission to access or trust your wisdom.
Pause now and consider where you trust yourself, where you keep your balance effortlessly, and where you have permission to access your inner wisdom. You may want to have a piece of paper
ready so that you can jot down answers to the following questions.
In what areas of life do you feel you have good instincts? What kind of evidence, in the form of past experiences, do you remember about those areas? Think of times when you might not have had access to necessary information, but nevertheless you knew what to do somehow. Most of us don’t count the almostdaily experiences at the office when we have to complete a project without the data we would have liked to have on hand. Since we have to finish, we just do the project anyway.
In what situations of your life do you find that you somehow keep your emotional and psychological balance despite objective stress? Are you calm in the center of the storm at work? Do you translate conversations for people who can’t seem to understand one another? Do you read your loved ones like a book, and sense what they need to feel better when they’re down? These may be situations in which other people say, “How do you do that? I’d be a nervous wreck.” I know a woman who brings calm and healing to others by volunteering as a victim’s advocate when there has been a suicide or a violent death. She is one of the first people to arrive on the scene to be there to hold the weeping family members.
Most of us would want to be helpful but would find the situation overwhelming or too sad. This woman, though, becomes clearer in this setting and finds it easy to know what to say and do to
offer comfort and calm. She exhibits brilliant sanity in the midst of tragedy.
Where do you have permission to use your instincts? Is it okay to have good instincts for others but not for yourself? Is it okay to do well at your job but not at your personal life? Do you have
permission to try hard but not to succeed? Do you have permission to understand love, or are you supposed to get confused? You may not have a strong sense of the answers to these questions yet;
if that is the case, then just make notes about what you suspect may be true for you.
Romantic love is a context in which we often do not give ourselves permission to trust what we know. We do not feel that we have sufficient evidence of our brilliance, and we have trouble
keeping emotional and psychological balance. For these reasons, even the most intuitive and wise among us can feel blocked and confused as we try to navigate the waters of love.
Fortunately, even though we are each unique, we can learn very rapidly from the successes and observations of others. We can learn the language of inner wisdom through the stories of others,
and this triggers greater awareness of how our own sense of certainty can become stronger, leading us away from disappointment and toward love.
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THE MYTH OF REASONABLENESS IN RELATIONSHIP
Cay's Story
Years ago, a client of mine took a temporary job that placed her in the company of a man she had once been engaged to marry. Ry was powerful, attractive, sensual, and obsessive. Cay had broken off their engagement when Ry’s behavior had become suffocating and exhausting. He had not exactly stalked her afterward, but he had made it clear that he was not giving up on her. She had stayed clear of him for a year and felt safe that of her life was behind her and that they had both moved on. When
her boss placed her on assignment in Ry’s company, Cay had the option of refusing the placement, but she didn’t really think that was necessary, even though she had a dragging feeling in the pit of her stomach. Whenever doubts occurred, she would argue with herself in a bracing way and insist to herself that they would merely have a professional relationship.
Yet it was soon apparent that the chemistry between them was far from gone. Whenever they were together, there was a charge in the room like ozone in the air before a lightning storm. Cay
noticed people glancing back and forth between them, assessing the drama beneath the surface. At that point, she began to experience a division in herself. (When you feel divided, split down the
middle, or awash with feelings that don’t match your thoughts, it can be a sign that brilliant sanity is battling with the prerecorded message to be reasonable.)
Cay felt depressed and tired, physically dragged down, and she was having difficulty concentrating. But she was also feeling flattered by Ry’s attentions. He was the dominant male in their work environment, the big boss, and he was attractive and dynamic. She felt feminine and desirable under the hot spotlight of his attraction. Cay spent more time talking with herself, arguing with some deeper awareness, and insisting that it was a manageable situation. Because she was arguing with her own core of wisdom, she began to feel confused. Perhaps, she wondered, she had made a mistake to break off their engagement—after all, Ry clearly still passionately cared for her after all this time. It was
also clear that many women at the company found him extremely attractive and would have loved to be the object of his attention.
Whenever she tried to reason out the situation, instead of arriving at a logical conclusion, her thoughts took her in a circle, like an amusement park ride, and left her disoriented and fatigued.
But the brilliant sanity inside us is never extinguished, no matter how we refute it or confuse ourselves. It crops up in feelings, thoughts, coincidences, and dreams. In the midst of her situation,
Cay began to have startling nightmares. In one dream, some thugs held her hostage and forced her to build a box of some kind. With growing horror, she realized that she was actually building a coffin, and that it was her own coffin! When she completed the task, the men dragged her outside, gave her a shovel, and ordered her to dig. Shaking with fear, she realized she was digging her own grave. At that point, she woke up with a start.
Let’s consider this dream together. It is easy to see that something is wrong. Cay felt that the dream might have had to do with her dislike of her work because it was boring and didn’t provide her with an opportunity to grow. But instinctively, as we explored it, both Cay and I sensed that the drama of her dream was so intense that this explanation didn’t account for the horror presented. Building your own coffin is a step-by-step process, as is digging your own grave: both images hint at a progressive
movement toward a grim result. In addition, the larger plot of being held captive by thugs seems to suggest an overall lack of freedom or being controlled by others.
When Cay and I discussed the sense of feeling controlled and being a captive, she inevitably thought of the situation with Ry, partly because he had been very controlling in their former relationship, and partly because her present situation affected her in so many different ways that she was essentially paralyzed by it.
Each day she spent working there made her feel less like herself and more mesmerized and confused.
Was Ry ultimately planning to murder her? Well, that is certainly possible, but she did not feel that that was likely or that such a warning was the essential meaning of her dream. She did feel, however, that the dream was showing her the evolution of her current strategy of reasonableness and going with the flow, against what she knew deep down to be true for her: this man, their chemistry,
and the situation at his company were not good for her.
Unlike our tendency to complicate situations, dreams try to simplify them for us. Certain things and people in life make us feel more alive and nourish us, the way sunshine, water, and fresh air nourish plants. Other things and people make us feel less alive, drain our vitality, destroy our confidence, and muddle our mind. The wisdom at your core is basic: it warns you of situations that are poisonous to your vitality, to your spark, by essentially saying, “That road leads to being less alive!”
No More Crazy Love
Cay lost no time extricating herself from her assignment, and she made it clear to Ryan that the past was long over. Surprisingly, after a brief flurry of attempts to contact her, he gave up and left her alone. She also learned something about her inner wisdom that has altered the way she approaches romantic relationships in general. Cay has a compass inside that points toward what makes her happy, what gives her energy, what restores her faith and joy in life. She has never again engaged in what she calls crazy love, that enticing alchemy of sexual energy that comes with unhealthy strings attached. She trusts her dreams and her instincts to warn her of missteps early on, and although she is not sure if she ultimately wishes to marry or not, she has rewarding, genuinely loving relationships that are fulfilling and passionate, that don’t hold her back or make her feel small. Perhaps most important, Cay feels connected with her ability to know what is true for her and to make choices based on that awareness. She feels connected with her core of wisdom, and she trusts herself.
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Years ago, a client of mine took a temporary job that placed her in the company of a man she had once been engaged to marry. Ry was powerful, attractive, sensual, and obsessive. Cay had broken off their engagement when Ry’s behavior had become suffocating and exhausting. He had not exactly stalked her afterward, but he had made it clear that he was not giving up on her. She had stayed clear of him for a year and felt safe that of her life was behind her and that they had both moved on. When
her boss placed her on assignment in Ry’s company, Cay had the option of refusing the placement, but she didn’t really think that was necessary, even though she had a dragging feeling in the pit of her stomach. Whenever doubts occurred, she would argue with herself in a bracing way and insist to herself that they would merely have a professional relationship.
Yet it was soon apparent that the chemistry between them was far from gone. Whenever they were together, there was a charge in the room like ozone in the air before a lightning storm. Cay
noticed people glancing back and forth between them, assessing the drama beneath the surface. At that point, she began to experience a division in herself. (When you feel divided, split down the
middle, or awash with feelings that don’t match your thoughts, it can be a sign that brilliant sanity is battling with the prerecorded message to be reasonable.)
Cay felt depressed and tired, physically dragged down, and she was having difficulty concentrating. But she was also feeling flattered by Ry’s attentions. He was the dominant male in their work environment, the big boss, and he was attractive and dynamic. She felt feminine and desirable under the hot spotlight of his attraction. Cay spent more time talking with herself, arguing with some deeper awareness, and insisting that it was a manageable situation. Because she was arguing with her own core of wisdom, she began to feel confused. Perhaps, she wondered, she had made a mistake to break off their engagement—after all, Ry clearly still passionately cared for her after all this time. It was
also clear that many women at the company found him extremely attractive and would have loved to be the object of his attention.
Whenever she tried to reason out the situation, instead of arriving at a logical conclusion, her thoughts took her in a circle, like an amusement park ride, and left her disoriented and fatigued.
But the brilliant sanity inside us is never extinguished, no matter how we refute it or confuse ourselves. It crops up in feelings, thoughts, coincidences, and dreams. In the midst of her situation,
Cay began to have startling nightmares. In one dream, some thugs held her hostage and forced her to build a box of some kind. With growing horror, she realized that she was actually building a coffin, and that it was her own coffin! When she completed the task, the men dragged her outside, gave her a shovel, and ordered her to dig. Shaking with fear, she realized she was digging her own grave. At that point, she woke up with a start.
Let’s consider this dream together. It is easy to see that something is wrong. Cay felt that the dream might have had to do with her dislike of her work because it was boring and didn’t provide her with an opportunity to grow. But instinctively, as we explored it, both Cay and I sensed that the drama of her dream was so intense that this explanation didn’t account for the horror presented. Building your own coffin is a step-by-step process, as is digging your own grave: both images hint at a progressive
movement toward a grim result. In addition, the larger plot of being held captive by thugs seems to suggest an overall lack of freedom or being controlled by others.
When Cay and I discussed the sense of feeling controlled and being a captive, she inevitably thought of the situation with Ry, partly because he had been very controlling in their former relationship, and partly because her present situation affected her in so many different ways that she was essentially paralyzed by it.
Each day she spent working there made her feel less like herself and more mesmerized and confused.
Was Ry ultimately planning to murder her? Well, that is certainly possible, but she did not feel that that was likely or that such a warning was the essential meaning of her dream. She did feel, however, that the dream was showing her the evolution of her current strategy of reasonableness and going with the flow, against what she knew deep down to be true for her: this man, their chemistry,
and the situation at his company were not good for her.
Unlike our tendency to complicate situations, dreams try to simplify them for us. Certain things and people in life make us feel more alive and nourish us, the way sunshine, water, and fresh air nourish plants. Other things and people make us feel less alive, drain our vitality, destroy our confidence, and muddle our mind. The wisdom at your core is basic: it warns you of situations that are poisonous to your vitality, to your spark, by essentially saying, “That road leads to being less alive!”
No More Crazy Love
Cay lost no time extricating herself from her assignment, and she made it clear to Ryan that the past was long over. Surprisingly, after a brief flurry of attempts to contact her, he gave up and left her alone. She also learned something about her inner wisdom that has altered the way she approaches romantic relationships in general. Cay has a compass inside that points toward what makes her happy, what gives her energy, what restores her faith and joy in life. She has never again engaged in what she calls crazy love, that enticing alchemy of sexual energy that comes with unhealthy strings attached. She trusts her dreams and her instincts to warn her of missteps early on, and although she is not sure if she ultimately wishes to marry or not, she has rewarding, genuinely loving relationships that are fulfilling and passionate, that don’t hold her back or make her feel small. Perhaps most important, Cay feels connected with her ability to know what is true for her and to make choices based on that awareness. She feels connected with her core of wisdom, and she trusts herself.
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LOVE AFFAIR OF SUBJECTIVE
The Taboo of the Subjective
For whatever reason, it almost seems as if we were brainwashed to discount our core of instincts, intuition, and brilliant sanity.
Perhaps in our love affair with technology and science, our worship of facts and discoveries, we have become doubtful of information that presents itself through subjective awareness. Whatever the reason, it takes boldness to listen to your personal wisdom, to give it credence, to follow the warning in your gut or attend to the thought that flashes across your mind.
Many of us, myself included, try to argue with our feelings of fear, almost scolding ourselves if we feel doubtful about someone or if we feel reluctant to place ourselves at risk. It seems at times that we feel we are breaking an unspoken rule if we choose to listen to what we know and honor what is true for us. Those of us who choose to become better acquainted with the brilliance that lives inside of us must be ready to break through the taboo that we shouldn’t listen to what our intuition is telling us.
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For whatever reason, it almost seems as if we were brainwashed to discount our core of instincts, intuition, and brilliant sanity.
Perhaps in our love affair with technology and science, our worship of facts and discoveries, we have become doubtful of information that presents itself through subjective awareness. Whatever the reason, it takes boldness to listen to your personal wisdom, to give it credence, to follow the warning in your gut or attend to the thought that flashes across your mind.
Many of us, myself included, try to argue with our feelings of fear, almost scolding ourselves if we feel doubtful about someone or if we feel reluctant to place ourselves at risk. It seems at times that we feel we are breaking an unspoken rule if we choose to listen to what we know and honor what is true for us. Those of us who choose to become better acquainted with the brilliance that lives inside of us must be ready to break through the taboo that we shouldn’t listen to what our intuition is telling us.
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FLASHES OF KNOWING
Everyone has this capacity, and one of the best ways to have it function well in our lives is to discuss it and pay attention to it. Flashes of knowing also are the part of you that lets you know when
you need to slow down, take a breath, and get back to your center if you have been racing at high speed for too long. In relationships, this coming back to your center is critical for understanding
another person and for making decisions with confidence.
Research into intuition suggests that our first impressions are quite often accurate, yet many of us have a difficult time accepting the wave of knowing that rises from within. I’ve talked to some folks who have experienced miserable marriages, and they have told me that they knew as they walked down the aisle that they were making a terrible mistake. They argued with themselves that the sense of dread they felt was simply a case of cold feet, not to be taken seriously. They told themselves
they had to be mature, to make a commitment, to keep a bargain they didn’t really want, when some knowledge of the heart said, “Don’t.”
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you need to slow down, take a breath, and get back to your center if you have been racing at high speed for too long. In relationships, this coming back to your center is critical for understanding
another person and for making decisions with confidence.
Research into intuition suggests that our first impressions are quite often accurate, yet many of us have a difficult time accepting the wave of knowing that rises from within. I’ve talked to some folks who have experienced miserable marriages, and they have told me that they knew as they walked down the aisle that they were making a terrible mistake. They argued with themselves that the sense of dread they felt was simply a case of cold feet, not to be taken seriously. They told themselves
they had to be mature, to make a commitment, to keep a bargain they didn’t really want, when some knowledge of the heart said, “Don’t.”
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THE THREE BLINDERS OF RELATIONSHIP
Within you is a core of wisdom that Buddhist teachers call brilliant sanity. It is an intelligence that turns toward the truth the way a plant turns toward the sun: instinctively. This wisdom can operate with insufficient facts, accurately assessing the future and maintaining your sense of clarity even as you contend with situations fraught with emotion or desire. This wisdom tends not only to perceive reality clearly but also to view yourself and others with kindness and compassion. This doesn’t mean you operate like a psychic sponge, taking on the problems of others out of concern—you can maintain strong, healthy boundaries and still have compassion for others. What it does mean is that your core of brilliant sanity tends to be kind, and part of that kindness is a loving understanding
of yourself, of what you need, and of what your unique nature requires in order to feel fulfilled in a loving relationship.
You have already encountered this trait in yourself. Think about it: Do you sometimes sense who is calling when the phone rings, or know just where to look for a lost item even though someone else
misplaced it? Can you sometimes find parking places by almost feeling their location? You may know just the right thing to say to people, to help them relax or start to open up. You may know
what is really going on with others, in a way that they miss, when they experience a misunderstanding or a lack of communication. The best tool you have for navigating the landscape of love, for keeping yourself safe, for finding and nourishing the relationships you need, is this vital instinct, this deep intelligence that appears with flashes of brilliance: brilliant sanity.
Intuitive signals and dreams are two ways that your deeper core of wisdom communicates and expresses itself. There is nothing spooky about this; it is a natural part of your intelligence reflecting
aspects of your experience that may not yet be at the forefront of your awareness. In some cases, dreams and intuition appear to be almost magic because, through them, we become aware of information or insights that have been obscured or hidden. At any given time, you know more than you can be aware of consciously, and your flashes of insight and your dreams demonstrate this deeper knowing; they not only reflect what is going on in your life but also highlight what is most important to understand in your relationships.
If you are like many of the women in my classes, you are frustrated because you have excellent instincts about other people’s relationships, and feel a little blind or confused about your own.
Why is it that we can be so brilliant and intuitive about some parts of life, yet feel bewildered and cut off from our own wisdom in other parts of life?
The Three Blinders: Importance, Desire, and Fear
When a situation is extremely important to us, we have a tendency to go blank on our instincts and to overthink the situation.
When there is a powerful emotional component, and when there is something in the situation that we fear as well as something we desire, these things can clog our ability to hear our inner wisdom or understand our gut instincts. That is why when you are talking with friends about their situations you may have excellent instincts and a feeling that you know what is going on and how it will play out. But when you are trying to get a sense of clarity with a romance of your own, you may be inadvertently blocking your core knowing because of fear, desire, and a personal investment in
the outcome.
When we deal with romance, sometimes wishful thinking, small resentments, desperation and loneliness, or even a false feeling of worthlessness easily confuse us. This may ignite an urge to try to fool someone into loving us, or cause us to feel like an imposter. Both men and women feel the stakes are high, our feelings are hooked, and it is easy to feel we must captivate and conceal our “flaws” in order to be loved. Of course, these thoughts are illusions, but when we deal with fear and desire, we
tend to drift away from that core of brilliant sanity and forget not only what we really want but also who we really are. When we abandon the core self, for whatever reason, we also detach from our intuition and our truth-detector.
If you have been hurt by love (and who hasn’t?), you may search for a partner, but all the while be tracing your scars and probing old wounds. When you meet new people, the matchmaker in your
heart may feel a flutter of hope while the district attorney in your mind is ready to indict them for crimes they could never have committed. I know people who strap on their bitterness when they
go out to meet someone new, like a western gunslinger buckling his gun belt, and then wait, hand poised over their weapon, for a person to make one false move so they can gun him down. It is
understandable that even the most resilient among us is wary and bruised, and that in the search for companionship we alternate between romantic fantasies and flinty-eyed cynicism.
Despite these tendencies to approach the topic of love with divided concerns, your instinct for happiness is still intact, and your ability to know what is real and to do the right thing for yourself
is alive and well. The brilliance at your core is always speaking to you through your dreams and your subtle intuitions. If you slow down and listen, you will often find that you already know what is
true about a situation and that you already know how you really feel about someone.
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of yourself, of what you need, and of what your unique nature requires in order to feel fulfilled in a loving relationship.
You have already encountered this trait in yourself. Think about it: Do you sometimes sense who is calling when the phone rings, or know just where to look for a lost item even though someone else
misplaced it? Can you sometimes find parking places by almost feeling their location? You may know just the right thing to say to people, to help them relax or start to open up. You may know
what is really going on with others, in a way that they miss, when they experience a misunderstanding or a lack of communication. The best tool you have for navigating the landscape of love, for keeping yourself safe, for finding and nourishing the relationships you need, is this vital instinct, this deep intelligence that appears with flashes of brilliance: brilliant sanity.
Intuitive signals and dreams are two ways that your deeper core of wisdom communicates and expresses itself. There is nothing spooky about this; it is a natural part of your intelligence reflecting
aspects of your experience that may not yet be at the forefront of your awareness. In some cases, dreams and intuition appear to be almost magic because, through them, we become aware of information or insights that have been obscured or hidden. At any given time, you know more than you can be aware of consciously, and your flashes of insight and your dreams demonstrate this deeper knowing; they not only reflect what is going on in your life but also highlight what is most important to understand in your relationships.
If you are like many of the women in my classes, you are frustrated because you have excellent instincts about other people’s relationships, and feel a little blind or confused about your own.
Why is it that we can be so brilliant and intuitive about some parts of life, yet feel bewildered and cut off from our own wisdom in other parts of life?
The Three Blinders: Importance, Desire, and Fear
When a situation is extremely important to us, we have a tendency to go blank on our instincts and to overthink the situation.
When there is a powerful emotional component, and when there is something in the situation that we fear as well as something we desire, these things can clog our ability to hear our inner wisdom or understand our gut instincts. That is why when you are talking with friends about their situations you may have excellent instincts and a feeling that you know what is going on and how it will play out. But when you are trying to get a sense of clarity with a romance of your own, you may be inadvertently blocking your core knowing because of fear, desire, and a personal investment in
the outcome.
When we deal with romance, sometimes wishful thinking, small resentments, desperation and loneliness, or even a false feeling of worthlessness easily confuse us. This may ignite an urge to try to fool someone into loving us, or cause us to feel like an imposter. Both men and women feel the stakes are high, our feelings are hooked, and it is easy to feel we must captivate and conceal our “flaws” in order to be loved. Of course, these thoughts are illusions, but when we deal with fear and desire, we
tend to drift away from that core of brilliant sanity and forget not only what we really want but also who we really are. When we abandon the core self, for whatever reason, we also detach from our intuition and our truth-detector.
If you have been hurt by love (and who hasn’t?), you may search for a partner, but all the while be tracing your scars and probing old wounds. When you meet new people, the matchmaker in your
heart may feel a flutter of hope while the district attorney in your mind is ready to indict them for crimes they could never have committed. I know people who strap on their bitterness when they
go out to meet someone new, like a western gunslinger buckling his gun belt, and then wait, hand poised over their weapon, for a person to make one false move so they can gun him down. It is
understandable that even the most resilient among us is wary and bruised, and that in the search for companionship we alternate between romantic fantasies and flinty-eyed cynicism.
Despite these tendencies to approach the topic of love with divided concerns, your instinct for happiness is still intact, and your ability to know what is real and to do the right thing for yourself
is alive and well. The brilliance at your core is always speaking to you through your dreams and your subtle intuitions. If you slow down and listen, you will often find that you already know what is
true about a situation and that you already know how you really feel about someone.
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THE BRAIN IS THE LARGEST ORGAN
The Brain Is the Largest Sex Organ (and Size Matters!)
Even though it feels genital, the vast majority of love and sex occurs in the brain. Your brain decides who is attractive to you, how to get a date, how well you do on the date, what to do with the feelings that develop, how long those feelings last, when to commit, and how well you do as a partner and a parent. Your brain helps you be enthusiastic in the bedroom or drains you of desire and passion. Your brain helps you process and learn from a breakup or makes you vulnerable to depression or obsession. When the brain works right, it helps you be thoughtful, playful, romantic, intimate, committed, and loving with your partner. When the brain is dysfunctional, it causes you to be
impulsive, distracted, addicted, unfaithful, angry, and even hateful, thus ruining chances for continued intimacy and love.
Your brain is also the seat of orgasms. Some research implicates the right hemisphere of the brain. In fact, certain forms of epilepsy, especially those found in the right temporal lobe, have been associated with spontaneous orgasms. In one case from Taiwan, a forty-one-year old woman had seizures that were induced only when she brushed her teeth. The seizure started with the feelings of being sexually aroused, then she felt an orgasmlike euphoria wash over her, which was followed by feelings of confusion. Her brain-imaging studies showed problems in the right temporal lobe, an area that has been associated with both orgasms and religious experience. When someone has orgasmiclike feelings when brushing her teeth, odds are that she will have very clean pearly whites.
Scientists agree that the brain is the organ of behavior; as such, it really is the largest sex organ in the body (about three pounds), and in this case size really does matter. Our brain becomes less and less active and decreases in overall size as we age. This is true for males and females and there appears to be an equal loss of gray matter (nerve cell bodies) and white matter (the connections between nerve cells). If you learn to take care of your brain, however, it can be active and healthy throughout your life. With targeted interventions, you can impact brain health, lose less brain tissue, and keep your brain healthy well into your elderly years.
Why does this matter to sexual function? As the brain dims in activity over the decades, so, too, does many people’s sexual function. The two go together. In men between the ages of forty and seventy studied over a nine-year period, there was a signiô€€³cant decline in sexual function with age. This is consistent with past studies that have shown a decline in sexual desire, intercourse, and erection frequency. Erectile dysfunction (ED) is very common and increases with age. Forty percent of men in their forties, and 70 percent in their seventies had problems. In women, aging and menopause often negatively affect sexual interest and performance.
A major reason underlying both sexual and brain dysfunction is decreased blood flow. Blood does so many important things. It brings oxygen, sugar, and nutrients to your cells and it takes away waste products. Anything that interferes with healthy blood flow will impair an oxygen, sugar, and nutrients to your cells and it takes away waste products. Anything that interferes with healthy blood flow will impair an organ’s functioning. Decreased blood flow to genitals from hypertension; vascular disease; diabetes; toxic exposure, such as drug abuse or smoking; physical trauma; and other causes impairs sexual function. Increased blood flow, from targeted interventions including exercise, ginkgo, and compounds that increase nitric oxide, such as Viagra and ginseng, improves function and reverses aging.
Likewise, decreased blood flow to your brain, from any cause, decreases brain function, which means you are likely to make impaired decisions and subsequently have less sex. Few scientists have looked at the connection between brain health and sexual behavior. That’s where I come in. My primary work is as a brain-imaging specialist. I have been doing imaging work for more than sixteen years and my clinics have the world’s largest database of scans related to behavior, more than 35,000. We look at the brain on a daily basis using a sophisticated study called SPECT imaging. SPECT stands for “single photon emission computed tomography,” a nuclear medicine study that evaluates blood ô€€·ow and activity patterns in the brain. We have looked at many healthy brains and brains in trouble. We have looked at the brains of children, teenagers, adults, and the elderly. We have looked at brains on medications, drug and alcohol abuse, supplements, prayer and meditation, gratitude, and a wide variety of psychological and biological treatments. We have looked at the brain in love, lust,
commitment, divorce, domestic violence, sexual abuse, and loss.
At our clinics, our primary work is to help maximize people’s brain function for the most satisfying and healthy life possible. We help healthy people who want to improve their own brain function, as well as treat attention deficit disorders (ADD), mood and anxiety disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorders, addictions, temper problems, and memory disturbances. We often help individuals and couples who struggle with relationship and sexual problems of all kinds. It is really possible to dramatically improve brain function, whether your brain is troubled or not, and thus dramatically improve your life. Our guiding principle for the past sixteen years has been “Change your brain,
change your life.”
Since most people cannot see the brain, it is often left out of the equations of our lives. Yet, it is at the core of our personal universe. Connecting sex and the brain through the lens of brain imaging has been one of the most fascinating journeys of my life, and I will share it with you in this book. I became much more effective in helping couples when I started looking at their relationships and sexuality together with brain function. It is clear that healthy brain function is associated with more loving and sexual relationships, while poor brain function is associated with more lighting, less sex, and higher divorce rates. In committed relationships, sex is a critical ingredient for health and longevity, but most people never connect the brain and sex. I start with a clear bias: Sex is best in the context of a committed, loving relationship. Anthropologist Helen Fisher writes, “Do not copulate
with people you do not want to fall in love with, because you might do just that.” Sex bonds you to others, and in some cases, if you are not careful and thoughtful, it can put you in bondage to others. Although this is my bias, it is not always the context of some of the research studies I will share with you on the sexual benefits for health and longevity, which are based solely on sexual frequency.
Having acknowledged that fact, there are other studies that strongly suggest a happy marriage is also associated with longevity, which usually means not sharing yourself sexually outside your primary relationship. The discussion throughout the book is on heterosexual relationships, but the same principles apply to all committed, loving relationships.
Based on my latest research, this book will share twelve practical neuroscience lessons to enhance your love and sex life. Practical neuroscience is a term I coined for the study of applying the latest brain research to everyday life. I am the type of person, like many of you, who always wants to know why I should learn something. If it isn’t practical or helpful, then I don’t want to expend great amounts of neuronal effort on it. The reason to study neuroscience is that it is immensely practical.
Here’s an example:
On a recent faculty retreat with the University of California, Irvine Department of Psychiatry, where I teach psychiatric residents, I was walking back from dinner through a shopping district along the quaint cobblestone streets of Taormina, Sicily, with one of my colleagues and his wife. They were talking about buying shoes. The wife wanted her husband to go with her to the shoe boutique and he was balking a bit. I looked at him and said, “You want to go with her.” He gave me a quizzical look which said, “Why?”
I replied, “In the brain, the sensory area of the foot is right next door to the sensory area for the clitoris. Unknowingly, women often feel that buying shoes is like foreplay. Feet are one of the best ways to a woman’s affections.” With my friend’s help, his wife bought three pairs of shoes the next day. He had a smile on his face for the rest of the trip.
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- As you walk by me, millions of nerve cells spark in my brain and I have to turn to look at you again.
- You look back at me and a soft, brief smile forms on your lips. As you notice my eyes following you, your smile triggers an adrenaline release that causes my heart to leap with excitement.
- Chemicals send increased blood flow to sensitive areas, as thoughts of you light the emotional fire centers of my mind.
- For a brief moment you literally live in my skin.
- As we connect, my mind works overtime obsessing on your smell and the color of your eyes.
- You beat in my heart.
- You pulse in my nervous system from the nerve pathways of my brain to the soles of my feet.
- I start to become disoriented when we are apart.
- Over time, your touch becomes essential.
- I crave you.
- Your body feels warm and reassuring.
- I need it next to me.
- I sleep peacefully knowing you are near, and wake often in the dark to feel your skin.
- I never want to get out of bed when I am lying next to you.
- I look for you in my brain when you are away.
- Your voice sweetens the vibrations in the air.
- My mind beseeches me to make love to you, again and again.
- Our bodies navigate space together.
- Your mind reads mine as you know how I want to be touched.
- How does that happen?
- You must have cells that mirror my desires.
- The neurons of my eyes light up with sparks when you walk in a room, especially if you have been away for a while.
- Songs, smells, places, and pictures never let me forget you as they trigger the memory centers in my brain where you live as if you were next to me.
- The judgment part of my brain watches what I say when we are together so I can protect your feelings.
- I watch how your eyes, face, and body move as you talk to me, to know if you are happy, desirous, or in need of a hug or understanding.
Even though it feels genital, the vast majority of love and sex occurs in the brain. Your brain decides who is attractive to you, how to get a date, how well you do on the date, what to do with the feelings that develop, how long those feelings last, when to commit, and how well you do as a partner and a parent. Your brain helps you be enthusiastic in the bedroom or drains you of desire and passion. Your brain helps you process and learn from a breakup or makes you vulnerable to depression or obsession. When the brain works right, it helps you be thoughtful, playful, romantic, intimate, committed, and loving with your partner. When the brain is dysfunctional, it causes you to be
impulsive, distracted, addicted, unfaithful, angry, and even hateful, thus ruining chances for continued intimacy and love.
Your brain is also the seat of orgasms. Some research implicates the right hemisphere of the brain. In fact, certain forms of epilepsy, especially those found in the right temporal lobe, have been associated with spontaneous orgasms. In one case from Taiwan, a forty-one-year old woman had seizures that were induced only when she brushed her teeth. The seizure started with the feelings of being sexually aroused, then she felt an orgasmlike euphoria wash over her, which was followed by feelings of confusion. Her brain-imaging studies showed problems in the right temporal lobe, an area that has been associated with both orgasms and religious experience. When someone has orgasmiclike feelings when brushing her teeth, odds are that she will have very clean pearly whites.
Scientists agree that the brain is the organ of behavior; as such, it really is the largest sex organ in the body (about three pounds), and in this case size really does matter. Our brain becomes less and less active and decreases in overall size as we age. This is true for males and females and there appears to be an equal loss of gray matter (nerve cell bodies) and white matter (the connections between nerve cells). If you learn to take care of your brain, however, it can be active and healthy throughout your life. With targeted interventions, you can impact brain health, lose less brain tissue, and keep your brain healthy well into your elderly years.
Why does this matter to sexual function? As the brain dims in activity over the decades, so, too, does many people’s sexual function. The two go together. In men between the ages of forty and seventy studied over a nine-year period, there was a signiô€€³cant decline in sexual function with age. This is consistent with past studies that have shown a decline in sexual desire, intercourse, and erection frequency. Erectile dysfunction (ED) is very common and increases with age. Forty percent of men in their forties, and 70 percent in their seventies had problems. In women, aging and menopause often negatively affect sexual interest and performance.
A major reason underlying both sexual and brain dysfunction is decreased blood flow. Blood does so many important things. It brings oxygen, sugar, and nutrients to your cells and it takes away waste products. Anything that interferes with healthy blood flow will impair an oxygen, sugar, and nutrients to your cells and it takes away waste products. Anything that interferes with healthy blood flow will impair an organ’s functioning. Decreased blood flow to genitals from hypertension; vascular disease; diabetes; toxic exposure, such as drug abuse or smoking; physical trauma; and other causes impairs sexual function. Increased blood flow, from targeted interventions including exercise, ginkgo, and compounds that increase nitric oxide, such as Viagra and ginseng, improves function and reverses aging.
Likewise, decreased blood flow to your brain, from any cause, decreases brain function, which means you are likely to make impaired decisions and subsequently have less sex. Few scientists have looked at the connection between brain health and sexual behavior. That’s where I come in. My primary work is as a brain-imaging specialist. I have been doing imaging work for more than sixteen years and my clinics have the world’s largest database of scans related to behavior, more than 35,000. We look at the brain on a daily basis using a sophisticated study called SPECT imaging. SPECT stands for “single photon emission computed tomography,” a nuclear medicine study that evaluates blood ô€€·ow and activity patterns in the brain. We have looked at many healthy brains and brains in trouble. We have looked at the brains of children, teenagers, adults, and the elderly. We have looked at brains on medications, drug and alcohol abuse, supplements, prayer and meditation, gratitude, and a wide variety of psychological and biological treatments. We have looked at the brain in love, lust,
commitment, divorce, domestic violence, sexual abuse, and loss.
At our clinics, our primary work is to help maximize people’s brain function for the most satisfying and healthy life possible. We help healthy people who want to improve their own brain function, as well as treat attention deficit disorders (ADD), mood and anxiety disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorders, addictions, temper problems, and memory disturbances. We often help individuals and couples who struggle with relationship and sexual problems of all kinds. It is really possible to dramatically improve brain function, whether your brain is troubled or not, and thus dramatically improve your life. Our guiding principle for the past sixteen years has been “Change your brain,
change your life.”
Since most people cannot see the brain, it is often left out of the equations of our lives. Yet, it is at the core of our personal universe. Connecting sex and the brain through the lens of brain imaging has been one of the most fascinating journeys of my life, and I will share it with you in this book. I became much more effective in helping couples when I started looking at their relationships and sexuality together with brain function. It is clear that healthy brain function is associated with more loving and sexual relationships, while poor brain function is associated with more lighting, less sex, and higher divorce rates. In committed relationships, sex is a critical ingredient for health and longevity, but most people never connect the brain and sex. I start with a clear bias: Sex is best in the context of a committed, loving relationship. Anthropologist Helen Fisher writes, “Do not copulate
with people you do not want to fall in love with, because you might do just that.” Sex bonds you to others, and in some cases, if you are not careful and thoughtful, it can put you in bondage to others. Although this is my bias, it is not always the context of some of the research studies I will share with you on the sexual benefits for health and longevity, which are based solely on sexual frequency.
Having acknowledged that fact, there are other studies that strongly suggest a happy marriage is also associated with longevity, which usually means not sharing yourself sexually outside your primary relationship. The discussion throughout the book is on heterosexual relationships, but the same principles apply to all committed, loving relationships.
Based on my latest research, this book will share twelve practical neuroscience lessons to enhance your love and sex life. Practical neuroscience is a term I coined for the study of applying the latest brain research to everyday life. I am the type of person, like many of you, who always wants to know why I should learn something. If it isn’t practical or helpful, then I don’t want to expend great amounts of neuronal effort on it. The reason to study neuroscience is that it is immensely practical.
Here’s an example:
On a recent faculty retreat with the University of California, Irvine Department of Psychiatry, where I teach psychiatric residents, I was walking back from dinner through a shopping district along the quaint cobblestone streets of Taormina, Sicily, with one of my colleagues and his wife. They were talking about buying shoes. The wife wanted her husband to go with her to the shoe boutique and he was balking a bit. I looked at him and said, “You want to go with her.” He gave me a quizzical look which said, “Why?”
I replied, “In the brain, the sensory area of the foot is right next door to the sensory area for the clitoris. Unknowingly, women often feel that buying shoes is like foreplay. Feet are one of the best ways to a woman’s affections.” With my friend’s help, his wife bought three pairs of shoes the next day. He had a smile on his face for the rest of the trip.
If you want to submit articles, poems, love stories, love letters, write ups you like to share to us and to the world. Kindly email us at authorsviewpoint@gmail.com We will email you back once it is up on our site with credits and feature you as the author of the month. Continue supporting www.lovelifediaries.blogspot.com Thank You my Loves! ;)
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WHAT ROMANTIC WAYS WILL MAKE YOUR PARTNER HAPPY
1. As a special gift, name a Star after your partner. A number of astronomical agencies allow individuals to name stars and you receive formal documentation identifying the star that you have named.
2. Find a comic strip that relates to something that you and your partner have shared together, for example perhaps you both work in the same office and you find a Dilbert cartoon that relates to the politics at your workplace. Enlarge the cartoon using a photocopier and use white-out to cover the
cartoon text. Type up your own text that relates to you and your partner and paste it in the appropriate places and then photocopy the cartoon again so that it looks like your text was the actual text of the cartoon. For an added touch, get your customized cartoon laminated before giving it to your partner.
3. When you and your partner are enjoying a restful time away, organize to wake up early one morning and go to a scenic spot to watch the sun rise. This may seem difficult but it is something which is definitely worth doing at least once. Seeing a new day being born is something really special to share with your partner.
4. When you have access to a spa, create a romantic atmosphere by placing some candles around the tub and some rose petals floating on the surface of the water.
As your partner enjoys the water, serve champagne and chocolate covered strawberries before joining her.
5. Create some love coupons that your partner can exchange for romantic favors.
For example you could have a coupon that reads
This coupon entitles the bearer to:
One Body Massage.
Use by 07/08/2020
Use a date many years in the future if you want to suggest that you and your partner will always be together.
6. On a warm summers night, organize a backyard picnic. Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.
7. Next time it is raining really heavily, go for a walk with your partner. Forget the umbrellas and the raincoats. Run through the streets together, jump in puddles and get totally saturated. Pick her up, twirl her around and kiss her while the rain falls. Taste the water off her face and hold her close.
When you get back home have a hot shower and then share a warm drink preferably in front of an open fire.
8. Organize a hot air ballooning trip as a special surprise. Most trips begin with a glass of champagne before you float over the countryside with your partner.
9. When your partner is sitting at a table or desk, come up behind him or her and give her a back, shoulder and head massage. Finish with a gentle kiss on the cheek.
10. Place an ad in the paper on a normal day saying something like:
Dear Wendy,
With you by my side, everyday feels like Valentines Day.
Thank you for being you.
Love,
Peter
11. Buy a book that you and your partner are both interested in reading. Read one chapter each night in bed with each of you taking turns to read out loud. This can be a great alternative to television.
12. When your partner is having a shower or bath, take her towel and place it in the dryer to make it really warm and then wrap her up in it when she is done.
13. Photocopy your hand and fax a copy of it to your partner with a message saying, "Do ya wanna hold hands?"
14. Next time you order a pizza, ask to have it cut into a heart shape before it is delivered to your home.
15. Buy a box of chocolates and very carefully open one side of the plastic wrap so that you can gently slide the box out. Open the box and place a love note inside. Then slide the box back into its plastic wrap and reseal it.
16. Rent a tandem bike and go for a ride with your partner. At the end of your ride have a picnic in the park.
17. If you are away on a business trip, document a day in your life for your partner. For example:
'A Day In The Life Of Mark'
6am: Just woke up and thought of you - Wish you were laying next to me. Well, I better get ready for work.
7am: Am on the train. It's crowded; everyone looks like they are half dead. I miss ya heaps.
8.30am: Have just organized my day, it's going to be a busy one.
9.30am: Am in the middle of a really boring meeting. I am trying to concentrate on this months sales figures but I keep thinking of your beautiful eyes.
6.30pm: Thank goodness the day is over. I am counting the days until we’re together again.
Send your letter to your partner. This is a wonderful way to tell your partner how often you think about her during the day and to share your life with her in a special way.
If you want to submit articles, poems, love stories, love letters, write ups you like to share to us and to the world. Kindly email us at authorsviewpoint@gmail.com We will email you back once it is up on our site with credits and feature you as the author of the month. Continue supporting www.lovelifediaries.blogspot.com Thank You my Loves! ;)
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2. Find a comic strip that relates to something that you and your partner have shared together, for example perhaps you both work in the same office and you find a Dilbert cartoon that relates to the politics at your workplace. Enlarge the cartoon using a photocopier and use white-out to cover the
cartoon text. Type up your own text that relates to you and your partner and paste it in the appropriate places and then photocopy the cartoon again so that it looks like your text was the actual text of the cartoon. For an added touch, get your customized cartoon laminated before giving it to your partner.
3. When you and your partner are enjoying a restful time away, organize to wake up early one morning and go to a scenic spot to watch the sun rise. This may seem difficult but it is something which is definitely worth doing at least once. Seeing a new day being born is something really special to share with your partner.
4. When you have access to a spa, create a romantic atmosphere by placing some candles around the tub and some rose petals floating on the surface of the water.
As your partner enjoys the water, serve champagne and chocolate covered strawberries before joining her.
5. Create some love coupons that your partner can exchange for romantic favors.
For example you could have a coupon that reads
This coupon entitles the bearer to:
One Body Massage.
Use by 07/08/2020
Use a date many years in the future if you want to suggest that you and your partner will always be together.
6. On a warm summers night, organize a backyard picnic. Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.
7. Next time it is raining really heavily, go for a walk with your partner. Forget the umbrellas and the raincoats. Run through the streets together, jump in puddles and get totally saturated. Pick her up, twirl her around and kiss her while the rain falls. Taste the water off her face and hold her close.
When you get back home have a hot shower and then share a warm drink preferably in front of an open fire.
8. Organize a hot air ballooning trip as a special surprise. Most trips begin with a glass of champagne before you float over the countryside with your partner.
9. When your partner is sitting at a table or desk, come up behind him or her and give her a back, shoulder and head massage. Finish with a gentle kiss on the cheek.
10. Place an ad in the paper on a normal day saying something like:
Dear Wendy,
With you by my side, everyday feels like Valentines Day.
Thank you for being you.
Love,
Peter
11. Buy a book that you and your partner are both interested in reading. Read one chapter each night in bed with each of you taking turns to read out loud. This can be a great alternative to television.
12. When your partner is having a shower or bath, take her towel and place it in the dryer to make it really warm and then wrap her up in it when she is done.
13. Photocopy your hand and fax a copy of it to your partner with a message saying, "Do ya wanna hold hands?"
14. Next time you order a pizza, ask to have it cut into a heart shape before it is delivered to your home.
15. Buy a box of chocolates and very carefully open one side of the plastic wrap so that you can gently slide the box out. Open the box and place a love note inside. Then slide the box back into its plastic wrap and reseal it.
16. Rent a tandem bike and go for a ride with your partner. At the end of your ride have a picnic in the park.
17. If you are away on a business trip, document a day in your life for your partner. For example:
'A Day In The Life Of Mark'
6am: Just woke up and thought of you - Wish you were laying next to me. Well, I better get ready for work.
7am: Am on the train. It's crowded; everyone looks like they are half dead. I miss ya heaps.
8.30am: Have just organized my day, it's going to be a busy one.
9.30am: Am in the middle of a really boring meeting. I am trying to concentrate on this months sales figures but I keep thinking of your beautiful eyes.
6.30pm: Thank goodness the day is over. I am counting the days until we’re together again.
Send your letter to your partner. This is a wonderful way to tell your partner how often you think about her during the day and to share your life with her in a special way.
If you want to submit articles, poems, love stories, love letters, write ups you like to share to us and to the world. Kindly email us at authorsviewpoint@gmail.com We will email you back once it is up on our site with credits and feature you as the author of the month. Continue supporting www.lovelifediaries.blogspot.com Thank You my Loves! ;)
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DISCLAIMER:Some of the photos, links, articles are not owned by the site, and/ or not being stored by the site.Comments are views expressed by the readers. www.lovelifediaries.blogspot.com may not be held liable for the views of readers exercising their right of freedom to express.If you think we should remove those aforementioned elements due to copyright infrequent, feel free to tell us, and we will comply.
HOW TO MAKE YOUR WIFE HAPPIER IN 26 ROMANTIC WAYS
1. When your spouse has had a really long hard day, run a hot bath for her. Pour some fragrant bath oil into the tub and gently bathe her from head to toe. Carry her into the bedroom. Gently towel her dry and tuck her into a freshly made bed with a kiss on the forehead.
2. For this idea you will need a portable CD player. If you and your partner have a favorite song, get a copy of it on CD and take it with you when you go away for a romantic weekend. When you are in a romantic spot, ask your partner if she would like to dance. Place one earpiece in her ear and one in your own and enjoy your private dance floor.
This technique is particularly effective if the romantic spot you have chosen is somewhere where people would not normally dance, for example, the top of the Empire State building at sunset or on top of a mountain during a camping trip.
3. If your partner has a pet that she adores, at Christmas, in addition to buying a gift for your partner, buy a small present for her pet.
4. Go for a walk on the beach. Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.
5. Invite your partner to go for a walk. Get a back pack and pack the following items: A picnic blanket, a selection of fruit in small containers eg. strawberries, grapes, watermelon and kiwi fruit. Some cheese and crackers. Some sandwiches. A small tin of caviar. A half bottle of champagne and two plastic champagne glasses. If your partner asks what's in the backpack, just say a jacket and some lunch.
When you find a romantic spot, ask if she would like to stop for a bite to eat. Open your pack and remove the items one by one to set up your picnic. The last item you remove should be the glasses and champagne.
6. If you play a musical instrument, create a romantic environment in which to play for your partner. For example, let's say you play the saxophone. Contact your partner's roommate and arrange for her to make sure that your partner steps out onto the balcony of their apartment at exactly 9.30pm.
Drive to her apartment and set up before hand. Place a large sparkler in the music holder of your sax and light it as your partner steps on to the balcony. Play something slow and romantic.
7. Use this idea if your partner is going to work and you are staying at home for some reason (Perhaps you are sick or are working from home). Say goodbye to her at the front door and then immediately send an email to her work address. The email should simply say,"Miss you already".
The email will be in her in-box when she does her morning email check.
8. If your partner has long hair, take the time to brush it using long slow strokes. This is particularly effective after she has had a shower or when she is getting ready for bed.
9. On a special occasion like your partner's birthday, plan a treasure hunt for her. The fun begins when you suggest going for a walk on the beach. When you get to the beach, carry a small bag with you. The bag contains a bottle that you prepared earlier. Inside the bottle is a treasure map. To make
the treasure map look authentic, burn the edges with a match. As you are walking, slip the bottle out of your bag and let it drop to the sand near the water's edge. You may have to pause and kiss your partner to do this unnoticed. Walk a little further up the beach then turn around and retrace your steps to 'discover' the bottle. On the map have a dotted line leading from the beach to a nearby cafe. At
the cafe, your partner won't know what to look for so suggest that you just sit down and have a cup of coffee.
When the waitress delivers the coffee, she suggests to your partner that she might find what she is looking for under the coaster. When your partner turns over the coaster she finds a key taped to the bottom. Obviously you will have to set this up before hand with the waitress. Most waitresses will be happy to help a romantic guy out with this type of thing.
At the next stop on the map, your partner finds or is given a spade. Then at the last stop on the map your partner finds a large 'X' made up of two crossed sticks. She digs and discovers a locked box. The key unlocks the box to reveal her present.
10. Invite your partner on a date by sending her a plain brown envelope containing a tape. On the tape, record the Mission Impossible sound track and then record yourself saying, “Your mission if you choose to accept it is to make your way to Café Venoli, 123 Park Lane at 18.30 Eastern Standard
Time. There you will rendezvous with a stunningly attractive man wearing a red carnation. The future of the free world is now in your hands. This tape will self destruct in five seconds.” Then record ten beeps from a stopwatch and record yourself saying, “Would you believe ten seconds…” Its corny but it usually gets a laugh!
11. Contact your partner's family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted.
12. Organize a professional photo shoot to obtain a portrait of the two of you as a couple. Frame the picture and put it somewhere prominent. Remember to make sure you give your partner plenty of notice so that she can get ready.
13. Write a note saying "I thought of you today, and it made me smile." Leave the note somewhere where your partner is sure to find it.
14. For Valentines Day, buy your partner a charm bracelet with at least 14 charms.
Remove all the charms and let your partner 'find' one charm each day for the first fourteen days of February. On Valentines Day give her the bracelet and any remaining charms.
15. When you and your partner are in a shopping center or airport, stop at one of those booths that allow you to take an instant photo and print them out as stickers.
Choose a romantic background and kiss your partner while the photo is being taken.
16. If your partner has voice mail at work or on her mobile, leave a message saying "Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you." She will appreciate this anytime but especially when she is going through a rough period.
17. Organize a mystery trip for you and your partner. Some travel agents will organize mystery packages where the destination of the trip is kept secret until you are actually on the plane or arrive at the destination.
18. Buy some rose petals and place them behind the sun visor on the passenger side of your car. Take a post it note and write, "I Love You" on it and stick it to the back of the sun visor.
As you are driving to a romantic destination, look at your partner and tell her she has a mark on her cheek. She will pull down the sun visor to use the mirror and be showered in rose petals and see your note.
19. If your partner is going on a trip, pack a small present into the corner of her suitcase that she will find when she is away.
20. When you and your partner are having an anniversary, buy two champagne glasses and get them engraved with your names and the date, for example:
Kiel and Katherine
7 May 2002
Go to the restaurant where you have made your reservations and request that when you and your partner arrive that your champagne be served in your special glasses. This will be a great surprise for your partner and a wonderful keepsake for you both.
21. On a special occasion such as your partner's birthday, buy twenty-four red roses. Arrange to meet her at a specific spot in a shopping mall before going out for dinner. Get to the shopping mall early and position yourself around the corner from your meeting spot.
Ask a guy who is walking by whether he would mind helping you out. Give him a rose, point out your partner and ask him to walk up to her and say, "Happy Birthday Meagan" and give her the rose and then walk away. Repeat this with eleven other guys. Choose guys who are not too good looking and choose guys of different ages. A nice touch is to have the last rose delivered by a small child who could even by accompanied by his parents. After the first twelve flowers have been delivered, approach your partner with the twelve remaining roses.
22. Always listen for things that your partner reminisces about and jot them down somewhere. For example, perhaps she talks about the ice cream that she had from a particular shop when she was a little girl. When a special occasion comes along, check your list of things that your partner talks about and try to recreate one of them, for example, visit the shop and buy a tub of ice cream making sure that the name of the shop is on the container.
23. Create a love montage by collecting some photographs of you and your partner, some ticket stubs of places you have visited and any other small odds and ends that have special meaning to you both.
Take these items and get them professionally framed in a three dimensional montage. Alternatively, buy a frame and create a simple montage yourself.
24. Buy an ornately carved wooden box which is lined with green or red felt. Find an old fashioned key and place it in the box. Next, get a small gold plaque and have it engraved with the words
The Key To My Heart Fix the plaque to the inside of the top of the box so that it can be read when
the box is opened.
25. Buy a tree with your partner and plant it in a special spot. Each year on your anniversary, have a glass of champagne next to your tree and talk about how your love and the tree have grown.
26. If you shower first in the morning. Steam up the bathroom and write a
message such as "Pete Loves Kathy" on the mirror for your partner to read
when she uses the bathroom. This also works on car windows when it's cold.
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CHOOSE WHAT WILL BE THE BEST IDEA TO MAKE YOUR GIRLFRIEND HAPPY
A. If your partner has to work late, take a lunch box and fill it with some of her favorite things such as chocolates, herbal tea, cookies, a small teddy bear. Next, get a piece of paper and write
"Michelle's Late Night Survival Pack" Draw a big red cross below this and stick the paper to the top of the box. Tell your partner to open the box when things get really tough.
B. If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from her childhood.
C. Leave a long stem rose where your partner will find it with a note on it saying: "Thank you for coming into my life."
D. If your partner is starting a new job, buy a copy of "The Sound Of Music" sound track. Tape the song, "I Have Confidence" onto a tape and add your own message at the end of the song saying,
"Good Luck honey, I have confidence in you." Give the tape to your partner to play on the way to work in the car.
E. Buy a small decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue paper.
Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card:
I know a great Masseur.
For an appointment ring:
(Your Phone Number)
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"Michelle's Late Night Survival Pack" Draw a big red cross below this and stick the paper to the top of the box. Tell your partner to open the box when things get really tough.
B. If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from her childhood.
C. Leave a long stem rose where your partner will find it with a note on it saying: "Thank you for coming into my life."
D. If your partner is starting a new job, buy a copy of "The Sound Of Music" sound track. Tape the song, "I Have Confidence" onto a tape and add your own message at the end of the song saying,
"Good Luck honey, I have confidence in you." Give the tape to your partner to play on the way to work in the car.
E. Buy a small decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue paper.
Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card:
I know a great Masseur.
For an appointment ring:
(Your Phone Number)
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HOW TO MAKE YOUR GIRLFRIEND HAPPY BY BEING POETIC
Memorize one of Shakespeare's love sonnets and recite it to your partner when you are in a romantic setting like a botanical garden. Don't just suddenly start reciting poetry as this will just sound corny.
While you are cuddling your partner, ask in a joking manner, "So is now a good time to recite a love poem to you?" She will probably say yes, expecting you to come up with something of the "Roses are Red..." variety.
Instead, look into her eyes, smile and recite the sonnet while you gently stroke her face. Try the sonnet below. If this is too long, just memorize the first four lines and the last two.
Shakespeare Love Sonnet 18
Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate.
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,
And summer's lease hath all too short a date.
Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,
And often is his gold complexion dimmed,
And every fair from fair sometime declines,
By chance or nature's changing course untrimmed.
But thy eternal summer shall not fade,
Nor lose possession of that fair thou owest,
Nor shall Death brag thou wander'st in his shade
When in eternal lines to time thou grow'st.
So long as men can breathe, or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this gives life to thee.
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While you are cuddling your partner, ask in a joking manner, "So is now a good time to recite a love poem to you?" She will probably say yes, expecting you to come up with something of the "Roses are Red..." variety.
Instead, look into her eyes, smile and recite the sonnet while you gently stroke her face. Try the sonnet below. If this is too long, just memorize the first four lines and the last two.
Shakespeare Love Sonnet 18
Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate.
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,
And summer's lease hath all too short a date.
Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,
And often is his gold complexion dimmed,
And every fair from fair sometime declines,
By chance or nature's changing course untrimmed.
But thy eternal summer shall not fade,
Nor lose possession of that fair thou owest,
Nor shall Death brag thou wander'st in his shade
When in eternal lines to time thou grow'st.
So long as men can breathe, or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this gives life to thee.
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TOP 10 IDEAS TO WOO YOUR GIRLFRIEND
IDEA # 1
If your partner is going away for a few days, tell her that you are worried about her so you have organized a bodyguard to look after her. Then give her a small teddy bear.
IDEA # 2
Buy a packet of glow in the dark stars and stick the stars on the roof above your bed to spell out a message such as "I Love You" When the lights go down, your message will be revealed!
IDEA # 3
On a special occasion, buy your partner eleven real red roses and one artificial red rose. Place the artificial rose in the center of the bouquet. Attach a card that says: “I will love you until the last rose fades.”
IDEA # 4
Buy the domain name of your partner's name if it is available for example www.TanyaJohnston.com. Create a web page containing a romantic poem and a picture of a rose. When your partner is surfing the web, casually ask whether she has ever checked to see whether her domain name is taken. Let
her type it in to discover her page.
IDEA # 5
Buy a stylish hand mirror and give it to your partner as a gift. Include a card in the box saying
“In this mirror you will see the image of the most beautiful woman in the world.”
IDEA # 6
Take a book that your partner is reading and using a pencil, underline letters in a section of the book she has yet to read to spell out a love letter. For example in the following exert from a novel, the underlined letters come together to spell out the secret message "I love you" The palace was a labyrinth, their passage through it tortuous and interminable. Initially they passed from building to building under the sodden sky. Steve's feet ached; he might have laughed at himself, the tireless
traveler, grown too soft from his months in the city to walk any proper distance. Abruptly the guards halted. The underlined letters will make your partner curious and with a bit of luck she will write them down. Spend time to encode a proper message such as "Dear Belinda, I love you honey"
IDEA # 7
Have flowers delivered to your partner's workplace. She will not only enjoy the flowers but will also receive comments and attention from her office mates which will add to her enjoyment.
IDEA # 8
While walking with your partner on a weekend getaway, pick up a smoothstone and say that you're going to keep it as a special memento of your trip. Later, have a message such as "I Love Rebecca"
engraved into the stone by a jeweler and give it to your partner.
IDEA # 9
Drive into the country, find a grassy hill and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds.
Play the kid’s game of looking for shapes in the cloud formations.
IDEA # 10
Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write "I Love You" inside a heart.
Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a
formal address label of your partner's work such as:
For the immediate and urgent attention of:
Charlaise Collins
Level 16
Bella & Eduard Solicitors
New York
Mail it to your partner so she receives it in the middle of a busy day.
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If your partner is going away for a few days, tell her that you are worried about her so you have organized a bodyguard to look after her. Then give her a small teddy bear.
IDEA # 2
Buy a packet of glow in the dark stars and stick the stars on the roof above your bed to spell out a message such as "I Love You" When the lights go down, your message will be revealed!
IDEA # 3
On a special occasion, buy your partner eleven real red roses and one artificial red rose. Place the artificial rose in the center of the bouquet. Attach a card that says: “I will love you until the last rose fades.”
IDEA # 4
Buy the domain name of your partner's name if it is available for example www.TanyaJohnston.com. Create a web page containing a romantic poem and a picture of a rose. When your partner is surfing the web, casually ask whether she has ever checked to see whether her domain name is taken. Let
her type it in to discover her page.
IDEA # 5
Buy a stylish hand mirror and give it to your partner as a gift. Include a card in the box saying
“In this mirror you will see the image of the most beautiful woman in the world.”
IDEA # 6
Take a book that your partner is reading and using a pencil, underline letters in a section of the book she has yet to read to spell out a love letter. For example in the following exert from a novel, the underlined letters come together to spell out the secret message "I love you" The palace was a labyrinth, their passage through it tortuous and interminable. Initially they passed from building to building under the sodden sky. Steve's feet ached; he might have laughed at himself, the tireless
traveler, grown too soft from his months in the city to walk any proper distance. Abruptly the guards halted. The underlined letters will make your partner curious and with a bit of luck she will write them down. Spend time to encode a proper message such as "Dear Belinda, I love you honey"
IDEA # 7
Have flowers delivered to your partner's workplace. She will not only enjoy the flowers but will also receive comments and attention from her office mates which will add to her enjoyment.
IDEA # 8
While walking with your partner on a weekend getaway, pick up a smoothstone and say that you're going to keep it as a special memento of your trip. Later, have a message such as "I Love Rebecca"
engraved into the stone by a jeweler and give it to your partner.
IDEA # 9
Drive into the country, find a grassy hill and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds.
Play the kid’s game of looking for shapes in the cloud formations.
IDEA # 10
Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write "I Love You" inside a heart.
Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a
formal address label of your partner's work such as:
For the immediate and urgent attention of:
Charlaise Collins
Level 16
Bella & Eduard Solicitors
New York
Mail it to your partner so she receives it in the middle of a busy day.
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WHAT ARE THE DO'S AND DONT'S IN RELATIONSHIP
n Don’t buy roses for Valentine’s Day—
o Do buy flowers that begin with the first letter of her name.
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n Don’t go to the beach on crowded weekends—
o Do go mid-week.
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n Don’t go to popular vacation spots during their busy seasons—
o Do go right before or after the busy season.
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n Don’t turn yourself into a martyr—
o Do make some sacrifices for each other
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n Don’t read the newspaper at the breakfast table—
o Do talk with one another over breakfast.
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n Don’t give him a birthday present—
o Do give him seven gifts, one for each day of his birthday week.
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n Don’t leave lovemaking until just before sleeping—
o Do schedule more time for foreplay.
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n Don’t make love the same way every time—
o Do eliminate distractions for two to three hours.
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• Don’t rush through lovemaking—
• Do slow down! You’ll both enjoy yourselves, and each other, more.
• • •
• Don’t: Negotiate—as if your relationship were a business deal—
• Do: Learn the gentle art of loving compromise.
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• Don’t try to change your partner—
• Do accept him or her for the special, unique person he or she is.
• • •
• Don’t act your age—
• Do wacky things; express your quirkiness;
be creative.
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WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP STYLE FOR WOMEN
Okay ladies, it’s your turn. What’s your romantic style? (Guys: What is your gal’s romantic style?)
• The Scarlett O’Hara Type: Feisty and dramatic
• The Meg Ryan Type: The girl next door, sweet and adorable
• The Juliet Type: Passionate and impetuous
• The Jane Eyre Type: Romantic and idealistic
• The Marilyn Monroe Type: Sultry and seductive
• The Billie Holiday Type: Artistic and loyal to a fault
• The Jane Seymour Type: Classic and elegant
• The Elizabeth Barrett Browning Type: Poetic and artistic
• The Cher Type: Exotic and creative
• The Mae West Type: Sassy and bold
• The Ingrid Bergman Type: Smooth and intriguing
• The Madonna Type: Bold and fun
• The Greta Garbo Type: Sensual and enigmatic
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• The Scarlett O’Hara Type: Feisty and dramatic
• The Meg Ryan Type: The girl next door, sweet and adorable
• The Juliet Type: Passionate and impetuous
• The Jane Eyre Type: Romantic and idealistic
• The Marilyn Monroe Type: Sultry and seductive
• The Billie Holiday Type: Artistic and loyal to a fault
• The Jane Seymour Type: Classic and elegant
• The Elizabeth Barrett Browning Type: Poetic and artistic
• The Cher Type: Exotic and creative
• The Mae West Type: Sassy and bold
• The Ingrid Bergman Type: Smooth and intriguing
• The Madonna Type: Bold and fun
• The Greta Garbo Type: Sensual and enigmatic
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