WHY MEN CHEATS?

I really cannot fathom why as well.

Let me share you my personal story. I used to be in a relationship which lasted 10 years. That was my first relationship.

First Month
For the first month it was good, getting to know each other well and doesn't expect anything in return. I was practically in a good mood I guess.

Second Month
When it comes down to our second month, I told my partner that if there will be a chance that he will like someone else in the future, he should be truthful and tell me about it and I will gladly set him free. For the least all I want is a relationship with respect regardless of any reason we depart. I really aim for that. It is a small world after all, do not want anything grudges or bad vibes hanging in any corners of my horizon.

Fifth Month
Allow me to fast forward. We had our first fight. I suspected that he was messaging his exes behind my back, and I was perfectly right about it all along. I saw his phone by accident while he was sending a message and twas flooded with all the messages when we had our good nights after a long day. All along, I thought everything was okay about us. That was all I thought. My Bad. I confronted him, and asked him if he still has feelings for them.

HOW TO DISCOVER YOUR STYLE?

Discovering Your Attachment Style

If you have not already done so, review the four styles of attachment and decide which one you most resemble. But remember, you are unlikely to fit any one style to a T. So pay attention to how your personal attachment style incorporates some of the characteristics of the other styles. For instance, are you basically secure but with a tendency toward doubting your self-worth (being preoccupied)? Also keep in mind that although you have a particular, characteristic style, it will likely vary a bit with different relationships.

WHAT ARE YOUR FEARS IN LOVE?

Fearful Attachment: Conflicted in Love

This conflict between an intense fear of rejection and a desperate need for reassurance and closeness is typical of people with a fearful attachment style. When they are not totally avoiding relationships,
they end up behaving in contradictory and confusing ways. Prone to seeing partners as emotionally distant, they sometimes try desperately to get their partners’ approval and attention by using hyperactivating strategies such as exaggerating their distress. However, when they perceive
their partners as getting close, they feel vulnerable to getting hurt. So they instinctively look to protect themselves from their partner, turning to deactivating strategies to avoid intimacy.