It’s not just a song. We all need a little help from our friends. If not now, tomorrow. Or the day after. Or the year after. Some people never realize it until it’s too late. They invest in stocks,
bonds, or real estate thinking money is going to give them the security and happiness they seek. Sadly, they neglect the most important investment of their lives—time spent finding, making,
and nurturing true friendships and true lasting love relationships.
Sometimes we are a nation of blockheads so blinded by sex, that we don’t see the true love for the birds and the bees. (Not that there’s anything wrong with the birds and the bees—we’re going
to talk about those captivating little critters. But with no myths, no false magic.) We’re going to get real about love and sex. Because all too often the lovebird sings sweet lies, and the bee stings too
hard. We’re also going to talk about friendship because, as we mature, same-sex and other-sex nonsexual friends take on an increasingly important role in our lives.
Here are some of the types of relationships we’re going to explore in How to Be a People Magnet.
Platonic Friendships
There’s No Such Thing! (Or Is There?)
Showing posts with label Finding Love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Finding Love. Show all posts
THE LOSS OF INNOCENCE AND THE MASTERY OF LOVE
HUMANS BY NATURE ARE VERY SENSITIVE BEINGS. We are so emotional because we perceive everything with the emotional body. The emotional body is like a radio that can be tuned to
perceive certain frequencies or to react to certain frequencies. The normal frequency of humans before domestication is to explore and to enjoy life; we are tuned to love. As children, we don't have
any definition of love as an abstract concept; we just live love. It's the way we are.
The emotional body has a component like an alarm system to let us know when something is wrong. It is the same with the physical body; it has an alarm system to let us know something is wrong with our body. We call this pain. When we feel pain it is because there is something wrong with the body that we have to look at and fix. The alarm system for the emotional body is fear.
When we feel fear, it's because there is something wrong. Perhaps we are in danger of losing our life.
The emotional body perceives emotions, but not through the eyes. We perceive emotions through our emotional body. Children just feel emotions and their reasoning mind doesn't interpret or question them. This is why children accept certain people and reject other people. When they don't feel confident around someone, they reject that person because they can feel the emotions that person is projecting. Children can easily perceive when someone is angry and their alarm system generates a little fear that says, "Stay away." And they follow their instinct - they stay away.
perceive certain frequencies or to react to certain frequencies. The normal frequency of humans before domestication is to explore and to enjoy life; we are tuned to love. As children, we don't have
any definition of love as an abstract concept; we just live love. It's the way we are.
The emotional body has a component like an alarm system to let us know when something is wrong. It is the same with the physical body; it has an alarm system to let us know something is wrong with our body. We call this pain. When we feel pain it is because there is something wrong with the body that we have to look at and fix. The alarm system for the emotional body is fear.
When we feel fear, it's because there is something wrong. Perhaps we are in danger of losing our life.
The emotional body perceives emotions, but not through the eyes. We perceive emotions through our emotional body. Children just feel emotions and their reasoning mind doesn't interpret or question them. This is why children accept certain people and reject other people. When they don't feel confident around someone, they reject that person because they can feel the emotions that person is projecting. Children can easily perceive when someone is angry and their alarm system generates a little fear that says, "Stay away." And they follow their instinct - they stay away.
HOW CAN YOU NOSE KNOW LOVE AND ATTRACTION
The Nose Knows: The Importance of Smell in Attraction and Love
Are you attracted to your opposite? Turn to your nose to find out! Many things determine whether you’ll be romantically attracted to another person: physical features, their personality, compatible
attitudes and values, maybe their smile—and their smell. Their smell? Yes, that’s right. Surprisingly, research shows that people are literally drawn to their mates by their nose alone.
Smell motivates many of our decisions without us realizing it. Your sense of smell is so powerful that certain aromas can vividly pull up even the most remote memories. The same applies to a person’s natural body scent. If a person’s scent triggers positive memories and emotions, you’ll feel excitement and attraction. But if his or her scent reminds you of negative or unpleasant memories,
you are less likely to be attracted to that person, and their smell could push you away! If this is the case, your nose may also be trying to tell you that this person is your opposite, so listen up!
There are even dating websites. Researchers from these sites say that women prefer men who smell different from themselves, and vice versa. You can mail in a sample swabbed from the inside of
your cheek, and the company will give you a list of potential dates with similar hobbies—but with different body scents from your own.
Are you attracted to your opposite? Turn to your nose to find out! Many things determine whether you’ll be romantically attracted to another person: physical features, their personality, compatible
attitudes and values, maybe their smile—and their smell. Their smell? Yes, that’s right. Surprisingly, research shows that people are literally drawn to their mates by their nose alone.
Smell motivates many of our decisions without us realizing it. Your sense of smell is so powerful that certain aromas can vividly pull up even the most remote memories. The same applies to a person’s natural body scent. If a person’s scent triggers positive memories and emotions, you’ll feel excitement and attraction. But if his or her scent reminds you of negative or unpleasant memories,
you are less likely to be attracted to that person, and their smell could push you away! If this is the case, your nose may also be trying to tell you that this person is your opposite, so listen up!
There are even dating websites. Researchers from these sites say that women prefer men who smell different from themselves, and vice versa. You can mail in a sample swabbed from the inside of
your cheek, and the company will give you a list of potential dates with similar hobbies—but with different body scents from your own.
TIPS ON EARLY YEARS OF MARRIAGE
With all of these benefits, it’s no wonder that researchers like myself are compelled to discover the secrets to a happy relationship and true love. When my NIH research study started, it focused on identifying what keeps marriages together, healthy, and happy—and what breaks marriages
apart.
When the project first received funding from the National Institutes of Health, the goal was to follow a diverse group of married couples for only four years, which is why the project is officially named “The Early Years of Marriage” (EYM) Study. But after catching a glimpse of how powerful the findings were, we decided to follow the couples indefinitely: from the early days of marriage, through separations and divorces, on to new marriages or partnerships, and through the twilight years.
Today, we survey and study all 746 individuals from the original study, even if they are no longer married to each other. The study started in 1986 with 373 heterosexual married couples from an anonymous county in the Midwest. To find a study group that was truly representative of everyone who was getting married at the time, we turned to the local county’s marriage licenses. Working with
the county clerk’s office, we obtained names and contact information for all black and white American couples who applied for a marriage license within a three-month period of time.
apart.
When the project first received funding from the National Institutes of Health, the goal was to follow a diverse group of married couples for only four years, which is why the project is officially named “The Early Years of Marriage” (EYM) Study. But after catching a glimpse of how powerful the findings were, we decided to follow the couples indefinitely: from the early days of marriage, through separations and divorces, on to new marriages or partnerships, and through the twilight years.
Today, we survey and study all 746 individuals from the original study, even if they are no longer married to each other. The study started in 1986 with 373 heterosexual married couples from an anonymous county in the Midwest. To find a study group that was truly representative of everyone who was getting married at the time, we turned to the local county’s marriage licenses. Working with
the county clerk’s office, we obtained names and contact information for all black and white American couples who applied for a marriage license within a three-month period of time.
HOW IS LOVE THE SECOND TIME AROUND
What kinds of issues do people in my study deal with when it comes to finding love again? The same issues as you do: a fear of rejection, feeling frozen about jumping back into the dating scene, feeling shy, hopeless, and even unlovable—and countless dating disasters. They have enormous feelings of grief and loss for the relationship that’s ended. They feel disappointed and rejected. Often, they feel angry. But beyond these initial emotions, men and women in my study also grapple with issues once they are ready to date:
What should I say on a first date?
Where can I find quality people to date?
How do I know if what I’m feeling is real?
They worry about how and where to meet someone new.
What should I say on a first date?
Where can I find quality people to date?
How do I know if what I’m feeling is real?
They worry about how and where to meet someone new.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOUR BOYFRIEND IS CHEATING ON YOU?
Girls, are you having problem with your boyfriend?
Are you thinking that maybe he is cheating on you?
We come up on a list on how to know if your boyfriend is cheating on you.
Here are the top 17 signs that he is cheating on you:
1. He no longer sweet to you
2. He hide or take away his cellphone beyond your reach
3. When someone calls to him, he goes away, always smiling and is sweet talking on phone conversation.
4. He change his passcodes or password on his logins.
5. He wants to end the night or your daily talks earlier than usual.
Are you thinking that maybe he is cheating on you?
We come up on a list on how to know if your boyfriend is cheating on you.
Here are the top 17 signs that he is cheating on you:
1. He no longer sweet to you
2. He hide or take away his cellphone beyond your reach
3. When someone calls to him, he goes away, always smiling and is sweet talking on phone conversation.
4. He change his passcodes or password on his logins.
5. He wants to end the night or your daily talks earlier than usual.
ARE YOU ROMANTIC?
Curiosity and Mystery
One of the essences of romance is the concept of mystery. Do you think the great Italian lovers ever charted out the evening of lovemaking? One of the greatest thrills of a person’s life is not knowing whether the person he is attracted to likes him or not. The anticipation of what might be makes the heart palpitate. It is the predictable men in this world who make good accountants but not great romantics. Also, women tend to be
drawn to the untamable male. Often, the more a man tends to be spontaneous, uncontrollable, and strong, the more the woman yearns for his attention. Also, a man who has a sense of mystery about him is very
sexy -- much like the modern day movie heroes Maverick (Tom Cruise) in Top Gun and Riggs (Mel Gibson) in Lethal Weapon. They were unpredictable, courageous, and mysterious. Most women would love to
be swept off their feet by a charming confident James Bond-agent 007. It is from the spirit of these great lovers and heroes that we derive a conceptual formula for what makes a man romantic. These rules apply to
both men and women.
One of the essences of romance is the concept of mystery. Do you think the great Italian lovers ever charted out the evening of lovemaking? One of the greatest thrills of a person’s life is not knowing whether the person he is attracted to likes him or not. The anticipation of what might be makes the heart palpitate. It is the predictable men in this world who make good accountants but not great romantics. Also, women tend to be
drawn to the untamable male. Often, the more a man tends to be spontaneous, uncontrollable, and strong, the more the woman yearns for his attention. Also, a man who has a sense of mystery about him is very
sexy -- much like the modern day movie heroes Maverick (Tom Cruise) in Top Gun and Riggs (Mel Gibson) in Lethal Weapon. They were unpredictable, courageous, and mysterious. Most women would love to
be swept off their feet by a charming confident James Bond-agent 007. It is from the spirit of these great lovers and heroes that we derive a conceptual formula for what makes a man romantic. These rules apply to
both men and women.
TOP SECRET ON MAKING LOVE HAPPEN
Your Secret Weapon: Handwriting
If you had a secret weapon that allowed you to see inside the enemy’s headquarters to see all their files, documents, and war plans, would your chances for winning be improved? Absolutely. We aren’t at war, but we do have a secret weapon to win over the heart of the one you want. It is the science of handwriting analysis.
If you were ever curious why handwriting reveals so much about a person, just ask a baby. Did you ever wonder how a baby knows to smile when she is happy or pout when she is sad? A baby knows how to smile naturally, just like crying is a natural reaction to being uncomfortable.
She is born with that instinct. If you think about the essence of a smile, a cry, or a pout, you realize these are simply neurological reactions to a specific emotion. Across all cultures, a baby’s smile signifies the same
thing. Therefore, the link between a person’s psychological state of mind and his muscular reactions exists beyond any doubt. Over centuries, muscular reactions to emotions have been categorized and become more
specific. From the smile to the very useful skill of reading a person’s body language, man has improved on learning about the mind from the body. Handwriting is a definite expression of muscular motions that was
often overlooked as a tool for understanding personality. But, when you think about it, you realize handwriting contains the same minute specific muscle contractions and expansions as a baby’s smile. So, with the help of research scientists, handwriting reveals to us much more than the feelings of happiness or sadness.
If you had a secret weapon that allowed you to see inside the enemy’s headquarters to see all their files, documents, and war plans, would your chances for winning be improved? Absolutely. We aren’t at war, but we do have a secret weapon to win over the heart of the one you want. It is the science of handwriting analysis.
If you were ever curious why handwriting reveals so much about a person, just ask a baby. Did you ever wonder how a baby knows to smile when she is happy or pout when she is sad? A baby knows how to smile naturally, just like crying is a natural reaction to being uncomfortable.
She is born with that instinct. If you think about the essence of a smile, a cry, or a pout, you realize these are simply neurological reactions to a specific emotion. Across all cultures, a baby’s smile signifies the same
thing. Therefore, the link between a person’s psychological state of mind and his muscular reactions exists beyond any doubt. Over centuries, muscular reactions to emotions have been categorized and become more
specific. From the smile to the very useful skill of reading a person’s body language, man has improved on learning about the mind from the body. Handwriting is a definite expression of muscular motions that was
often overlooked as a tool for understanding personality. But, when you think about it, you realize handwriting contains the same minute specific muscle contractions and expansions as a baby’s smile. So, with the help of research scientists, handwriting reveals to us much more than the feelings of happiness or sadness.
HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT PARTNER?
Finding the perfect mate can be a long and confusing process. In fact, it can drive you crazy. I used to be confused as to what opening line I should use, or how I could convert a new friendship into a romance. I
used to be apprehensive around the opposite sex. I used to say, "I just don’t understand." I used to believe fate was my only ally in finding the right romance. But I don’t think that way anymore. Things have changed.
Purpose
The purpose of this is to take the frustration out of meeting and selecting people to date and improve all your current relationships. It will also help you make better choices and be more effective at accomplishing
your relationship goals. Whether you’re looking to settle down with Mr. or Mrs. Right, or you think it would be exciting to know that anytime, anywhere, you could walk right up to an attractive person, develop
rapport, create chemistry, and if you choose, get a date. If you apply what you learn in this book, you can do just that. I can. My friends and clients who use the skills outlined in this book can do it –anytime, anyplace, regardless of circumstances. I have met and started relationships in elevators, parking lots, movies, and grocery stores and even had women give me their phone numbers...in front of my own date!
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